Feeling unbelievably anxious about moving home

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Hello I’m moving house with my 6yo son and husband in 2 weeks all has been exchanged and now the final stretch is in sight- we have packers coming and doing it all but I just feel unbelievably overwhelmed- we’ve lived here 10 years and moving not too far but the are will still be new to us, it’s the house we love etc/ our dream home, in fact we weren’t looking and then it came along etc! but the anxiety is actually unbearable and I can’t seem to calm it down, so much so I’m having physical symptoms such as hives, nose bleeds, migraines etc. also doesn’t help me and my husband both work quite stressful jobs and long hours and both can’t take the time off before due to commitments etc. I wondered if anybody had any tips/stories on what helped them- Practical and/or emotional, this feeling is so overwhelming and I feel so discombobulated!

(To add I am Auadhd so the idea of change is very intense!)

What are you actually nervous about? Maybe if you can pinpoint that a bit more you can rationalise it?

You have all the actual house buying stress tied up by the sounds of things and packers moving you. Which part is actually giving you anxiety?

You don't really need to take time off before hand as there isn't that much to do before the packers come apart from maybe getting rid of things you don't want to take with you.

Being AuDHD and dealing with change is hard! Some suggestions that may help:
write a list of all the lovely things about your new home, as much detail as possible and read this/visualise it at least once a day.
mindfulness - I know some people don’t get on with it, but even doing 3 deep breaths in through your nose, and slowly out through your mouth can help to calm the physical sensation of anxiety.
If you feel your anxiety building, do some jumping jacks or running on the spot. This can force your brain to think about what you are doing and stop focusing on the anxiety.
Grounding yourself with; 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell, 1 thing you can taste
There are lots of other things you can do to distract/redirect your brain from the anxiety, I like listening to The French Whisperer on Spotify.

I know it can feel like too much, but you’ve got this. Just keep reminding yourself it will be over soon, it is will absolutely be worth it and take a deep breath x

Moving house is one of the most stressful events in life, with many studies placing it as the most stressful- above divorce or having children. You are not alone op. With neurodiversity and stressful jobs in addition it’s no wonder you feel overwhelmed. Give yourself a break.

my advice is to outsource as much as you can afford to, and try to break the process into pieces rather than trying to tackle the whole.