To think she posted the worst photo of me on purpose?

[SillyOtterpumpkins]

Hi everyone I’m feeling a certain way and wanted to voice how I feel. I don’t really want to talk to my boyfriend about this.

Basically I attended my boyfriend’s cousins engagement party with him a few weeks ago.

Let’s call her Jade. I’ve met his cousin a few times and she’s always been okay ish with me. I’m often the one to initiate conversations with her when I see her and shes quite blunt with me. One word answers not asking anything about me etc.

We had a nice night overall. During the night some photos were taken of me and my boyfriend by his mother and she sent them to me. All the photos were lovely and flattering apart from one where it was taken at a funny angle and I looked awful. My boyfriend looked nice in all of them.

Jade had asked everyone to send photos in from the night and my boyfriend’s mother had said she just selected all the photos she’d taken and sent them to her. Anyway I go on to Jades instagram and see she had posted one of those multiple photo posts and the second post in was the awful photo of me. Out of all the photos she had picked the one I obviously looked the worst in. As I said my boyfriend looked nice in all of them and was in the same pose but she picked the worst one of me.

I could understand if she was in the photo as I know a lot of people are more inclined to post the most flattering picture of themselves but it was just a photo of me and my boyfriend.

Am I overreacting for feeling a certain way about this? I’m just a bit confused and curious as to why she would post that photo. I haven’t said anything to anyone and don’t plan on doing so.

I just wanted some opinions.

thank you x

Unless she’s nasty, I would presume she didn’t even look at you, she just loaded a selection of photos.

Her priority would be whether she looked good (which is my focus when it comes to photos! 😆 )

Drop her a line

oh I hate that pic you’ve posted of me! Would you mind taking it down? Xx

Odd to think she’d do it on purpose when nothing in your thread indicates she wants to humiliate you!

Yep

It's annoying, but is anyone you know going to be looking at your boyfriend's cousin's Instagram?

Yes. My MIL put a shocking photo of me in an album. I just took it out and binned it.
You can’t do this sadly, so just be really sweet and ask her to take it down. If she has a tiny spark of decency she will do so.

Could you ask her to take it down? Or ignore it? Or write to your local MP?

I'd ask her to take it down and post another photo of you and boyfriend. If she refuses then I'd suggest she chose that photo deliberately to upset you

Never attribute to malice what you can attribute to laziness or stupidity.

It’s a mantra to live by.

She probably just doesn’t care what you look like. Contact her, ask her to take it down, laugh about it with her, move on.

Honestly I think there’s power that develops from not caring about ugly photos of you being posted.

I’m in my 20s and grew up with social media & there’s unflattering photos of me from every age online. I just stopped caring after school. Sometimes drawing attention by asking it to be removed, causes more issues than just ignoring it. For example she’s probably going to do it again to you, or use the picture in a collage etc as she knows you don’t like it now as she is already awkward with you

Tbh looking back at some of the ugly photos of me years later, they didn’t even look that bad. So you might be seeing the embarrassment as worse than it actually is.

I’d just recommend you like the post, maybe even comment. That generally indicates to others that you think the bad photo of you looks good, so people aren’t necessarily going to think much of it

This is really lovely advice. Thank you. That’s so true what you said about not caring ! I’m going to like the photo and comment a heart.
thank you 💕