Son getting slapped by girls

BoyMum1114 · 2025-10-15T20:44:30+00:00

He’s 6 and has been complaining the other girls in the class are slapping his bottom. I did find it cute to be honest and in private I did just laugh to DH , but I’m starting to wonder if it’s getting beyond “cute” now. He came home upset again today and told me this other girl slapped his bottom, I spoke to him about telling the girls to stop and no one should be slapping him on his private parts. He told me he did and he also told the teacher but she didn’t tell the girl off. I told him maybe she had a quiet word later with her. I’m a bit lost on how to deal, the girl is only 6! and I know it’s playful but what should I say to my son? We have parents evening this week and should I approach it with the teacher or will I sound crazy? I thought it was just playful but it seems to be upsetting him. He is a very sensitive child already so he does take things to heart. I think it was also that the girls were laughing and I think he’s got upset about this.

AlloaintheMiddle · 15/10/2025 21:46

Sorry but how is this cute?

Another child is inappropriately touching your son, nothing cute about it, talk to the teacher tomorrow.

Wherethewildthings · 15/10/2025 21:46

Of course you need to follow this up! And it needs to be tomorrow, not next week. Would you be so casual if boys were regularly hitting him? Protect your child.

FuzzyWolf · 15/10/2025 21:48

It was never cute. You should have stopped this the first time it happened.

PollyBell · 15/10/2025 21:49

Cute? Really?

Original poster

BoyMum1114 · 15/10/2025 21:50

I have told him to tell teacher and he did tell her today but yes I need to speak to her too myself. What should I actually say? Just tell her what he’s told me? I feel they think I make a nuisance all the time. I’ve had meetings about other things

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notacooldad · 15/10/2025 21:51

Im asking the same as others? What made you think it was 'cute'
How can it be playful if its upsetting him

I know you said the girl is six but this needs to be stopped dead in the tracks.

Sunshineismyfavourite · 15/10/2025 21:51

Cute to think he is liked by other children? Not cute for any child to be smacked on the bottom by anyone. If it was a boy doing it to a girl I think it would be very different. Make an appointment and speak to the teacher properly about it or email them. Poor little thing - they sound like mean girls!

Wherethewildthings · 15/10/2025 21:52

BoyMum1114 · 15/10/2025 21:50

I have told him to tell teacher and he did tell her today but yes I need to speak to her too myself. What should I actually say? Just tell her what he’s told me? I feel they think I make a nuisance all the time. I’ve had meetings about other things

"Barney has told me that girls are slapping his bottom. He has asked them to stop and they haven't. Please can you speak to them and make sure it doesn't happen again as it's upsetting him and is inappropriate". There.

Sunshineismyfavourite · 15/10/2025 21:52

BoyMum1114 · 15/10/2025 21:50

I have told him to tell teacher and he did tell her today but yes I need to speak to her too myself. What should I actually say? Just tell her what he’s told me? I feel they think I make a nuisance all the time. I’ve had meetings about other things

Be factual and unemotional.

They are smacking him on his bottom, he has told them to stop and they haven't. Please can you intervene as he is getting upset. I want it to stop.

Wadadli · 15/10/2025 21:53

Speak to his teacher - he’s being bullied. If she puts it down to high jinks on the girls’ part, escalate it to the head teacher with a formal complaint.

At 15 a girl at school threw water over my stepson. He told her to stop and she did it again. When he told a teacher, she fobbed him off and did nothing. I was raging and was all for complaining formally but my stepson said to leave it. Thereafter he avoided her like the plague

WellYouWereMythTaken · 15/10/2025 21:56

Why did you think this was cute? Your child is being hit/touched in a way he does not like and he wants it to stop. He’s told you this because he wants you to help him deal with it.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 15/10/2025 21:58

BoyMum1114 · 15/10/2025 21:50

I have told him to tell teacher and he did tell her today but yes I need to speak to her too myself. What should I actually say? Just tell her what he’s told me? I feel they think I make a nuisance all the time. I’ve had meetings about other things

"As you are aware my son is being hit and inappropriately touched by children in the class. Specifically they are smacking his bottom. He understandably doesnt like it and is upset. This has happened x times now.
This isnt acceptable and cannot continue.
I want to understand what your safe guarding plan is to prevent future unwanted physical contact from Suzie and Natasha."

