If your parents separated when you were young (toddler-ish age). How do you feel about it now?

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Hi,

My ex and I are currently going though a seperation. Unfortunately he struggles to set boundaries and allowed his toxic and controlling family to dominate the majority of our marriage. He did briefly put his foot down but as an only son struggled to shift the guilt.

He also struggled a lot financially annd has a lot of debt and when I got tired of helping him he went back to them for their ‘comfort’ despite their abusive behaviour.

Our daughter is 22 months old and I worry that this will have a lasting impact on her. I worry she’ll always feel different compared to her peers and she’ll always feel as though she doesn’t have a proper loving home where both her parents love each other.

If your parents separated whilst you were young, how do you feel about it now? How did it impact you and how did you feel at the time?

@Sal820 I understand that, there is more to it than those examples but I can’t explain everything in detail as it would be very outing. Its professional people that have classed that environment as abusive whilst I was pregnant and I was told that I need to leave the house otherwise they’d need to do a referral themselves

No, never. Even when I was small I recognised it would have been miserable all round.

This is in response to the OP asking if I'd ever wished they were together - not sure where the quote went.

Same. Only downside was one parent was awful to the other but that could happen if together or not. So definitely separate but be amicable