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Husband snappy today

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Chickencuddle · 12/10/2025 16:25

I dont know if im being sensitive because im on my period and maybe even im the ratty one.
My husband keeps snapping at me today. Getting annoyed with things not just me.
For example we watched the last but if a bake off episode with kids this morning and one of the contestants said
"Oh my god"
He snappy "cant say oh my God. That's blasphemy. Should be oh my gosh."
The kids were confused as we always say oh my God and he does too. We aren't religious. He kept insisting it was blasphemy and couldn't say it.
He's been jyat doing things in an annoyed qay. Hard to describe.
I have a really bad cold and taking flu tablets and he said
"Have you taken your flu tablets"
I said "no its not time yet" then looked at the clock and it had literally just turned the time I was meant to take them ao said
"Oh wait it is. Ill get them in a minute"
Then he went on about how i need to be on top of it and should be taking them every 4 hours and not helping myself etc etc
I didnt take them straight away as was in the middle of homework with my children and could wait 15 minutes. He kept telling me every other minute hut its just not in a nice way its like ordering me.
Then slammed the pills in front of me with water and said
"There you go! Take them!" In this short angry way
I said I would in a minute but didnt like him telling me when to take them I would do it in a minute. This again triggered him lecturing me.
Then just now I am cooking roast dinner. He is vegan and I normally do a big roast and he has vegan sausages with it or similar. He always buys vegan frozen stuff so he has it for quick meals and I told him few days ago id do roast on Sunday. Then again this korning I said it. Then dinner is halfway through and he says hes not having a roast today abd needs to make his own. I was using all the oven space so this meant he didnt have room for what he wanted to do. I said
"This is why its sometimes difficult you being vegan"
It is often difficult and I might my tongue but I didn't today. I dont think I said it in a mean way jyst said what was on my mind and not in a huffy way or anytjing.
He shouted at me that it wasnt his problem and the probkem is the kids as I make different things for them often. Today making one of my kids chicken noodle soup as she doesn't like roast for example.
I said yes it is difficult catering for different needs but his are always included in that too as he eats differently. We rarely eat together etc. He is shouting im talking hes insisting its a horrible thing to say. Now that im writing this I think maybe it is it obviously hurt his feelings and I should apologise.
Just felt on edge today and bit sad. Always seems to be tension.

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ShesTheAlbatross · 12/10/2025 16:37

Is he often like this?

It’s not ok to talk to you like that, but there’s a difference between him doing it frequently, and him normally being lovely but today is off. I think the advice would change.

Houseoftrouser25 · 12/10/2025 16:40

Sounds like he is picking fights.

TheatricalLife · 12/10/2025 16:44

I couldn't live like that.
He's making issues up to pick at you. Basically, he's spoiling for a fight. Assuming this is a regular thing, I'd be thinking about if this is what I want my life to be.
I've been with DH for 28 years and he's never ever shouted at me or spoken to me like that.
Sounds like the kids think he's a bit of a twat as well.

CurlewKate · 12/10/2025 16:47

Is he often like this?

Chickencuddle · 12/10/2025 17:55

He does sometimes get in "moods" where i feel I can do nothing right. Or snappy etc. But its not all the time.

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