Looking for some advice please or if any one else is in a similar position.
My young adult child has attended schools above attendance.
Got diagnosed officially and v late after years of trying with NHS ASD ADHD.
Struggling in all aspects of life emotionally socially academically.
Struggling in non academic stuff not particularly sporty or Arty. I hope I am not sounding too negative.
Ended up long story short after less than positive experience and further education College setting Rushmoor Hampshire area naming no names !!
Has ended up at home for the last three years .
Doesn't sit any exams in person due to covid school closures this has been another difficulty for our child.
Tried online learning at home it is just too difficult it doesn't work because my young person sees home as home and school as school and college.
We have just enrolled our child into the NHS Hants and Surrey recovery college.
Which is a positive.
Our adult child just cannot concentrate at home due to their needs and we are going to round and around in circles!!!
Getting know where fast next year of this worrying about future employment paid or voluntary.
They don't have friends due to their social needs and there's obviously isolated at home and I really worry about this.
Thinking I should just leave their exams as they were from school and college
It's not that I expect my child to be a high flyer or go university but I was just hoping that it won't be quite being this situation that we have found ourselves in.
I am thinking that I should just drop all formal learning which is really only national numeracy challenge free online learning courses from open learn university.
Thinking I should look scrapping it all taking their GCSE and B -tec level ones they are for the last five years as we were unable to continue and level two at college or to even do functional math skills.
An absolute disaster and we lost our ehcp plan as a result of this 😔
I'm thinking I should scrap it all forget it all because it's not good for her mental health or even ours as parents.
Thinking that it's been an absolute disaster the last 10 years before covid during covid and after covid plus family bereavement and sickness.
I think somehow I've linked the functional my skills with the family bereavement and sickness so it's all been very upsetting and negative. Shall I just look for our child to do voluntary work so that they can build confidence self-esteem and meet people which is probably far more important than functional my skills and also through voluntary work they will be practicing real life numeracy skills.
Sorry this is such a long email just any advice would be so much appreciated but sometimes you feel as if you're the only one and I know that's not the case . We are so upset at how life turned for our young adult child it seems unfair to have to struggle so much as I really feel like putting a formal complaint in to the county council about the lack of Support support and provision in losing her EHCP plan.
Times I feel that's it so unfair and so upsetting that I feel guilty for having children because this was not how I expected their life's to turn out.
I should look towards voluntary work continue with the recovery College.
Sorry for such a long post