Agree with others there is nothing cute about this.

NewHat · 15/10/2025 21:58

It’s not playful. She’s hitting him! Teach him the classic ‘stop it, I don’t like it’. Get him to practice loudly.

call school first thing in the morning and ask if the teacher can call you as soon as possible. If she can’t, try to speak to her at drop off.

anonymoususer9876 · 15/10/2025 22:25

I work in a primary. Please let your son's teacher know that he is telling you at home it's upsetting him. He may be laughing it off and playing it down in the class (to save face in front of friends) and the teacher maybe hasn't realised that it's not a silly game that he's enjoying being a part of.

GaIadriel · 15/10/2025 22:31

It wouldn't be funny if a female was being sexually assaulted!

Ablondiebutagoody · 15/10/2025 22:59

Tell him to push them away. It will be sorted in about 5 seconds

GaIadriel · 15/10/2025 23:02

He needs to start slapping their bums back. It will get resolved pretty quickly then.

DEAROP · 16/10/2025 08:26

"I've told Milo that if anyone hits him again, especially on a private area, he should slap them around the face or punch them in the mouth as hard as he can. If he gets in any trouble for that, I will reveal to the LEA that he was sexually harassed for days and you did nothing about it
Okay bye!"

I bet it will stop that day.

FuzzyWolf · 16/10/2025 09:38

DEAROP · 16/10/2025 08:26

"I've told Milo that if anyone hits him again, especially on a private area, he should slap them around the face or punch them in the mouth as hard as he can. If he gets in any trouble for that, I will reveal to the LEA that he was sexually harassed for days and you did nothing about it
Okay bye!"

I bet it will stop that day.

But the parent is admitting to be aware and finding it cute, so they aren’t in a position to judge!

FuzzyWolf · 16/10/2025 09:39

If you’ve already had to talk to the teacher about other things it could be a sign there are other issues going on in the classroom. Regardless, you need to advocate for your child and stop this now.

Francestein · 16/10/2025 09:39

Go and ask why your son is being sexually assaulted in her class, perhaps?

Blessedbethefruitz · 16/10/2025 09:53

Make a serious complaint. Tell them that if it happens again, you've told your son to push them away/hit back. And tell him that he has your full support.

My son is 6 and has taken a lot of hits and given none in return. I honestly didnt realise primary school would be so rough. I tell him to hit/push back, to defend himself, and that if he ever gets in trouble, he will have our full backing and a high five. I had to resort to this because the teacher's response was entirely ineffective and most of the kids were getting hit weekly.

Fortunately year 1 and 2 teachers have proven more effective with behaviour. But it has changed how we've raised his little sister - she has no problem pushing people back, and will hopefully have a better time in school because of it.

Being hit wherever on the body, is not cute. Another kid asking to hold hands or hug goodbye is cute. Assault is not.

BMW6 · 16/10/2025 09:55

He's being hit regularly by the same child - of course you complain to the school NOW!

Being slapped anywhere is never "cute" FFS.

SprayWhiteDung · 16/10/2025 09:59

I wonder what would happen if your DS started regularly slapping the teacher on her bottom?

If she told him to stop or got in touch to complain to you, you would obviously tell her that, as a teacher, she will appreciate that he will naturally model behaviours that are learned and actively accepted in the classroom.

I am so sick of schools playing the "Ah but they're only young" card when excusing bullying and other upsetting and inappropriate behaviours, but not seeming to care about the fact that the victim is usually the same young age.