My boyfriend broke up with me. Is it wrong to talk to guys.

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I wrote a post before about me and my boyfriend now ex breaking up. I am far from wanting to date again I’m done with that for now. However I was thinking is it wrong if I go out with my girls and casually chat with guys while out ?

Why would it be wrong? You’re single. And you’re allowed to talk to men even if you have a boyfriend - it’s hardly cheating!

How old are you? You’re no longer in a relationship with this person. You can do whatever you want, you answer only to yourself.

@Piccante im 26. I feel guilty even though I'm not with him.

Of course it's not. Just be aware that you may be hurting and vulnerable and looking for reassurance from a man. Don't do anything you may regret.

I don’t understand the question - talk to who you want to. You’re single.

What's the reason you're asking?

I'm just curious because I know you're well aware it's quite categorically not wrong.

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I think I just feel guilty like should I be waiting a month atleast. But uh I guess it’s pointless it’s me overthinking

Even if you are not single, it's ok to speak to people if the opposite sex. Obviously how ok it is rather depends on the conversation if you are not single.

Do you not have any agency over your own life?!

You can have a conversation with men regardless. You are overthinking this- did you want the relationship to end?

@Runningismyhappyplace50 i didn’t want the relationship to end. It was a surprise for it to end. I think I’m still processing everything

You are free to do as you please. Its nobody else's business. Just be aware you will probably be feeling a bit vulnerable x

Do what you want but be aware you are on the rebound so protect yourself. Why would
you wait a month? It’s only talking.

You’re 26 years old ffs. Surely you’re aware that you can talk to whoever the fuck you want, whenever you want? It would be OK to ‘talk to guys’ even if you were in a relationship. You’re not living in Afghanistan or an episode of The Handmaid’s Tale. You are allowed to have conversations with other adults.

Do you come from an extremely conservative background, or have you grown up in a family where women are controlled by men or something?

Was your ex boyfriend quite manipulative?
Did he try and make you feel guilty about things?

But to answer your questions, it’s absolutely fine to chat to guys. You’re single. You’re free to do as you please.

You don’t have to talk to other guys just yet if you don’t feel comfortable. (Rebounds never work). I’d just take a few weeks to process the breakup as it’s obvious come as a shock. Focus on yourself and your well-being. Just because you’re newly single doesn’t mean you have to jump back into the dating pool.

How could it be wrong? Weird question.

You might not want to, or feel ready. That’s fine. You might want to chat without any intention of developing a relationship at the moment. Also fine.

I talk to guys all the time, regardless whether I am single or partnered.

Honestly, pull your big girl pants up and live your life, you don't need male permission to do anything in your life. With that attitude, you'll be extremely vulnerable to abusive men.

Why would it be wrong? I dont get it

So did mine. I mock him for fun

Do you think he’s waiting?

You’re over thinking and the only one putting a time limit on it is you.

You are young, free and single now. You can do whatever you want. Also, and this is just me. If my boyfriend broke up with me when I didn’t want them to, there is no way I’d be showing them any respect by waiting a certain amount of time.

You can talk to whoever you like whenever you like whether you are in a relationship or not