My partner has lost his job and he is depressed and stressed out. The problem is that any time there is any stress in our lives I become the punchbag, I think this is a pattern of behaviour but recent events have brought it out again.
I klam not trying to make the situation about me but I am struggling to cope. I feel like he berates me for almost anything I say or do. He tries to control how I spend my money and will berate me afterwards if I spend it on something he doesn't like. Treats me like a child - telling me to sit up straight when out for dinner, telling me to get off my phone or putting it away in a drawer etc. He has thrown things and slammed doors etc during arguments. Gives me silent treatment if I complain about his behaviour. I feel at the end of my tether but I am worried about how he will cope if I leave him while he is already going through such a stressful period.
It just feels like all of its ramped and I've just got to take it. Every job he doesn't get is another day of sulking. I am so anxious everyday and I feel like it's ruining my mental and physical health. Things are going well in other aspects of my life and I can't even enjoy them as I'm so uptight about him. I feel I need to wait it out until the other stress is resolved but at the same time don't know how to get through another day of it and want to leave. He refuses to go to counselling or see anyone as I've suggested so many times before.