Or am I being a parcel stealing, curtain twitching busybody?

[TwilightSkylightsAndA40WattBulb]

Name change.

A video has been posted on a local facebook group that looks like I have stolen parcels. The person who posted it said "what is the world coming to when the local druggy nicks your child's bedtime story books". I'm scared this will get back to my employer. I work for the civil service so if they dont get the full story, I will be sacked. I will tell my boss when she gets in. She wont find it funny and I'm humiliated. I dont take drugs but I did stumble in the video and I have a cold so was wiping my nose a lot which looks bad.

My husband thinks I was niave and shouldnt have got involved. I have the parcels but will I be liable for them if I put them back where I found them because they will get nicked? I dont really want to speak with the person as they are obviously looking for trouble.

I've already commented on the video and have asked admin the take it down.

Our Evri and Amazon driver has started leaving parcels on our doorsteps which are directly on the street. Obviously they arent there when we get home.

I walked past a neighbour's house yesterday. It is a few houses down but I dont know them. They had parcels leaning against their house (directly on the street/pavement). I thought I was being nice. I wish someone had taken in the ebay parcel I had stolen the other day because the item in that was irreplaceable. So I thoight I was being a good neighbour.

The video shows me look at the parcels as I walk past, then come back a few minutes later, pick them up and walk off with them. What actually happened was that I walk past, come back with a note, post it through the door and then walk away with the parcels. I didnt realise there was a camera or I would have made a big drama of posting the note. You can see the door on the video but because of how Im standing you can see Im doing sonething but not that I posted a letter through. The note was an A4 sheet of pink lined paper ripped from a book and folded in half so they would have seen it.

The note said that their parcels were left on the doorstep so Ive taken them in, my house number and that someone will be in for the rest of the day and today.

I dont know what to do with the parcels. I dont want to speak with this person but if I put them back they'll get stolen.

I'm humiliated. I wont do it again.

My husbabd thinks I was interfearing in sonething that didnt concern me and basically asked for trouble. I thought I was just being nice and doing what I wish other people did.

YABU - you should have left the parcels alone
YANBU - you were trying to be neighbourly

Even with the best intentions, I wouldn’t ever remove parcels belonging to someone I didn’t know. I live in a small block of six flats - I would do this for three neighbours, but not for the other two, I don’t know them.

Don’t speak to your boss, that’s completely unnecessary. And fixating on what you look like on the video is taking away from what needs to happen now, which is to make sure that she gets her parcels back first and foremost, then the post being taken down is secondary.

All these complicated suggestions for new notes to write... Just put the bloody parcels back on the doorstep and don't forget to stick two fingers up to the camera ( while smoking a joint or snorting a line, of course)

The first time I remember I was avoiding dog mess but miscalculated the gap (that sounds ridiculous). The second time I think I must have caught the front of my trainer on the uneven pavement. I do that a lot.

I dont drink. Plus I was coming home from work.

I do wear my ill fitting coat as it's the only one I have. I will be looking in the charity shops this weelemd because I didnt realisr how awful that one looks. I knew it didnt fit obviously.

They might not have even been home yet to see the first note. They might have just seen their parcel being taken from their ring door bell and panicked.

Agree just put the parcels back.

OP, you seem like you worry a lot which has also got you in this mess worrying on behalf of others too! Bless you.

No need to change your coat if that's all you have and need, unless you want to change them and not because of other people.

She’s actually literally stolen them at this point. She went on their property and took their belongings without permission, and has so far failed to return it despite them posting on social media that their parcels have been stolen. Who in their right minds would refuse to just put them back ffs???

I am super excited that you have a safe place. We dont. I dont like to keep my bins by my front door. We couldnt anyway even if I didnt mind the yuk factor.

Most of my neighbours work.

Plus, I doubt the current delivery driver would pay any attention to it anyway.

No good deed goes unpunished @TwilightSkylightsAndA40WattBulb .

It’s sad that people jump to conclusions but in this case probably inevitable.
Dont worry, it will blow over and you will have a new coat.

That's awful, making you feel like shit when you were going out of your way to help. If it's any consolation, I'd be happy to have a neighbour like you.

Good point about the cold HOWEVER the likelyhood if catching a cold from carboard is pretty low. They are far nore likely to catch it from their day to day business.

I think I would have put the parcels back now & post a pic of them.

I know you meant well but I would be annoyed to get a note that said "I have your parcel come & fetch it".

So you have had the parcels overnight?

You have seriously overstepped.

I would be questioning your judgement and common sense if I was your boss.

If a parcel goes missing from someone's property, they are big girls and boys, they can deal with it, they don't need you vigilanting for them.

Thank you.

Yes, I am a bit of a worry head at the moment. I'm not normally but there is some stuff going on.

To be honest, I don't know why you're making such a drama about it.

You did something you thought was helpful, it was an honest action. You have commented to clarify your position and any normal person would see you haven't stolen parcels. Particularly if your colleagues see it, as presumably they'll be aware that you're not a drug dealing thief.

I'd stick the parcels back on their doorstep and forget about it. Really don't get what the big deal is.

Post again saying Hi, we've knocked to drop the parcels in but no one is answering.

I would also report the video to FB.
'Facebook provides a number of ways for people to report imagery that they believe violates their privacy. The quickest way to report abuse is by using the Report links located near the photo or video that you want to report.'

Sorry this has happened to you OP.

Sherlock Holmes and the missing doorbell camera footage?

Sorry, edited because 47,000 people already posted about a note.

You are not going to get in trouble at work for this, you were literally helping out. Hopefully they delete the video.

Are parcel stations much of a thing in UK?

Surely if you are regularly out & stuff is left literally on the street then this exactly what they are for?

I'm not suggesting that OP organise this btw nor that she wasn't trying to do the proverbial good deed.

Just that there are other options that the recipients could sort out.

The note is mentioned in the OP.. do people not bother reading?

If you did nothing wrong and have evidence then I don't know why you are worrying. Are none of your other neighbours supporting you - I mean they know you're not the 'local druggy' surely?

But the recipients know the situation - they know the parcels get left there, they wouldn't order them otherwise. They are clearly willing to accept the risk otherwise they wouldn't order - that's their choice as adults. OP should never have taken it upon herself to get involved.

She. Did. Read the first post.

If It’s any consolation OP I would have been really grateful to you for picking up my parcel. Having a delivery just left on the front step is an open invitation to thieves. It’s all very well posters on here saying that it’s up to the owner to nominate a safe place - half the time you can’t do so, and if you do the courier often ignores the instruction anyway.
To be honest your neighbours don’t come over as being particularly nice people and their posting on social media is a clear indication,like some of the responses you’ve received on here, of just how aggressive people have become nowadays. The automatic reaction seems to be to think the worst of everyone.
Unfortunately what you thought was a good deed has ended up causing you upset. Don’t let it put you off doing the same again, most reasonable people would be grateful providing you don’t give them the opportunity to think it’s been stolen and drop it off as soon as you know they are home.

They didn't know you or ask you to take the parcels in, so to all intents and purposes you did steal them. You need to see when they're in, put the parcel back on doorstep, ring doorbell and just run away, lol. If you are too embarrassed to face them.

It's a shame they accused you of being a druggie but you left a note so I don't see why they said that? Don't tell your employer. There's no need and it's ridiculously petty.

Just don't do anything like that again obviously.