Or am I being a parcel stealing, curtain twitching busybody?

[TwilightSkylightsAndA40WattBulb]

Name change.

A video has been posted on a local facebook group that looks like I have stolen parcels. The person who posted it said "what is the world coming to when the local druggy nicks your child's bedtime story books". I'm scared this will get back to my employer. I work for the civil service so if they dont get the full story, I will be sacked. I will tell my boss when she gets in. She wont find it funny and I'm humiliated. I dont take drugs but I did stumble in the video and I have a cold so was wiping my nose a lot which looks bad.

My husband thinks I was niave and shouldnt have got involved. I have the parcels but will I be liable for them if I put them back where I found them because they will get nicked? I dont really want to speak with the person as they are obviously looking for trouble.

I've already commented on the video and have asked admin the take it down.

Our Evri and Amazon driver has started leaving parcels on our doorsteps which are directly on the street. Obviously they arent there when we get home.

I walked past a neighbour's house yesterday. It is a few houses down but I dont know them. They had parcels leaning against their house (directly on the street/pavement). I thought I was being nice. I wish someone had taken in the ebay parcel I had stolen the other day because the item in that was irreplaceable. So I thoight I was being a good neighbour.

The video shows me look at the parcels as I walk past, then come back a few minutes later, pick them up and walk off with them. What actually happened was that I walk past, come back with a note, post it through the door and then walk away with the parcels. I didnt realise there was a camera or I would have made a big drama of posting the note. You can see the door on the video but because of how Im standing you can see Im doing sonething but not that I posted a letter through. The note was an A4 sheet of pink lined paper ripped from a book and folded in half so they would have seen it.

The note said that their parcels were left on the doorstep so Ive taken them in, my house number and that someone will be in for the rest of the day and today.

I dont know what to do with the parcels. I dont want to speak with this person but if I put them back they'll get stolen.

I'm humiliated. I wont do it again.

My husbabd thinks I was interfearing in sonething that didnt concern me and basically asked for trouble. I thought I was just being nice and doing what I wish other people did.

YABU - you should have left the parcels alone
YANBU - you were trying to be neighbourly

Not on their property. It was on the literal street.

I wish my neighbours could have done this for us. We've had 2 parcels stolen when the delivery driver has left them on our drive, not to the side, not over the gate (which is stated as a safe place) but right in the middle of the drive.
I've had a right pain sorting these being refunded or replaced. As far as the couriers think, its been delivered so tough luck, they won't take any responsibility for the fact that they didnt handle the delivery correctly. Luckily the companies I purchased form have sorted, after a lot of back and forth.

I'm sorry about your neighbour. I'm glad you were able to diffuse the situation.

Oh to live in a world where I can just "find the budget". Maybe if I wish really hard?

I don’t think a note was ever put through the door. I know what you are saying OP but reading it, it just doesn’t sit with me. Maybe others have the same vibe and perhaps you were unlucky, the note disappeared. The story doesn’t sounds very genuine to me maybe others are struggling with that too.

Ours isnt too bad tbh. Mostly about certain HMOs, missing cats or dog poo. Or more recently "does anyone know where my parcel is?". I can help with 2 mate.

We’d do this on our road. My neighbour does this for me all the time. It was clearly a misunderstanding so they should take the video down when they realise you were trying to help.no good deed goes unpunished!

One good thing that came out of COVId is we have a WhatsApp group for the road so parcel issues are always coming up. (Normally trying to track down which wrong house they went to!)

You think I took the parcel without leaving a note? Why would I do that?

Well obviously Id do that to nick the stuff but if that is the case, why are they still unopened in my hallway?

Or, if I am a thief (druggy or not) why would I post about it on MN?

You didn’t do anything wrong - I’d have done the same if it was just out and exposed for the taking. It seems like a misunderstanding and they didn’t see the note. Maybe I’m just lucky that everyone on my street is neighbourly and nice even if I don’t know them well.

Luckily I have had neighbours do this when parcels have been left at my door step. My door is right in the street and some just drop and knock!

Why would you leave them unopened? Well you probably wouldn’t, however most people would have returned them instead of keeping them so the video must have come up quickly for you to develop a worry about going back.

