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Private school underperformed I think my friend should get a refund. AIBU?

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Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 19:58

Friends daughter did her A levels at a posh girls school in Shrewsbury and failed to get the grades she needed for her university place. Now all the results are published, it looks like the school has massively underperformed for some reason. I think she should get a refund on some of the fees.

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Catfox1 · 12/10/2025 21:18

I can understand your point on a service level. I wouldn’t want to pay for a bad job done to the house. A bit harder to prove there was a failure across the board in teaching v student inadequacy.

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 21:18

ComfortBadService · 12/10/2025 21:13

Nobody here knows enough to answer this. Yes there could have been a weak cohort, though such a plummet feels unusual. Is it selective entry? Did the exam boards change suddenly with inadequate time to prepare? What is the teacher recruitment and retention like? What is the culture in the SLT? Was it all subjects or just STEM where there is a serious teacher shortage?

If the kids and teachers worked hard, then this is disappointing for all concerned. No chance of a refund though.

Exams on entry but not sure how selective they actually are. They appear to have lost a lot of staff recently again my friend doesn’t know why, and I know other parents have moved children because of concern regarding teachers. Still think she should get a portion of her fees back

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Yessiricanboogieallnightlong · 12/10/2025 21:18

CeciliaMars · 12/10/2025 21:15

I teach at a private school. The teaching is no better than state. It can add value in that the children have good facilities and smaller class sizes. But you can’t make kids more intelligent, you can’t make them work harder if they don’t want to and every cohort of children is completely different. Some private schools have quite a lot of children with SEN, because parents who can afford to have decided against state as their child would flounder. Some private school kids are entitled and think the world is going to fall in their lap no matter how hard they work. In short, no your friend should not get a refund.

Totally this and A lot of parents whose children are SEN but don’t want labelling or borderline SEN but won’t get additional support are sending their kids to private school for the smaller class sizes and pastoral support. It’s sad but I would go private too if my child wasn’t that able or lost in state system.

ParmaVioletTea · 12/10/2025 21:19

The pupil underperformed, not the school.

Em1972 · 12/10/2025 21:19

Problemhooves · 12/10/2025 21:05

I think the onus is on the parents to remove their children if they think the teaching is subpar. You can't wait till they do their exams and get the results and only then demand a refund. If she knew the teaching was pants, she could've found her a place elsewhere and potentially saved her money and/or her daughter may have got better grades

Tricky if the parents had no idea and the school kept telling them they were on target

clary · 12/10/2025 21:21

While it's true that private schools can employ unqualified teachers, and this detail is often trotted out, IME (and I am not by any stretch a private school parent) the teachers are qualified at private schools too. I was a classroom teacher for several years and have a lot of friends who still teach; some are in the private sector and they are still the excellent, qualified teachers they were, as are their colleagues.

I think it is possible that the cohort at this school was weaker; perhaps the teaching in some key subjects taken by a lot of students was not the best; possibly a key topic was missed out or mistaught (unlikely but possible); or maybe some of the DC just didn't work as hard. If it is a small school (sorry others seem to know which school but I am not familiar with it) then any issues will seem amplified.

You can't ask for a refund as no school, state or private, will guarantee xxx results; a teacher can predict grades but there are so many variables.

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 12/10/2025 21:22

Can happen in any school. Schools go up and down.

ParmaVioletTea · 12/10/2025 21:23

And a lot of families with the money send their “nice but dim Tim” to a paid-for school in the hope that the smaller classes and spoon feeding will get their DC better grades than they might otherwise merit.

It’s why universities look at the overall school record - educational advantage generally maps onto socio-economic advantage.

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 21:23

Em1972 · 12/10/2025 21:19

Tricky if the parents had no idea and the school kept telling them they were on target

I think that’s part of the issue - told child was on target and blatantly she wasn’t

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runningpram · 12/10/2025 21:23

Is it the gdst school? That is a selective school so a reasonably bright cohort. The grades should be decent.

arcticpandas · 12/10/2025 21:25

Hfstjsufysyfykdhoxg · 12/10/2025 20:04

No chance they'll get a refund.

It amazes me that people think they'll have better teachers in independent schools. In my experience (working in the independent sector for decades, but also in time at state) the teachers in state are better qualified and often much, much better teachers.

Yes but often they can't spend their time teaching because the students are so disruptive. My friend who teaches physics says that she loses in average 1/3 of every lesson due to this. So logically students get 1/3 less teaching time than their private school peers which is a lot. She was the one who told me to put ds in private if possible, yet she works in a state secondary.

