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To wonder why the fuck long covid isn’t considered a serious outcome

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Clutchingatfog · 09/10/2025 21:19

Why is covid often only talked about in terms of hospitalisations or deaths? Even in determining whether we are eligible for vaccination, long covid isn’t factored in. Not vulnerable to covid? Are you kidding me?! Oh, you don’t factor in that vaccination reduces risk of long covid either? Got it. FFS.

Where is this fantasy land where people’s risk of LC doesn’t increase with reinfection, where people are magically spared if they are healthy, where kids don’t get it, where only people who are vaccinated/not vaccinated (depending on stance) get it, where only people who have severe cases get it, where long covid was something that used to happen earlier in the pandemic, where most people fully recover, where you are not left to rot. I want to move there!

If you have LC or now have to care for someone with LC, please tell me you understand where I’m coming from.

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CassandraWebb · 09/10/2025 23:23

CrispsPlease · 09/10/2025 23:15

Because at the end of the day : fatigue is felt daily by most working mothers. Life is very high pressure, no let up in the western world. It's very difficult for people to then have to muster up sympathy for a spurious syndrome that can result in extended time off work and life. Something not afforded to the average fatigued person.

I believe the people suffering feel debilitating fatigue. I really do. But I also have debilitating fatigue (I know mine is linked with poor mental health) nobody in my personal or professional life would ever know this. But there's no choice but to get on with it. There's no magic pill. No cavalry to come and save us. Diet, exercise and fresh air can really help in small doses (I'm too lazy to do the things I should ) most of us are if we're honest. But it does work. It's no good lapsing into helplessness. And I do think these labels allow lapsing into helplessness.

If you have a choice about whether to keep going on not, then you don't have the kind of "fatigue" that these people are battling.

With me, if I don't rest when weakness (or fatigue) hits, I lose the ability to speak, swallow or see. It's not resting as a life style choice,.it's resting because there is no other option.

If you can't understand the difference you are deeply ignorant.

I know so many people who are devastated by what enforced rest has taken from them.-.careers,. relationships , passions, their home. These people don't just fancy a bit of a rest

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 09/10/2025 23:28

CrispsPlease · 09/10/2025 23:15

Because at the end of the day : fatigue is felt daily by most working mothers. Life is very high pressure, no let up in the western world. It's very difficult for people to then have to muster up sympathy for a spurious syndrome that can result in extended time off work and life. Something not afforded to the average fatigued person.

I believe the people suffering feel debilitating fatigue. I really do. But I also have debilitating fatigue (I know mine is linked with poor mental health) nobody in my personal or professional life would ever know this. But there's no choice but to get on with it. There's no magic pill. No cavalry to come and save us. Diet, exercise and fresh air can really help in small doses (I'm too lazy to do the things I should ) most of us are if we're honest. But it does work. It's no good lapsing into helplessness. And I do think these labels allow lapsing into helplessness.

It’s not like that. You can’t have any understanding of serious fatigue if you think we can just get on with it.

Too fatigued to lift a fork, and had to fed
Too fatigued to do proper personal hygiene, which was terrible and too fatigued to have someone do it for you
Too fatigued to interact. It just caused a crash
Too fatigued to talk.
Too weak to breathe

Hiw the fuck do you ‘push through that?’ We’ve all worked and been mothers. Lots of us with mental health issues. It’s NOTHING like that your description.

Do you really think people WANT to be helpless? What planet do you live on.
Such a smug superior post.

fortinbra · 09/10/2025 23:30

As a society we're really callous and uncaring towards people with chronic health conditions. When literally millions of people got long Covid I thought that would change but it hasn't. It seems that only the well majority matters.

WalkingTheMiddlePath · 09/10/2025 23:33

AngelinaFibres · 09/10/2025 23:12

I don't feel bitter. My life it lovely. Some people are genuinely ill. Some people are taking the piss. The person I am referring to would most certainly not end up in ICU because she had to put her own chair away . She'd be just fine.

But she might have a less extreme version of it where she might end up in bed for most of 3 or 4 days after doing her hobby group. That is life for those of us who were lucky enough to just have the more moderate less extreme version of ME. That was enough for me to want to end my life. I can't imagine how awful it must be to be one of the 25% of people with ME who have the severe kind which leaves them maybe needing hospital or having to eat through a tube. And yes some people with the severe kind die. I'm imagining it can't be that different for long covid. You don't know how it feels to be in her body .

fortinbra · 09/10/2025 23:34

CrispsPlease · 09/10/2025 23:15

Because at the end of the day : fatigue is felt daily by most working mothers. Life is very high pressure, no let up in the western world. It's very difficult for people to then have to muster up sympathy for a spurious syndrome that can result in extended time off work and life. Something not afforded to the average fatigued person.