Why would you post on mumsnet? Because you are worried you are going to have to convince work that you left a note, had a cold and that the video doesn’t reflect what you’ve agreed it looks like. When people lie about things they will seek the reassurance of others that the lie is believable.

I feel sorry for you if you truly did leave a note, which isn’t obvious in the footage as you’ve said. It would have been so much better if the video had validated your story.

Well I just popped around again. Waved at the camera. It's on the house owners side. No one in. Cant hear a dog and a dog is unlikely in a house this size.

One person commented on the video and said "oh that's Twilight. She's sound. She lives at the house with the elvis light". A couple of other people tagged me and laughed. Someone I dont know said in reply to my comment "there we go, now you can collect it. No need for drama". Admin commented "we're leaving this video up so that (the owner) can see that Twilight has it. Twilight is a valued and active mrmber of this group. No theft has occurred and we have no reason to believe Twilight takes recreational drugs. Please keep this page friendly". Someone else wrote "scumbags".

Well then. Mystery solved I guess. It was going to be after all.

I wonder has the neighbour actually been home at all and is just going by a video clip that another neighbour sent. Or else they are annoyed that you told them to collect a parcel they did not request that you take. I think you will just have to keep calling down to them until eventually they answer.

I would also message the moderators of the page and request that they remove the post/video.

Now let's see if there are any of Twilight's neighbours on mumsnet who happens to be following both threads here and there, as I'm sure this is outing?

There are some truly shitty comments on this thread. You did a nice thing and unfortunately some people can’t wait to post stuff on Facebook because they love the bloody drama. I frequently take parcels in and all our neighbours will take stuff in if left on the step. We have a WhatsApp group to say I’ve got x’s parcel safely.

This would have enraged me and I would have loudly and publicly called out the person who called me a druggy with absolutely no evidence whatsoever and I wouldn’t do a thing for them again. Contact admin of the group and ask them to remove the video. I’m really sorry you’ve got such horrible neighbours. You seem like a really nice person.

Sorry crossed post. I would still contact the mods and ask them to request the video is removed asap. They can always put up a post saying you have the parcel but ask that they remove the actual video

I agree they should remove the video

WTF? You’ve just made up a whole scenario, for what purpose? Didn’t it occur to you that this idiot has just gone by the doorbell footage and overreacted before posting shit on FB and calling his neighbour a druggy. Glad I’m not your neighbour.

I’m sorry but the line of “we ve no reason to beleive twilight takes recreational drugs” ‘ made me lol.

I hope the people who posted it apologise to you publicly on that forum.

Ok. TBH I'm not sure me posting on an anonymous site saying I did X is going to exactly up in court? 🤣 I did steal the parcels but I posted on MN to say I didnt and everythinv on MN is always 100% true so you have to believe that.

I picked up the parcels at about 530. No one had come round by the time I went to bed at 10 I think. So plenty of time to rip open a package?

I got up at 6 and saw the video at about 745. Husband went round a little while later and Ive just been round too.

I name changed just in case!
I cant inagine many of my beighbours fall into MN demographic but you never know.

I know. 🤣 I think she was just trying to stop me from shouting about libel or slander (I get the 2 confused). Or the wider group starting kicling off about spice and city centre drugs and monorails (thay one is outing!).

FWIW, people in my street do this all the time. We tell each other on a street chat, and often people will post asking for a rescue if they are out and receive a notification that something is on the doorstep (usually left by Evri). So I’d call it a friendly thing to do rather than a busybody act. Maybe this will end up with you knowing your neighbours a little better @TwilightSkylightsAndA40WattBulb

This reminds me of the time I found a phone locally. No response to photo posted on the local FB group. Battery was flat and we didn't own the right charger. DH kindly offered to go to the local pub where they have a plethora of different chargers. He plugged it in, got a drink and after a little while the phone rang "What are you doing with my son's phone?" asked a very aggressive woman. DH tried to explain and said where he was. Shortly after an angry man came in, shouting for his phone, no thanks uttered. My DH has told me not to pick up any more lost items.

I don't see how you have done anything wrong @TwilightSkylightsAndA40WattBulb