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Anyone else feel like they have/will have no idea how to help their kids enter job market now?

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Echobelly · 13/10/2025 15:54

My kids are early and late teens now, oldest will start uni next year. He has a pretty clear idea what he wants to do, which is great. It's low paying and hard to get into but he's realistic about that. Youngest still no clue really, and that's ok now.

But I feel like things have changed so profoundly since I finished education, and may change even more in the next few years I'm a bit of a loss to how to help. Other than advising them to become HVAC engineers - I mean, looks like the UK is going to start needing air con in homes soon!

I don't want to be like boomers telling millennials that they should walk in to an office and hand the manager a CV. 😂

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HostaCentral · 14/10/2025 13:28

DD has an First at UG and a Masters. She has very little work experience, cafe, cattery, some volunteering. She, and her friends actually, are being turned down for minimum wage cafe and retail jobs. These are only 4 hours block over two or three days as well, nowhere near full time. They don't want graduates.

She has a humanities degree, and wants to work in heritage, also rubbish wages, and hardly any full time roles.

At the moment she is just trying to keep busy, get that first job, some money, and look at getting even more qualifications. She is trying for PHD's too, but again finding for humanities is non existent and university jobs are all being cut, so...... She is looking abroad too.

ChrisMartinsKisskam · 14/10/2025 13:29

At 17 if you can get them to pass there driving test even if they don’t have a car it’s good to have

once 18 get them to to the
door safe badge SIA for security work it’s cheap & easy to do and once you have it you will always have some form of work

it’s great little filler for both temporary and permanent work
my son and his mates spent summers doing the festival circuit as security so Glastonbury reading. V festival and local ones

General security is often long hours but you might only have to do 1 long shift a week to make decent money if your a student

my son and a few of his mates also spent summers in Ibiza and Majorca working in the big clubs and bars as they required some English security ( pre Brexit so much easier to do )

its also soft skills shows that you can deal with just about anything hard working and reliable which employers like

MaturingCheeseball · 14/10/2025 13:35

But as I said for “graduate schemes” it is increasingly difficult to demonstrate that you are a great candidate, no matter how many extra jobs you’ve done and soft skills you’ve acquired.

Dc received a rejection, after doing the AI tests and having an AI interview, with the explanation that their academic profile was lacking. Er, I don’t think so.

Daisymay2 · 14/10/2025 13:46

My younger DC has first and Master’s degrees in History, did semester abroad, volunteered and took a CS job just before lockdown as a temporary measure. Seems well and truly stuck and finding any promotion really difficult He’s dyslexic his manager disagrees with the diagnosis as he has degrees. Obviously she knows better than the Educational Psychologist who spent hours assessing him. I have suggested he retrains in something more hands on like Physio, occupational therapy or Speech therapy but he feels very cynical about healthcare as his medical friends are having a hard time.

GasPanic · 14/10/2025 13:48

ChrisMartinsKisskam · 14/10/2025 13:29

At 17 if you can get them to pass there driving test even if they don’t have a car it’s good to have

once 18 get them to to the
door safe badge SIA for security work it’s cheap & easy to do and once you have it you will always have some form of work

it’s great little filler for both temporary and permanent work
my son and his mates spent summers doing the festival circuit as security so Glastonbury reading. V festival and local ones

General security is often long hours but you might only have to do 1 long shift a week to make decent money if your a student

my son and a few of his mates also spent summers in Ibiza and Majorca working in the big clubs and bars as they required some English security ( pre Brexit so much easier to do )

its also soft skills shows that you can deal with just about anything hard working and reliable which employers like

Passing a van driving test is also useful as you can be a delivery driver.

Lorry driving isn't a bad job if you aren't academic.

Daisymay2 · 14/10/2025 13:54

Like @HostaCentral my DC really wants to work in heritage but so much of the research and conservation work organisations like the National Trust is done by volunteers. NT and English Heritage are making redundancies at the moment as well. PhDs are like hens teeth.

HostaCentral · 15/10/2025 09:30

Daisymay2 · 14/10/2025 13:54

Like @HostaCentral my DC really wants to work in heritage but so much of the research and conservation work organisations like the National Trust is done by volunteers. NT and English Heritage are making redundancies at the moment as well. PhDs are like hens teeth.

There are so few openings for entry level. And those that are want experience, pay pennies, and are part time. It's soul destroying.

Daisymay2 · 16/10/2025 10:40

Yes, last year the local museum offered post GCSE apprenticeships but he couldn’t apply as he is a graduate. There is nothing for him, apart from volunteering which doesn’t pay his bills.

yabbadabbatoo · 16/10/2025 11:16

AllJoyAndNoFun · 13/10/2025 17:37

One of the issues is that technology is narrowing the promotions funnel, so whereas somewhere like PWC might have needed 120 first year trainees for every 10 partners now they only need 60. There are fewer entry level graduate traineeships and increasing competition, particularly in v international sectors like tech and finance. Many more grads going into “non- grad”
roles to get a foot in the door. Also everyone says “get a degree apprenticeship” but that’s often harder than getting into a top tier uni. You generally need stellar grades. I’d say it’s tougher than the 90s for sure. When I graduated almost everyone I knew had secured their grad job during their last year and that seems much less common now. But also the general grad employment stats disguise big variations between Unis and courses.

