To worry my sex drive will never come back

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So I’ve been taking Citalopram for 2.5 years for PMT. Awful PMT that made me so miserable and my DH miserable. It’s helped a lot, not totally but a lot. However it’s taken my sex drive away! It’s zero! I am never in the mood and although we do have sex at least once a week and I do orgasm (sorry if TMI!), I could happily never have it. I used to want to have sex and initiate it. I’m only 38 and whilst I don’t want to come off Citalopram, I also don’t want to never have a sex drive!

Thankfully my DH doesn’t have a really high sex drive and is very understanding but I want to want to have sex!

Has anyone experienced the same? I know it’s a side effect. I wonder if there are any supplements that might help?

thanks in advance

Ooof OP. My sex drive has been low since having kids (I'm 41 and can happily go a few months), but having sex once a week when you aren't in the mood? Doesn't that give you a huge ick? That can't be helping getting back to a place where sex is pleasurable.

Once we start having sex I’m ok but I just never think ‘yay let’s have sex’! We also need lube!

I just this weekend talked my GP about testosterone to help bring my sex drive back. I want to want sex but I just don't care about it.
It's awful.

I've never had a particularly high sex drive but lately it's been non existent. No idea why. I'm 36.
I'd like to think it's more common than I realise but part of me thinks there's something wrong with me.
I just can't be arsed most of the time and want to go to sleep.

I think we do need to normalise that actually a lot of women from late thirties onwards are.....

Not bothered.

There's nothing wrong with you, its okay, it natural that the hormones that drove those urges have waned. Those hormones exist because you are fertile, its your body's way of trying to knock you up. You hit a stage where the baby shop is shut & your body does not waste its time or energy telling you to go and have sex.

Yes, there's an issue here in that its not always the same for a male partner so maybe some hrt etc is an answer.

But please - don't see yourself/your body as the issue, or think there's something wrong with you. It's quite normal.

You could ask to try a different antidepressant. Citalopram messed with my sex drive a bit, but I had no issues on Sertraline.

The Pill - especially the mini pill - also makes some women’s sex drives plummet.

The fact that you actually enjoy it when you do have sex, and are able to come, is a good sign I think, so hopefully you will manage to get your mojo back.

Oh I totally get it may be normal for my age etc but I wish it wasn’t! I wondered about a different antidepressant.