Or am I being a parcel stealing, curtain twitching busybody?

[TwilightSkylightsAndA40WattBulb]

Name change.

A video has been posted on a local facebook group that looks like I have stolen parcels. The person who posted it said "what is the world coming to when the local druggy nicks your child's bedtime story books". I'm scared this will get back to my employer. I work for the civil service so if they dont get the full story, I will be sacked. I will tell my boss when she gets in. She wont find it funny and I'm humiliated. I dont take drugs but I did stumble in the video and I have a cold so was wiping my nose a lot which looks bad.

My husband thinks I was niave and shouldnt have got involved. I have the parcels but will I be liable for them if I put them back where I found them because they will get nicked? I dont really want to speak with the person as they are obviously looking for trouble.

I've already commented on the video and have asked admin the take it down.

Our Evri and Amazon driver has started leaving parcels on our doorsteps which are directly on the street. Obviously they arent there when we get home.

I walked past a neighbour's house yesterday. It is a few houses down but I dont know them. They had parcels leaning against their house (directly on the street/pavement). I thought I was being nice. I wish someone had taken in the ebay parcel I had stolen the other day because the item in that was irreplaceable. So I thoight I was being a good neighbour.

The video shows me look at the parcels as I walk past, then come back a few minutes later, pick them up and walk off with them. What actually happened was that I walk past, come back with a note, post it through the door and then walk away with the parcels. I didnt realise there was a camera or I would have made a big drama of posting the note. You can see the door on the video but because of how Im standing you can see Im doing sonething but not that I posted a letter through. The note was an A4 sheet of pink lined paper ripped from a book and folded in half so they would have seen it.

The note said that their parcels were left on the doorstep so Ive taken them in, my house number and that someone will be in for the rest of the day and today.

I dont know what to do with the parcels. I dont want to speak with this person but if I put them back they'll get stolen.

I'm humiliated. I wont do it again.

My husbabd thinks I was interfearing in sonething that didnt concern me and basically asked for trouble. I thought I was just being nice and doing what I wish other people did.

YABU - you should have left the parcels alone
YANBU - you were trying to be neighbourly

@boredofbirmighamhave you not read the entire thread?

and why then she could not knock at the door in the eve to bring them?

FWIW OP I also live directly on the street with no front garden and it happens often that parcels are left propped up against the door for anyone to steal. Once they left three boxes of my son’s medically prescribed feed on the pavement! So I get it. Thankfully my neighbour took it in and I have done the same for others. We don’t even leave notes. Just knock as soon as we notice their car is home. You sound like a nice person. Unlucky that you’ve got ungrateful neighbours! 💐

I did the same for my next four neighbours. I knew they were away and the parcels had already been there overnight. I left a note and then took the parcels. When neighbours returned few days later i popped round with them. They were very happy. Im sorry you’ve been trashed for being neighbourly- that is really unfair. Ps how would your boss know about the video?

Poor OP. You sound like a really nice person who worries too much.

As for your coat not fitting - have you never seen REALLY posh people pottering round their neighbourhoods and estates? They look a total mess, and you are obviously seriously classy. Like me 😆

For me I would have absolutely no issue with a neighbour a couple doors away being kind and taking in a parcel for me to keep it safe! OP did it from a place of not wanting someone else to have the arse ache of loss that she did. I think it's crap that a kind gesture can be treated so badly these days!

For me the major issue where I live is people taking in parcels that aren't for people that live on their street and not necessarily anywhere near by! I had a lady kindly take a parcel in that a courier was trying to dump rather than actually bring here, and the problem is that not only did she not live on my street, she lived a mile and a halfway away and the courier failed to put any info at all on the email notification I got! It just said "left with a neighbour"!! That's a real issue, not the house a couple of doors away keeping it safe for me!

Also our local.facebook pages are royally misused by anonymous posters that post stills and videos etc of people recklessly and male accusations!

I think you did a neighbourly thing. They sound awful and rude. You assumed they were like you but unfortunately they're not :-( Oh well - I'm sure other neighbours will appreciate you OP.

OK so 1.there are no front gardens, the doors open directly onto the street and therefore these parcels were left on the street. 2. Because they were on the street and you've had parcels taken, you picked up the parcels and left a note that you'd taken them for safekeeping.
You've done nothing wrong but I wouldn't bother helping again. You can report the video directly to Facebook.

I'm glad they got their snot covered parcels back eventually 🤢

Yeah. I liked them too. For good measure. 🙄

Contact amazon and evri and tell them to STOP leaving things on your doorstep. Simple.

Lawyer here you didn’t do anything wrong, take someone with you to return them and photos of yourself doing so …there was no intention to permanently deprive …you tried to be neighbourly and sound very thoughtful and kind

You were just trying to be a good neighbour.
Hold your head up high, knock on her door and explain. She will either accept it graciously or she’ll kick off. If she kicks off, then just walk away.
Don't beat yourself up too badly, it’s just a misunderstanding and the world’s quite a volatile place now days, it’s trial by internet mobs!
You, your family and your friends know you are neither a druggy or a thief.
It’s a storm in a teacup and it’ll pass.

i did not read the whole 282 replies but as another person said she should have answered to the fb post and said it was me and I left you a note to tell you

This is just viscerally sad. I can't believe nearly 40% of PPs think you were unreasonable. This is why people are found rotting in their houses years after their deaths, and women are beaten to death by their abusive husbands in clear view or hearing of neighbours, and people step over a dying person on the pavement. Because of this kind of disgusting, self-centred, self-righteous petty finger-wagging "oooh you'll get in trouble because you're not allowed to appropriate other people's parcels" SHIT mentality.

UGH!

OP, you're one of the good ones. Brava to you!

If you don’t give the parcels back you are a thief and shame on you.

Blimey, this thread took a dark turn.

Ha ha, you're as bad as the parcel owners who didn't read the note OP posted through their door!

They have their parcels.

on mumsnet you can see all posts from the OP so you get the full picture of what has happened and the updates

but FYI she did go around several times to give them back and they weren’t in. They weren’t in for such time that chances are the parcels would have been actually stolen in the time it was left!

Tons of overreactions and drama for nothing. But no I’d be thoroughly annoyed if you took in my parcels andI didn’t know you.
you’re so worried you wanted to talk to your boss but now the only trace of you being connected to drugs is your own post. How ironic!

@TwilightSkylightsAndA40WattBulb Seems they couldn't face you afterall and sent their son! This explains why they didn't open the door either.

Yes completely concur with you, she's most surely meaning well 💚Such a shame whomever recorded her good intentions has such narrow mindedness 🙏

Because she presumed they were out hence why they left them out on the street! She already informed them where their parcels were & kindly looked after them... She took the time & trouble to write them an informative helpful note
They can do the rest & collect their own parcels & a sincere thank you, wouldn't cost them a penny 💚

Yes, surreal how unique we all are
If someone took the time to write to me, preventing another possible parcel theft, I'd be so grateful for & to them
She didn't just take parcels in without kindly mentioning where they were safely being looked after
Someone once found a purse of mine & he needed to open it in order to see if there were clues to whom it belonged to
Thankfully my mobile phone number was inside my purse
I'll always be grateful to him & well meaning, pure hearted souls, like the original commenter here
It's the heart that matters & the intentions of someone's actions
Not whether a narrow minded soul takes offence or judges the well meaning intention, wrongly 💚

Yes, absolutely 🤗Such a shame some are so quick to sit in judgement & presume the worst
Thank you for taking a stand for justice 💚