More of a rant as I really don’t believe IABU, but I’m crying in the bathroom nonetheless.
We have an open plan kitchen/living room, an autistic 4yo DS and 5 month old baby. DH likes to play music loudly whilst cooking. This evening he’s playing Linkin Park, loudly, extractor fan on full blast etc.
DS starts throwing things, being generally dysregulated. The baby is looking at me as if to say wtf is that noise. I hand my DH his wireless headphones and ask him to please listen on headphones. He says no as it’s not the same sensory experience as listening out loud. He says I’m taking away his “autonomy and free will” and that he has “difficult wife syndrome which is incurable”.
My life is spent managing our son’s sensory needs which is challenging as baby often crying/loud. I don’t want to listen to loud music which then creates challenging behaviour in our son. I’m overstimulated myself.
AIBU to expect him to wear the fucking headphones