Blurred lines between exes

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My partner and I have been together for 6 months. They broke up at Christmas as she left the family home with their son. It has not been very amicable.
They have a shared business, has a high presence on social media. Known in the local community.
She recently updated the business page and signed off as the two of them (like the old days before they broke up) Shortly after the break up she signed off as just herself and their child.
I feel undermined and worried.
He has reassured me that there is no secret ongoing relationship and she must have accidentally signed a post as the two of them.
He said she will have meant it with no malice but I disagree. They do still work in the business together but I find it unsettling.
Am I being unreasonably for being hurt by these public posts? It was signed in such a way that they appear as still a team.
He said it has annoyed him too but it was out of control as she manages the social media pages.
it leaves me to wonder what is going on.

I'm a very paranoid person (less so than I used to be, though!)

Very gently, OP, I would say that you need to trust him. Sometimes people slip up, and especially so (I imagine) when they run a business together. Just because she's signed off from the two of them doesn't mean anything is going on. I would take his reassurance at face value x

If they have a shared business doesn't it make sense to sign off from both of them?

They still share the business together is a Facebook one and last month she signed off by herself. This new post she has signed off from them both. It doesn’t make sense considering he tells me it is acrimonious. It has just spun me out a bit.

Are they in the process of dividing the business? Or does the business benefit from them both being visible and customer-facing?
They will naturally retain some sort of relationship - at least professional, but ideally it would become a more friendly one, as who wants to work in a war zone?!
If you’re likely to spiral because of this, or you find yourself analysing every social media post, simply call it quits now.

Rebound OP, throw this one back.

OP he had only just split with the mother of his child when he met you, literally 4 months it seems. You will drive yourself round the twist constantly checking fbook posts.

This seems an awful lot of angst for a new relationship. Don’t be the place holder girlfriend OP. Perhaps this situation isn’t for you.

She probably just thinks it’s better for business that they still look like a team. I think you’re setting yourself up for a lot of heartache if this bothers you though.

This man had a whole life with her, got himself a new girlfriend very quickly and it’s still only six months in. You can’t expect to feel a strong level of commitment and relationship security at this stage. He’s barely had a chance to sort himself out after such a big breakup.

The signing thing wouldn't worry me too much. It could be that she did it for the good of the business, or it could be that she's trying to stir a bit, but either way it wasn't something he did.

However, the overall situation would worry me more. To be involved with someone going through a very recent, acrimonious split involving a child is not a great start to a relationship! Take things very slowly OP.. I think this may turn out to be more trouble than it's worth.

Too soon to have a relationship with this one. He will still have far too much emotional a stuff going on.

Could’ve been a scheduled post from before they were split? But aside from that, I don’t think this relationship is the one for you. He’s hardly out the door of the last breakup, there are children involved, and you’re already paranoid. Personally I’d throw this one back and work a bit more on your self-esteem (that is not a criticism btw, I’m continually working on mine!).

Far to soon for him to be getting into a relationship, you need to finish it.

He shares a business and a child with his ex, she’s always going to be in his life quite substantially. She’s probably realised, quite sensibly, that pretending her business partner isn’t involved might not be great for the business, and changed tune to make it clear he is. If you’re already anxious about a duel-name business post, you need to consider how you’re going to manage when they need to spend time together for their child, or for a business arrangement or discussion.

Rebounds sometimes work out and sometimes they don’t. If your self-esteem is poor and you tend to be a worrier anyway, I’d end things now, because the likelihood of the latter is reasonably high. I wouldn’t tie my star to a man who’d begun dating weeks out of a serious relationship, he’s not sorted his shit out and taken any time to review his new life or be single but jumped back in to find a replacement.