I believe the people suffering feel debilitating fatigue. I really do. But I also have debilitating fatigue (I know mine is linked with poor mental health) nobody in my personal or professional life would ever know this. But there's no choice but to get on with it. There's no magic pill. No cavalry to come and save us. Diet, exercise and fresh air can really help in small doses (I'm too lazy to do the things I should ) most of us are if we're honest. But it does work. It's no good lapsing into helplessness. And I do think these labels allow lapsing into helplessness.

Wow, some people would love to be able to exercise and get out into the fresh air but they literally can't

WalkingTheMiddlePath · 09/10/2025 23:36

CrispsPlease · 09/10/2025 23:15

Because at the end of the day : fatigue is felt daily by most working mothers. Life is very high pressure, no let up in the western world. It's very difficult for people to then have to muster up sympathy for a spurious syndrome that can result in extended time off work and life. Something not afforded to the average fatigued person.

I believe the people suffering feel debilitating fatigue. I really do. But I also have debilitating fatigue (I know mine is linked with poor mental health) nobody in my personal or professional life would ever know this. But there's no choice but to get on with it. There's no magic pill. No cavalry to come and save us. Diet, exercise and fresh air can really help in small doses (I'm too lazy to do the things I should ) most of us are if we're honest. But it does work. It's no good lapsing into helplessness. And I do think these labels allow lapsing into helplessness.

It's not fatigue in and of itself though . It feels like having flu and glandular fever and having run a marathon all at the same time . Light hurts, muscles ache and twitch and sleeping is hard.

KitTea3 · 09/10/2025 23:37

I think in part the government just don't want to accept/recognise it, especially as for many there seems to be little treatment options.

I mean the government have just announced they will do an enquiry into whether mental illness/neurodiversity is "over diagnosed" and one of the leading persons on that inquiry is the man who actively promoted CBT/graded exercise for those with ME (which was recognised as harmful and misleading even by the NHS). The other person is one the who supported criminalising those with severe mental illness under the Serenity scheme)

OutIsay · 09/10/2025 23:37

Some of the people on this thread are lucky enough to be ignorant at what Long Covid, ME, CFS and Post-Viral Fatigue can do.

I had CFS/ME in my 20s. It devastated my life. I still have to be careful, I still get tired etc but let me tell you, it is nowhere near what I had in my 20s. I would have to rest after a shower. I would have to rest along the way multiple times to simply walk a few hundred metres, I would forget huge parts of the day, I could sleep for 20 hours in a day. I went from getting top grades to word finding difficulties, not making sense etc.

I gradually improved over time. I was lucky that the benefit system supported me. I now work full time, am not on benefits and might actually be able to buy a house at some point.

These post viral conditions have existed for AT LEAST a hundred years. Read old medical textbooks and they describe a post-viral condition that affected people after Spanish Flu (1918-1920). Sound familiar?

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 09/10/2025 23:41

OutIsay · 09/10/2025 23:37

Some of the people on this thread are lucky enough to be ignorant at what Long Covid, ME, CFS and Post-Viral Fatigue can do.

I had CFS/ME in my 20s. It devastated my life. I still have to be careful, I still get tired etc but let me tell you, it is nowhere near what I had in my 20s. I would have to rest after a shower. I would have to rest along the way multiple times to simply walk a few hundred metres, I would forget huge parts of the day, I could sleep for 20 hours in a day. I went from getting top grades to word finding difficulties, not making sense etc.

I gradually improved over time. I was lucky that the benefit system supported me. I now work full time, am not on benefits and might actually be able to buy a house at some point.

These post viral conditions have existed for AT LEAST a hundred years. Read old medical textbooks and they describe a post-viral condition that affected people after Spanish Flu (1918-1920). Sound familiar?

Florence Nightingale had chronic fatigue from Brucellosis. She spent all her post Crimea nursing life in bed.

fost · 09/10/2025 23:42

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 09/10/2025 22:05

It’s just the same as other similar conditions though. Many viruses cause post viral issues in a proportion of people.

People with LC at least got studied and treated/supported initially even if it has reduced now.

Fibromyalgia and similar are largely overlooked.

Though they think they’ve found a test for CFS or ME, so that should be good. Though they are saying CHS/ME as though they are the same thing so I won’t hold my breath.

CFS and ME are the same thing.

stayathomegardener · 09/10/2025 23:44

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Reported. Very judgmental and unkind.

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I second zazazaaar's post 👏 👏 👏

Crikeyalmighty · 10/10/2025 00:12

To the people saying ‘only wet lettuces moan about this ’ how dare you ! I run a business, I hadn’t seen a doctor for 23 years apart from smear tests - it totally buggered up my nervous system for 10 months- pins and needles constantly, enormous back of head migraines, burning in eyes, buzzing in legs, weird dizziness- I am most certainly not a wet lettuce- I’m 63 and a tough cookie -and I carried on working through it all too - or how about our29 year old roadie friend - developed POTS and still can’t taste or smell and it’s buggered his lung function - he’s a 6ft 3 strapping northerner, most certainly not a wet lettuce!!

