To ask if you think this is a derogatory comment about breastfeeding?

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A couple are starting to wean their 6 month old baby onto solid food. Baby has been mostly breastfed up to this point. Baby is giving mixed reactions, sometimes liking it and sometimes throwing food on the floor.
DW says - never mind he’ll get used to it.
DH in a huff says - well he’ll have to, he can’t have boob all the time.
DW thinks this is a bit of a dig, DH tells her she’s being ridiculous. Who do you agree with?
YABU - DW is right to be upset
YANBU - DH was just making a joke

Both are being ridiculous. The baby will eat and will drop food and reject food for a long time yet 😊 both need to relax the baby will not starve.

Both being very sensitive. Not a dig at breastfeeding, he will eat eventually. But also, probably won't eat much for the next six months it so. Everyone needs to chill out.

It’s natural to get snappy in the first year of child rearing. Nobody is right, nobody is wrong. It’s just a lack of communication, and you can’t be arsed to communicate properly when you’re a bit stressed .

To me as an outsider both parties are saying the same thing - the baby is going to get used to food as they will get older and won’t be needing milk as a primary food source anymore.

Give yourselves a bit of slack. It’s normal to bicker a bit. Don’t keep score or hold a grudge, have a cuddle and a sleep if you can!

I breastfed all three and could be a bit defensive but even I think that he was just frustrated at it not going well, and it’s true. He can’t have boob all the time forever 😁
is it your first? You’ll both probably be feeling a bit tense and it’s likely as little one has less milk your hormones will adjust and you’ll feel a bit off

I don't see it as a joke. It's a truism. Baby will have to be weaned at some point!

I don't understand why DW should get upset at the remark, and she probably wouldn't if she wasn't tired and stressed.

Both are being unreasonably lacking in parenting skills and understanding.

Is it the word boob that has upset DW?

I can't see that he said anything wrong? Boob is a fairly common word for breast and I was unaware if it's become unacceptable? And that's the truth anyway.

There's not enough context. Does the DH have an in-my-day MiL who thinks breastfeeding after 6 weeks is attention-seeking? Does he want to have some date nights but the wife won't leave the baby? Has he been offering to do some bottle feeds to share the load but she won't try it? There are dozens of background scenarios.

Has the husband been trying to reduce the baby breastfeeding/been annoyed at the baby being breastfed?

Because in a totally out of context way, that conversation seems totally fine. I’d have said it about my own DDs and I breastfed them until they were over 2. My DH was totally supportive of whatever I wanted in terms of breastfeeding, so I’d have seen that comment as just a statement of fact. But if the context is that the husband has been making comments about breastfeeding for 6 months, then that changes things.

This isn’t about me - my kids are 10 and 7 now!

Friend having problems with her dh and got upset by the comment. Friend thinks dh is a bit jealous of baby. I think comment was careless but not worth getting upset over. Hence why I’ve asked MN.

Baby is only six months and some babies pick it up quickly some don’t.

All three of mine didn’t have issues with eating solids BUT they still nursed til 2 and I was happy with it and DH wasn’t fussed. We did struggle with DS1 because he wouldn’t take milk at all and refused water at nursery, but would drink smoothies. He is autistic and only drinks water. DS2 doesn’t like milk either, both drink just water but are great eaters. DD1 likes milk but will only take it if she spoonfeeds it into her mouth at almost 2. She still nurses, eats plenty of food and drinks water.

If friend says he is jealous I wonder if he struggles to settle baby or is he one of those guys that is territorial about his spouse’s chest.

I voted YANBU, but I don't even think it was a joke on the part of the dh. It was just an accurate, factual statement!

Neither is right or wrong the baby is very young and just trying out new textures and tastes and its common to spit out and reject food at this stage.