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The current job market is dire?

77 replies

breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 19:53

Or is it just my area?

Theoretically, theres jobs. Getting them however is another story.

My son is 23. He lost his last job in January. Im not sure of the ins and outs, but he worked for a company that was contracted to do a role in another larger company and the contract was downsized and therefore their staffing levels reduced. He had worked there 18 months so was let go. Since then, nothing. Hes got basic maths and english gcse but no other qualifications that matters. He did 1 year of painting and decorating and 1 year if bricklaying but didnt go into either when he left college so has no experience. He cant drive. Hes applied for everything, from office jobs, to care roles, to warehouses, to factories. And getting nothing back. Office he is very dyslexic and doesnt get past the application stage, care want experience, warehouses and factories all want fork lift or driving even if its not specified on the job description. His mental health is in the floor. He had 1 interview last week and the man interviewing told them they wouldn't hire him looking like he does as he has a few ear piercings and a forearm tattoo! It was for cold calling telesales! Not even a public facing role.

He needs a job, he needs focus and something to do with his days. This is literally destroying him.

i need him to get a job. I have two other children in college and high school im supporting. All 3 are at home. Im a single parent, no financial help from their father (and not an option ive been fighting CMS for over a decade) my wage cant keep supporting all 4 of us. But despite his efforts, hes been unsuccessful. Ive done his CV for him, we look on indeed, glass door, directly to local businesses etc daily. He applies for everything he can, 100s of applications. But nothing.

is it the same everywhere?

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bigfacthunter · 13/10/2025 20:41

breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 20:08

Doesnt exist anymore according to the work coach he spoke to. It requires funding from a business/employer not the job centre?

My friend recently got it funded by job centre, just fyi so get him to ask someone else in there

breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 20:41

Spanglemum02 · 13/10/2025 20:35

He needs to claim benefits. That's what they're for. I know UC is about £300 a month. Not a lot but better than nothing.

Yeah he has finally agreed to sign on. I get why he didnt why he didnt want to but i need him to take on some things now

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ExtraOnions · 13/10/2025 20:41

What does he want to do ? What’s he interested in?

DD is 19 now, struggled at school (late ASD diagnosis), scraped 5 grade 4s.. has tried a couple of things at college, which didn’t work out. Now at college training to be a Chef, and flying - she’s always loved cooking, now it can be a career. She also works the bar at events at a local stadium.

The key to any of this is working out a passion, and getting involved. Voluntary, part-time, whatever it is.

breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 20:50

ExtraOnions · 13/10/2025 20:41

What does he want to do ? What’s he interested in?

DD is 19 now, struggled at school (late ASD diagnosis), scraped 5 grade 4s.. has tried a couple of things at college, which didn’t work out. Now at college training to be a Chef, and flying - she’s always loved cooking, now it can be a career. She also works the bar at events at a local stadium.

The key to any of this is working out a passion, and getting involved. Voluntary, part-time, whatever it is.

Thats a really good question. He is also ND (but manages well socially) and dyslexic etc. his hobbies are a bit obscure and not something he could do to earn money. What he wants to do is his old job, because he was comfortable there, it was his routine, and he could do the work easily, it was repetitive and systematic. So whilst he is applying for virtually anything, what he wants when we talk is his old job back.

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Peridoteage · 13/10/2025 20:50

It sounds like he lacks skills. Can you help him look at courses build on what he's already done in bricklaying/painting & decorating? Get him a CSCS card. Can you help him learn to drive asap? Even if you can't afford lessons take him out to start learning with you. In the meantime get him a 2nd hand bike to help him get around?

He needs to have something to offer employers.

PeonyPatch · 13/10/2025 20:53

Have you looked into apprenticeships? NHS entry level jobs? Training to be a police officer? Train driver?

Harriet9955 · 13/10/2025 20:54

Is he not claiming Universal credit to help you out with some board money?
They will likely send him on courses to improve his chances of finding something.
Everywhere is recruiting for Xmas staff at the moment. My ds who is a student has very little experience in anything has just got a part time job at curry's.

PeonyPatch · 13/10/2025 20:55

Also consider registering with recruitment agencies. I temped when I was out of work after uni.

breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 20:58

Peridoteage · 13/10/2025 20:50

It sounds like he lacks skills. Can you help him look at courses build on what he's already done in bricklaying/painting & decorating? Get him a CSCS card. Can you help him learn to drive asap? Even if you can't afford lessons take him out to start learning with you. In the meantime get him a 2nd hand bike to help him get around?

He needs to have something to offer employers.

I sold my car as i couldnt afford the running costs any longer and my jobs is work from home so it wasnt needed for my job any longer. Ive literally scrapped every luxury except my gym membership and still cannot get through the month. I cant afford to pay for him to learn to drive and all the associated costs either

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breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 20:59

PeonyPatch · 13/10/2025 20:55

Also consider registering with recruitment agencies. I temped when I was out of work after uni.

