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Asked older kids to stop filming my young children

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MintMat · 11/10/2025 09:38

On the school run yesterday afternoon, 2 year 5 children started filming my year 1 and year 2 children, along with a few other kids we were walking with. Straight away I said to them, why are you filming my children? They said they were going to 'put them on TV' and 'upload a video' I immediately asked them to delete the video and told them not to film young children.
The children were wearing the same uniform as my kids so I called the school to make them aware that it had happened so they could potentially educate the older kids (whole year groups not single out any children) that it was not ok to film a 5 year old and 6 year old.
Did I over react? I am so worried about phone use and the dangers of sharing pictures and videos online, did I make too much out of this situation?

OP posts:
PloddingAlong21 · 12/10/2025 08:45

Mind blowing this many kids in primary have mobile phones. My whole local areas primary schools have signed up to a mobile phone free school. They’re banned. Some arguments from parents from children travelling/walking on their own. Allowances have been made and they hand their phones in when they get to school.

Usernamenotav · 12/10/2025 11:24

Longnightsshortdays · 11/10/2025 09:57

As far as I'm aware they are allowed to film other children so long as they are not harassing them or the film is not indecent.
BUT it isn't legal to post these films, as they said they were going to do, without your consent.

You did the right thing OP.
This type of behaviour needs to be addressed by education.

One of the problems I've had in the on going harassment from the local children is children, 10 or 11 year olds, filming me when I'm in my garden. And I know they share these videos which is why so many children in the area know who I am and it has escalated the problem.
When I talked to the police about this I've had various officers telling me the problems filming and Tiktok has caused for them.

The idea that older children actially think it's ok to film younger children and share their images is very worrying.

Edited

It's legal for them to post it too, unfortunately (unless for commercial use of course)

ImAMinion · 12/10/2025 11:39

I would fully support laws that ban smartphone ownership for children - I know such a law would be impossible to be in place.

Posts like this demonstrate why children are not ready to have smartphones. They do not understand or have the maturity to use them properly. Why the heck would they feel the need to film random children and upload it? Because they see random videos of random people being uploaded doing all sorts of things and have no sense of privacy violation or why this could be wrong. People upload videos of strangers without consent for entertainment. It’s a huge problem for society.

And of course everyone has now been conditioned to believe their children “need” a phone. Sure - for safety - get them one. But get them a brick without a camera until they are mature enough. No 9 year old needs a phone. They just want one.

Acg1991 · 12/10/2025 21:52

I think that was the perfect reaction tbh. You asked them to stop, whether they did or not, someone needs to educate them on why they should not be doing this, just because is it is legal does not make it acceptable. It is for their safety as well, one day someone may take offence to being filmed and may not ask politely for them to stop!
Any half decent school will help deal with incidents outside of school involving other members of the school community, particularly when wearing school uniform. An appropriate reaction from school would either be communication to parents to speak to their children or just a short talk during an assembly.
I am sure there was nothing malicious in it and just kids messing around, but completely understand why you wouldn't want random children filming your young children and potentially putting it online.

BellissimoGecko · 13/10/2025 07:25

Mh67 · 11/10/2025 21:26

You didn't do anything wrong but school won't do anything as it's outside of the building. They are only obligated to deal with issues when it's on their premises

In my experience, schools will absolutely do something about this. Schools get involved with pupils’ bad behaviour on school transport on the way to and from school, with pupils’ lack of road safety/bad behaviour walking to and from school, etc. Generally, if pupils can be IDd by their uniforms, schools are happy to step in and help/educate their pupils.

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