Send toddler to nursery when he's hot

braceforcorrection · 2025-10-13T22:53:36+00:00

Toddler woke up feeling hot on his chest and back No temperature. Was eventually called at 5pm saying he's got a temp Aibu in sending him to nursery? Nursery don't give calpol and you can't send them to nursery if they've had it.

Lmox · 14/10/2025 00:24

Im not sure what the question is. If it’s were you unreasonable for sending him into nursery today when he was hot but had no temperature I would say no if there were no other signs of illness.

if you are asking if it is unreasonable to send him to nursery tomorrow it absolutely is. My son goes to nursery and is medically complex. A simple cold can send him into an elongated seizure and hospitalise him. I know lots of other kids who are also immunocompromised in nursery. Their parents rely on parents of healthy children to be responsible.

Arlanymor · 14/10/2025 00:31

Tomorrow you mean? A fever needs to be gone for 24 hours.

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braceforcorrection · 14/10/2025 00:54

No this was a past event. Should parents keep hot children but no temp at home

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braceforcorrection · 14/10/2025 00:55

Lmox · 14/10/2025 00:24

Im not sure what the question is. If it’s were you unreasonable for sending him into nursery today when he was hot but had no temperature I would say no if there were no other signs of illness.

if you are asking if it is unreasonable to send him to nursery tomorrow it absolutely is. My son goes to nursery and is medically complex. A simple cold can send him into an elongated seizure and hospitalise him. I know lots of other kids who are also immunocompromised in nursery. Their parents rely on parents of healthy children to be responsible.

I couldn't imagine the amount of danger your child is in mixing with so many children, adults and parents

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Arlanymor · 14/10/2025 00:56

braceforcorrection · 14/10/2025 00:54

No this was a past event. Should parents keep hot children but no temp at home

Well no because it's the temperature that is the gauge of whether or not they are over the threshold. If they don't have a temperature then they are not officially feverish. Lots of reasons a child could be hot that don't relate to illness.

DeadsoulsAngel · 14/10/2025 01:00

A hot child without a temperature is just…. Hot? Not ill? I’d have sent them! We all get hot, I’m pretty warm now!

realsavagelike · 14/10/2025 01:02

I work in preschool - I would be fine with a child attending who was running hot but without a fever, and would do the same with my own kids attending school. If a fever appears later, that's different obviously. As an aside, we can usually spot the kid who is sent in technically 'without a fever' owing to the Tylenol given to them by a caregiver that morning, as they always either blurt it out, crash hard at lunchtime, or both of the above!

steff13 · 14/10/2025 01:04

I am in the us, but schools in my district want us to keep them home if their temperature is over 100° F without Tylenol or Advil. So, if the child's temperature was 99° F and they were feeling ok, I would have sent them.

What was the child's temperature when they went to school?

NuffSaidSam · 14/10/2025 01:31

If they don't have a temp it's fine, unless he had other symptoms that clearly suggested he was unwell.

Zanatdy · 14/10/2025 05:32

No, I sent mine in unless they had an actual temp, they were off enough without keeping them off when not got a temp. Nursery call if they develop one. If you don’t have a job, sure keep them off, but when working you can’t afford to be off just incase.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 14/10/2025 06:55

There's a virus just gone round my son and his friends where their temps all spike randomly and returned to normal very quickly on and off over the course of a few days. Some got temps, some never did, but all felt hot on and off.

My son felt very hot to my husband at 11.30. He left him in his cot, feeling warm down to his fingertips, and went out to brush his teeth. My son woke 5m later and I went in, and he was back to normal.

Ocelotfeet27 · 14/10/2025 06:59

Lmox · 14/10/2025 00:24

Im not sure what the question is. If it’s were you unreasonable for sending him into nursery today when he was hot but had no temperature I would say no if there were no other signs of illness.

if you are asking if it is unreasonable to send him to nursery tomorrow it absolutely is. My son goes to nursery and is medically complex. A simple cold can send him into an elongated seizure and hospitalise him. I know lots of other kids who are also immunocompromised in nursery. Their parents rely on parents of healthy children to be responsible.

Lmox how will your son manage at school when schools encourage everyone to come in with all but the most dire conditions? Not criticising but interested to know, given that bugs are rife in small children constantly. I don't know how I would manage in sending my child to school with such risks around illness.