For years and years I've happily bought gifts for family members at Christmas.
For the last few years its just felt so transactional and expected for some members. Last year my niece and her family, according to SIL, didn't have time to get us gift as they were going on holiday. We didn't even get a card.
My nephew has never ever sent us a card even.
My niece on another side asks for expensive or difficult to find perfume every year, which miraculously I find. I've told her not to ask for the impossible again so she said to just get Amazon or Boots vouchers instead.
Its all just so 'meh'
We don't see anyone at Christmas, just do an exchange of gifts in early December of which we organise, drive 2 hrs away and deliver. If we didn't deliver it wouldn't happen. There is just no joy.
This years delivery has been arranged but its now a chore and I just can't be arsed. The one particular niece and nephew I want to forget altogether, but if I do they may buy for me this year and I will feel bad.
How do I tactfully say we're dropping Christmas gifts and a card is sufficient?
We don't get thank yous, or acknowledgement for gifts so why bother?
To be clear its just, niece's and nephews and their kids. The two sisters, PIL and an uncle are all ok...its just the younger generation I want to knock on the head.
Can anyone help with any advice, or have I left it too late for this year, and start for next year? Am I mean?