My partner and I have had very heated words tonight after the second day of him being off with our DS who is poorly and can’t attend nursery.
I am a teacher and even though we take it in turns for time off, with it being the start of the academic year and the fact my class were on a trip, I asked my partner if he could do this one. So…he’s had two days off, DS is now over the worst but still a little runny (sorry TMI) and he wants to send him to nursery tomorrow and have his regular day off. I said “oh I didn’t think DS would be going to nursery” to which he was really annoyed and started saying things such as “you can’t say anything, I’ve been off with DS when all he really wanted was his Mum and you chose other children before him and couldn’t even be off with him yourself.” (Believe me anyone who is a teacher will know how much that one hurt - the mum guilt is already at its peak)
In a nut shell, I earn slightly more than he does, my job is a secure career and I have great prospects in addition to incremental good pay rises. Even though we take it in turns with childcare for illness I don’t think I am being unreasonable to suggest that he should be off for the whole illness even if it means forgoing his rota day off and I also don’t feel it’s unreasonable to be upset about his comments.
I don’t really know to navigate a further conversation because I just feel really hurt.