Blahdiblahblahr · 12/10/2025 21:27

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 20:36

That’s very interesting a state school would get ofsted or something probably

Yeah. Everyone seems to be dismissing your point out of hand but there is an interesting point.

if your kid doesn’t get the results they wanted, too bad, of course you don’t get a refund. Anyone paying fees thinking they magically buy those A* grades deserves to be parted from their cash.

But your point feels more fundamental. That there is evidence the school hasn’t done the basics, ie: fulfilled their contract of actually educating the kids, teaching the curriculum appropriately and so on. Surely the whole year aren’t dunces.

And for the whole year to have done so badly despite likely being from motivated homes where they were encouraged to study etc (before anyone shoots me, statistically parents who pay for their kids schooling tend to be motivated to get them to revise…) - makes me wonder if there was just a massive b*lls up like they were teaching the wrong curriculum or something? Or changed exam boards and hadn’t got up to speed with the different courses or something?

Because if it was that I do wonder if there’s any legal protection for breach of contracf though it would be so hard to prove

ClawsandEffect · 12/10/2025 21:31

There are a range of things that could have happened.

  • It could be a weaker cohort. Every school year group has strengths and weaknesses. One year group might be more STEM. The next year group might have a Humanities skillset.
  • Behaviour might have taken a dip. The more disruption in lessons, the less learning going on.
  • The exam could have been harder. You've only got to look at some past papers to see that some years a particular subject's exams are harder than others.
  • The grade boundaries might have undergone a drastic overhaul having a knock on effect on grades.
  • The exam questions may have slightly changed. Or been worded differently. Or the marking focus might have changed. This isn't always clearly communicated to teachers of the cohort it affects.

Ultimately, she's not getting her money back. She can always resit. I'd pay for some really good quality tutoring to help bump up her resit grade (although resits are about to start now, so it's a bit late for a November resit).

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 21:33

runningpram · 12/10/2025 21:23

Is it the gdst school? That is a selective school so a reasonably bright cohort. The grades should be decent.

Yes it is and grades were really bad not just a bit down - I think something has happened at the school and that’s why she should get a refund

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Em1972 · 12/10/2025 21:34

runningpram · 12/10/2025 21:23

Is it the gdst school? That is a selective school so a reasonably bright cohort. The grades should be decent.

Exactly.

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 21:34

ClawsandEffect · 12/10/2025 21:31

There are a range of things that could have happened.

  • It could be a weaker cohort. Every school year group has strengths and weaknesses. One year group might be more STEM. The next year group might have a Humanities skillset.
  • Behaviour might have taken a dip. The more disruption in lessons, the less learning going on.
  • The exam could have been harder. You've only got to look at some past papers to see that some years a particular subject's exams are harder than others.
  • The grade boundaries might have undergone a drastic overhaul having a knock on effect on grades.
  • The exam questions may have slightly changed. Or been worded differently. Or the marking focus might have changed. This isn't always clearly communicated to teachers of the cohort it affects.

Ultimately, she's not getting her money back. She can always resit. I'd pay for some really good quality tutoring to help bump up her resit grade (although resits are about to start now, so it's a bit late for a November resit).

But other local schools have done as well as they always have - it’s just the girls school that has had a massive dip. I think a refund and explanation is due

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Bluevelvetsofa · 12/10/2025 21:35

If the school were to refund your friend the money for the two years of A level, what do you think would be the criteria. A percentage per grade dropped? Half the fees? A third?

What about the cohort who dropped grades? Are they entitled to refunds too, or just your friend?

There are several reasons for under performance

Lack of ability
Lack of application
Poor teaching
Poor subject knowledge
A badly run school

As has been said, there are some parents who opt for a private school because of the pastoral care and smaller classes. That doesn’t mean effective, top notch teaching though.

I’d guess it was a combination of difficulties and lack of leadership in the school, leading to ineffective teaching and lack of effort from the students.

Em1972 · 12/10/2025 21:36

Blessedbethefruitloopss · 12/10/2025 21:09

Maybe they should fine the parents for bringing their stats down 🤷‍♀️

it would be unreasonable to request a refund.

😂

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 21:37

Bluevelvetsofa · 12/10/2025 21:35

If the school were to refund your friend the money for the two years of A level, what do you think would be the criteria. A percentage per grade dropped? Half the fees? A third?