He’s registered with 2 local but they are all driving/delivery jobs at the moment

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breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 21:00

Harriet9955 · 13/10/2025 20:54

Is he not claiming Universal credit to help you out with some board money?
They will likely send him on courses to improve his chances of finding something.
Everywhere is recruiting for Xmas staff at the moment. My ds who is a student has very little experience in anything has just got a part time job at curry's.

hes agreed to sign on so it’s something we are doing this week

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Peridoteage · 13/10/2025 21:09

Bricklayers are always in demand where i am - get him a cscs card, even a provisional one and send him round any building site locally.

Bilbo63 · 13/10/2025 21:12

bigfacthunter · 13/10/2025 20:41

My friend recently got it funded by job centre, just fyi so get him to ask someone else in there

There would need to be evidence of a job offer that requires a fork lift licence.

The jobcentre will have lots of courses though and voluntary work is encouraged. He needs to claim UC to access support. If he has dyslexia he can self refer to connect to work - a new provision that aims to support those with barriers into work - they offer in work support as well. Another idea is asking employers for a work trial - he won’t be paid for it but it can help secure employment. The jobcentre can help/advise. NCS offer skills bootcamps for 19+. These are online courses that can have qualifications attached. Also research virtual work experience. He should claim and access the support on offer.

Xmas retail positions are being advertised now - apply straight away - as they will close as soon as they have enough applicants.

Algen · 13/10/2025 21:16

He had 1 interview last week and the man interviewing told them they wouldn't hire him looking like he does as he has a few ear piercings and a forearm tattoo! It was for cold calling telesales! Not even a public facing role.

While this personally wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for me in terms of how he looks, perhaps you could get him to take his ear piercings out for the next interview and wear a long-sleeved shirt? Just to make sure he doesn’t put any unnecessary barriers in his own way.

Papyrophile · 13/10/2025 21:17

The job market is appalling right now. I feel sympathy for your son but there isn't much low skilled employment left and what there is is very badly paid.

When our DS couldn't find paid work, at 17, he developed a mini summer business cutting grass, weeding and doing garden work for older people who couldn't manage any more. It meant nothing for seven years, but it has now got him FT work and training. He has three decent A levels in hard subjects and a degree, although in an area that has crashed in recent years.

pilates · 13/10/2025 21:23

Postman, especially with Christmas coming up?

breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 21:27

pilates · 13/10/2025 21:23

Postman, especially with Christmas coming up?

Requires driving unfortunately 😭

If he could drive it would pretty much solve the problem as id bet atleast 50% of the unskilled jobs he could possbly get that are advertised locally are driving based.

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Papyrophile · 13/10/2025 21:28

pilates · 13/10/2025 21:23

Postman, especially with Christmas coming up?

I don't think enough people still send Christmas cards now.

soupyspoon · 13/10/2025 21:29

I thought I keep reading on here in MN land that jobs are easy to get, its an employees market with people able to demand all sorts of conditions and WFH when they like, change jobs willy nilly when you're fed up or your boss looks at you the wrong way, theres huge number of vacancies etc etc

RaininSummer · 13/10/2025 21:30

Do get him to claim universal credit. He will get a work coach and a lot of signposting to opportunities which could include SIA or CSCS cards to help him into work. He could apply for apprenticeships too on the government find an apprenticeship site. Must sites also have access to a neurodiverse programmed too.

Algen · 13/10/2025 21:30

breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 21:27

Requires driving unfortunately 😭

If he could drive it would pretty much solve the problem as id bet atleast 50% of the unskilled jobs he could possbly get that are advertised locally are driving based.

If he’s agreed to sign on could he use any benefits to learn to drive or do you need the money for housekeeping?

swingingbytheseat · 13/10/2025 21:33

There is always a high demand for
carers
end of tenancy cleans
delivery drivers/Uber eats, deliveroo
painters/ decorators

breakingpoint20 · 13/10/2025 21:34

Algen · 13/10/2025 21:30

If he’s agreed to sign on could he use any benefits to learn to drive or do you need the money for housekeeping?

id need him to contribute something into the house hold, and i dont even know the going rate for driving but he could probably pay for a few lessons a month and be able to help towards the bills a bit maybe.

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YYURYYUCICYYUR4ME · 13/10/2025 21:36

He should ask the Job Centre to source courses for him. SIA have become slightly more demanding to pass, but forklift should be funded and accessible. Get him to ask for funding from the Flexible Fund - https://www.turn2us.org.uk/about-us/news-and-media/latest-news/what-is-the-flexible-support-fund

What is the Flexible Support Fund?

And is it a secret?

https://www.turn2us.org.uk/about-us/news-and-media/latest-news/what-is-the-flexible-support-fund

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