I’ve been seeing a guy since July. Things have felt pretty quick since being with him. (I’ve met his ex and child) he then asked me to be his girlfriend last month. He seems pretty serious..(though the too fast thing i’m unsure if good/bad) He was engaged before and came from a 13 year relationship with her and he has a toddler. I also have a toddler and been in 4/5 year relationships with two different guys funnily enough with same name. Since being with him he’s accidentally called me his ex’s name maybe yesterday was the 6th occassion. I’ve never called him my exs name and thats 9 years with same name.
At first I was quick to just brush off as thought maybe habit and such a long time together. So have never really made a fuss. It’s happened possibly during or after sex twice, then other time been in car and just casually other times. Then the 6th time last night during night I went to go to the toilet (very late on) and he said make sure door is locked and boom called me her name. Again just slept it off.
I then said to him morning how it’s happened numerous times and he went he doesn’t mean too and it probably won’t be the first or last and apologised.
I’m Autistic and can see if reasoable or unreasonable, as to me I don’t know what is the norm as never been in this situation before.
She left him, and it was more because of arguments and his mental health nothing bad bad. Ie never cheated, he said he struggled after the break up. They split just before Christmas last year. She’s in a relationship before him. He does mention her or her family often sometimes digs mainly at family and says no interest in meeting her new boyfriend when it has to happen it will happen, but i’m unsure if thats the norm mentioning family because of having kid and long term or..they also had a little dig at each other over things few weeks ago she said she was going to see her new boyfriends sport, and he went you never came to mine as a joke (he said) then she said well you never took me away to such and such (he had taken me away on break somewhere) so to me i’m like hmm.
I have kid with my ex and never mention so much..
But again can see. I guess is it a red or pretty normal?