What about the cohort who dropped grades? Are they entitled to refunds too, or just your friend?

There are several reasons for under performance

Lack of ability
Lack of application
Poor teaching
Poor subject knowledge
A badly run school

As has been said, there are some parents who opt for a private school because of the pastoral care and smaller classes. That doesn’t mean effective, top notch teaching though.

I’d guess it was a combination of difficulties and lack of leadership in the school, leading to ineffective teaching and lack of effort from the students.

I think 1/3 back on the fees and an acknowledgment there’s been issues would be good.
Take home message teaching in the local state school may well be better

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Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 21:38

ParmaVioletTea · 12/10/2025 21:19

The pupil underperformed, not the school.

The whole cohort underperformed

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Blahdiblahblahr · 12/10/2025 21:39

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 21:33

Yes it is and grades were really bad not just a bit down - I think something has happened at the school and that’s why she should get a refund

Based on your posts (and I have read the whole thread) it does sound like something odd going on.

Two examples for me come to mind - my brother many years ago was at a secondary school where they had a new head who wanted to try some experimental ideas. Homework was scrapped and kids were guided towards independent study… bright cohort all did terribly in their GCSEs. Another a mate who was at a posh school again some years back and they decided to pivot to doing IB away from A levels. The head figured the teachers (who were only used to teaching A level) could just figure it out. Of course they didn’t, bright cohort all flunked and no one went to oxbridge that year (a big deal as it was a place used to sending a lot of kids on).

My point is, f ups do happen. They do. But it would need to be something properly major like the above examples to be in refund territory - i don’t think ‘poor management’ could cut it.

Toddlerteaplease · 12/10/2025 21:42

Hfstjsufysyfykdhoxg · 12/10/2025 20:04

No chance they'll get a refund.

It amazes me that people think they'll have better teachers in independent schools. In my experience (working in the independent sector for decades, but also in time at state) the teachers in state are better qualified and often much, much better teachers.

A friend of mine teaches in private schools. He’s got a degree from Cambridge, but isn’t a qualified teacher.

Blahdiblahblahr · 12/10/2025 21:43

Bluevelvetsofa · 12/10/2025 21:35

If the school were to refund your friend the money for the two years of A level, what do you think would be the criteria. A percentage per grade dropped? Half the fees? A third?

What about the cohort who dropped grades? Are they entitled to refunds too, or just your friend?

There are several reasons for under performance

Lack of ability
Lack of application
Poor teaching
Poor subject knowledge
A badly run school

As has been said, there are some parents who opt for a private school because of the pastoral care and smaller classes. That doesn’t mean effective, top notch teaching though.

I’d guess it was a combination of difficulties and lack of leadership in the school, leading to ineffective teaching and lack of effort from the students.

But it wouldn’t be the grades that would be the metric for a refund. I think in this case the argument would be about the input - showing that the actual level of education has been so lacking as to mean a breach of contract.

I have no idea if this could be proved but I do know from cases in my own life there have been situations where schools have failed to provide the basics and in the state sector exam boards would step in and take a view. So if this has happened at this private school (it could just be a weak cohort) the girls ironically would have less protection.

OwlIceCrem · 12/10/2025 21:44

To add as well, there’s no way anyone will be getting a refund. That money will already have been spent. The majority of private school fee money goes on staffing (not just teaching) and it will have gone on salaries. There is no money to refund.

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 21:44

Blahdiblahblahr · 12/10/2025 21:27

Yeah. Everyone seems to be dismissing your point out of hand but there is an interesting point.

if your kid doesn’t get the results they wanted, too bad, of course you don’t get a refund. Anyone paying fees thinking they magically buy those A* grades deserves to be parted from their cash.

But your point feels more fundamental. That there is evidence the school hasn’t done the basics, ie: fulfilled their contract of actually educating the kids, teaching the curriculum appropriately and so on. Surely the whole year aren’t dunces.

And for the whole year to have done so badly despite likely being from motivated homes where they were encouraged to study etc (before anyone shoots me, statistically parents who pay for their kids schooling tend to be motivated to get them to revise…) - makes me wonder if there was just a massive b*lls up like they were teaching the wrong curriculum or something? Or changed exam boards and hadn’t got up to speed with the different courses or something?

Because if it was that I do wonder if there’s any legal protection for breach of contracf though it would be so hard to prove

I think that’s the difficulty proving they failed to teach to the level required- and it wasn’t just thick or lazy pupils

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