Christmas alone, just the two of us!

[Wildflower44]

Hi all, it's my first post here - would welcome some opinions :)
I've been with my partner for 11 years and every year we've spent Christmas with his mum and brother (unless brother goes away on a fabulous trip somewhere). This year I've found a lovely cabin by the sea in Scotland 3 hours from us (available 20th - 27th) and suggested to my partner we go there for Christmas, just the two of us - I'm hankering after a day lounging in PJ's, watching films, reading, cooking dinner - just a relaxed no pressure day! My partner doesn't want to let his mum down - she's 95 but a very active 95; lives in her own beautiful property, goes out to see friends/cinema/restaurants etc. We live in the same town so see her regularly. Partner's brother will be home for Christmas so will be spending it with her. I've suggested we could spend New Years Day together, am I being unreasonable? Cheers for reading this if you've got this far ;)

Sorry can't be bothered with the big drip feed, I'm out.

That’s quite the drip feed.

@Comedycook totally nailed it !!
OP read what you’ve written and consider if you should be spending Xmas or indeed any day with this man …
sounds dreadful all round

Quite the drip feed there.

It is reasonable that it might be her last Christmas (I know it's a terrible way to think about it, but she is 95).

But your whole relationship is the issue, not just Christmas. Reconsider your future for the new year.

Deleted due to the drip feed.
Taking a break.😄

This isn’t about Christmas is it. Do what you like for Christmas, expect to do it alone if he wants to be with his mum and brother. If you’re not unhappy then split up.

After you'r last update I'd be going alone to the cabin.

With mil's age, I would spend it with mil. There will be plenty of opportunities in the future for a Christmas just the two of you 😊

But really, based on this, Christmas isn't your main problem, is it?

Doesn't sound like you are getting much out of the relationship to be honest. Why don't you let him go to Mummy and you go to the cabin by yourself!