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Surgery next week

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evianisyoung · 12/10/2025 00:26

Keeping it gauge; I’m having surgery next week which is a huge deal - think gyane in preparation for something. It’s emotionally really taken its toll, I’ve confined in two of my ‘closest’ friends about how anxious it’s making me feel but not droaned on about it. Have rang them both over the weekend, and text see how they are. Not one has either of them asked how I am; if I want to meet up before I’m not able to do anything for a few weeks or anything of the sort. Am I being too sensitive? I just think if the roles were reversed I’d be checking in on them, seeing if they need anything etc etc - just made me feel very lonely and crap.

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KillMeMounjaro · 12/10/2025 00:33

I had some gynae surgery earlier this year and I was terrified. I was too terrified to even undergo a GA, so my wonderful anaesthetist gave me a spinal block and sedation instead. It was all fine.

Im sorry you’re going through this worrying time, OP, I know what it’s like.
Perhaps your friends don’t realise what a big deal it is for you? Perhaps they think you’d rather not be constantly reminded of it, or have a fuss made about it?

I hope it goes well for you 💐

DoodleLug · 12/10/2025 00:36

It probably is that your friends don't realise, which is poor but I'm sure they care they're just caught up in other things.

Are you wanting to see them before you go in? I'd say so, with the comment that your recovery will be quite long so good to get together now.

I hope your recovery is super quick.

evianisyoung · 12/10/2025 00:38

@KillMeMounjaro ah I’m glad all went well for you, I’m absolutely petrified too and have voiced this (without wanted to sound like a burden to my friends), they’ve all just said you’ll be fine, surgeons do this all the time - well it’s not something I do everyday thankfully ☹️

thank you for your well wishes and reply xx

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Eenameenadeeka · 12/10/2025 00:39

I wonder if they feel it better not to ask, knowing that you are feeling anxious and don't want to bring it up? I hope it all goes well for you

evianisyoung · 12/10/2025 00:40

DoodleLug · 12/10/2025 00:36

It probably is that your friends don't realise, which is poor but I'm sure they care they're just caught up in other things.

Are you wanting to see them before you go in? I'd say so, with the comment that your recovery will be quite long so good to get together now.

I hope your recovery is super quick.

Thank you! I did suggest meeting up a few weekends ago which we did, I just sometimes think I expect more as I’m a friend that gives more that others, not always a good trait to have! Thank you xx

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