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My 17yo Niece is temporarily moving in with me

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SlimeSuspect · 09/10/2025 21:43

I’ve just been asked by her mum (my SIL) to temporarily have my 17yo step-niece to stay. She needs a safe place as father who has alcohol issues has become erratic. She is a quiet, goth-type animal lover who I think needs a gentle hand and some female support. I’m actually v flattered that she’s asked and am hoping I can attempt to be the supportive female role model that I needed at her age.

I don’t have children of my own, so the parenting thing is pretty much alien to me. I live on my own, with my dog, am self employed but travel a bit (so she’d be on her own some nights).

Any advice from seasoned teen parents/carers on how I can make this a positive and empowering experience for us both? But still take care of boundaries/house rules etc.

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SlimeSuspect · 09/10/2025 23:50

SparklyCardigan · 09/10/2025 21:46

How about the poor lass stays in her home and her father (your brother/BIL?) stays with relatives instead. I could not support this.

He’s my SIL’s ExH. I know neither him or his current wife

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ohdearmemummy · 10/10/2025 04:59

SparklyCardigan · 09/10/2025 21:46

How about the poor lass stays in her home and her father (your brother/BIL?) stays with relatives instead. I could not support this.

Silly reply.

ohdearmemummy · 10/10/2025 05:04

Good on you, being a support and safe place.

Do you have much to do with her now?

I would say take it day by day but make sure she feels welcome to help herself. Don’t be surprised if she isn’t feeling like making it a cosy girls place, whilst she finds her feet at least.

You have no idea, how much the safe space will make a difference to her. It’s a really kind thing for you to take on.

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