Absolutely tougher than the 90s.

And certain sectors, as you say, ridiculously competitive. I read somewhere that JP Morgan, the investment bank, had 500,000 applications for 400 jobs!!

And with the online processes and diversity barriers, it's virtually impossible for a white boy to get a foot in the door in terms of grad schemes. I guess they have to find other ways...

I agree with contextualisation for uni applications but I don't agree with cutting out a large percentage of the population due to them NOT being female, 'diverse' or with a disability. I do agree that those groups should be helped and with roles ear marked in terms of a %, but maybe the pendulum has swung too far, and a huge group of young men are feeling left behind.

yabbadabbatoo · 16/10/2025 11:17

MaturingCheeseball · 14/10/2025 13:35

But as I said for “graduate schemes” it is increasingly difficult to demonstrate that you are a great candidate, no matter how many extra jobs you’ve done and soft skills you’ve acquired.

Dc received a rejection, after doing the AI tests and having an AI interview, with the explanation that their academic profile was lacking. Er, I don’t think so.

Yes AI and these tests. I also read that there is much cheating going on. I don't condone it but I can imagine parents do or even 'buy in' help to ace the tests. It's all a bit ridiculous.

MaturingCheeseball · 16/10/2025 11:47

Yes, it’s come to an AI interviewer vs. an AI candidate!

dc passed one AI test but then the next stage is doing more tests but in person. It boils your head!

Badbadbunny · 16/10/2025 12:51

@MaturingCheeseball

Times have certainly changed. Posters saying “do a paper round” “get a holiday job” - !!!! Businesses are operating on a shoestring now and no longer employ heaps of Saturday kids

It's not just shoestring. It's regulation and the marketplace. Our village newsagents has no "paper boys" anyone - they have a handful of mature adults who use their own cars. So few people have papers delivered, the rounds are huge instead, i.e. one round IS the village, impossible to do it all on foot or by bike. Another round is the next village a few miles away - again, needs a car. They cover several villages since the village's own shops closed. No single round has enough houses being delivered to for a youngster to do it by foot nor bike! We're along time past the days where a single round was a single road done by a lad/girl walking as so few have papers delivered.

Likewise regulations prevent people from working in some workplaces from a young age, such as prohibitions on young people working in kitchens. Licensed shops can't have school age people on the tills as they can't sell alcohol nor tobacco etc. Even if your business isn't caught, you still need permission from the local council/school to employ a school age child, which often takes weeks/months to obtain.

Badbadbunny · 16/10/2025 12:56

yabbadabbatoo · 16/10/2025 11:16

Absolutely tougher than the 90s.

And certain sectors, as you say, ridiculously competitive. I read somewhere that JP Morgan, the investment bank, had 500,000 applications for 400 jobs!!

And with the online processes and diversity barriers, it's virtually impossible for a white boy to get a foot in the door in terms of grad schemes. I guess they have to find other ways...

I agree with contextualisation for uni applications but I don't agree with cutting out a large percentage of the population due to them NOT being female, 'diverse' or with a disability. I do agree that those groups should be helped and with roles ear marked in terms of a %, but maybe the pendulum has swung too far, and a huge group of young men are feeling left behind.

I agree. Far too many older people just don't understand how bad things are these days. My son managed to get a graduate scheme job - he was one of only 10 for one of the UK's largest insurance firms, and he said there were thousands of applicants. The year after they've only taken on 5 on the same scheme he's doing. That is for the entire country, not just the office he works in! It's crazy.

He also looked into apprenticeships before deciding on Uni. Absolutely nothing at all within commuting distance of our home town meaning he'd need to move which is impossible to afford even shared housing on a very low minimum wage apprentice scheme job! The nearest was nearly a two hour drive away - the wage wouldn't even have paid for an older banger and fuel costs! It may be good in the big cities or if you live close to a big employer like BAE, but out in the regions, smaller cities, towns etc., the only "opportunities" are often tin-pot tiny firms who usually get their apprentices via the local college of FE and have very limited career opportunities if you don't want to become a builder, hairdresser, car mechanic,etc.

Kimura · 16/10/2025 14:21

Make sure they get familiar with LinkedIn. I hate it more than any other social media platform I've ever used, but it's so much cheaper, easier and quicker for companies to use LI than agencies when recruiting now.

I think the main role parents will play in helping this generation enter the job market is moral support. Its going to become the norm to apply for 3-400 roles before you get a bite, and that's got to be massively overwhelming and disenhartening.

Badbadbunny · 17/10/2025 13:03

Kimura · 16/10/2025 14:21

Make sure they get familiar with LinkedIn. I hate it more than any other social media platform I've ever used, but it's so much cheaper, easier and quicker for companies to use LI than agencies when recruiting now.

I think the main role parents will play in helping this generation enter the job market is moral support. Its going to become the norm to apply for 3-400 roles before you get a bite, and that's got to be massively overwhelming and disenhartening.

I agree with Linkedin. My son's Uni career's advisory services were hot on telling students to create a Linkedin profile and keep it updated. In a few of his graduate scheme job interviews (and various managers in his graduate job in the latter year) have mentioned his Linkedin profile so they've clearly been looking at it as part of recruitment process and line management within the workplace.

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