Senseandsensitivity · 10/10/2025 00:14

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/mar/17/long-covid-pandemic-britain-power-lockdown-disease

There was a good article earlier this year about it. I work in nhs and there isnt really any support for the children with long covid. My brother was a very fit individual pre 2021 but hasnt been right since he got covid. He is still working but i can see it is a real struggle. Has to have a lot of rest.and sometimes just cannot do things.

I make sure i get my covid vaccine (im a carer for an 80 year old) to try and reduce my risk, but i am lucky that i can get it this way. It seems to be a blinkered, "let it spread" approach. Even this nonsense about coming to work with it (and spreading it). It is maddening...

Long Covid is the pandemic’s dark shadow. Why does no one in power in Britain want to talk about it? | Frances Ryan

Five years after the first lockdown, millions of lives are still being ruined by this debilitating disease. You wouldn’t know it, says Guardian columnist Frances Ryan

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/mar/17/long-covid-pandemic-britain-power-lockdown-disease

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/10/2025 00:17

I’m in that area!

Thats why l know about it!

Dysregulation of the nervous system took me to the darkest places I’ve ever known. I’d be suicidal all day. And because it was so fucked up l’d feel numb too. So the normal circuit breaker of family and children stopping suicide wasn’t there. Terrible terrible terrifying time.

Last Christmas was the worse time of my life. Crisis team contacted, telling Dh that l absolutely had to die as l felt so trapped. Couldn’t eat any dinner. Terrible fear all day.

Its a dreadful illness,

GlastoNinja · 10/10/2025 07:28

CrispsPlease · 09/10/2025 23:15

Because at the end of the day : fatigue is felt daily by most working mothers. Life is very high pressure, no let up in the western world. It's very difficult for people to then have to muster up sympathy for a spurious syndrome that can result in extended time off work and life. Something not afforded to the average fatigued person.

I believe the people suffering feel debilitating fatigue. I really do. But I also have debilitating fatigue (I know mine is linked with poor mental health) nobody in my personal or professional life would ever know this. But there's no choice but to get on with it. There's no magic pill. No cavalry to come and save us. Diet, exercise and fresh air can really help in small doses (I'm too lazy to do the things I should ) most of us are if we're honest. But it does work. It's no good lapsing into helplessness. And I do think these labels allow lapsing into helplessness.

You really don’t know what you’re talking about.

The level of fatigue being discussed here is being in pain all over and just having to lie in it because you can’t move, being unable to speak because the muscle effort it takes to make the sound or move your mouth is too much, not being able to open your eyes but being totally aware of what’s going on. Not being able to stand or dress / undress.

I’m glad for you that you haven’t experienced this but I think you need to open your mind and understand that this is way beyond the horrible levels of tiredness experienced by working mums

Funnywonder · 10/10/2025 08:22

It seems that many people in this country just want to sweep Covid and its consequences under the carpet. I have an immunosuppressed child, so I take Covid very seriously. DP has three autoimmune conditions and Covid absolutely wipes him for weeks and that’s WITH the vaccine. Thankfully he hasn’t developed long Covid, but rather has a longer than usual recovery time. Even those with mild symptoms have no idea what Covid has done to their body or what repeated bouts will do, because it has only been around for a very short time and we’re still learning about it. And nobody knows if they will be the one who develops long Covid until it happens to them.

I think some people have a problem putting themselves in other people’s shoes. They think if someone is suffering with fatigue, they just need to push through it. Or if someone has a migraine, a couple of paracetamol will help them through the day. Depressed people just need to go for a walk and get into nature and everything will be ok. Just complete and utter ignorance and lack of compassion. I’m alright Jack, pull the ladder up.

CrispsPlease · 10/10/2025 08:23

GlastoNinja · 10/10/2025 07:28

You really don’t know what you’re talking about.

The level of fatigue being discussed here is being in pain all over and just having to lie in it because you can’t move, being unable to speak because the muscle effort it takes to make the sound or move your mouth is too much, not being able to open your eyes but being totally aware of what’s going on. Not being able to stand or dress / undress.

I’m glad for you that you haven’t experienced this but I think you need to open your mind and understand that this is way beyond the horrible levels of tiredness experienced by working mums

But, if there was a fire in your home, could you get out ?

Hollyhobbi · 10/10/2025 08:24

Pistachiocake · 09/10/2025 21:36

Yes. We used to have clinics, but they seem to have gone? When you think that few people are jabbed now, as everyone's catching it, surely that means there's a lot of cases. But I suppose the fact is "everyone" wants to forget Covid, live a normal life, and so it's easier to dismiss it. It's easier to gaslight or victim blame.

You can still get it even if you are jabbed!

Crikeyalmighty · 10/10/2025 08:25

@Senseandsensitivity that’s a really good article and correct - I fell ill September 2022, so very late in the Covid cycle but have gradually improved ( as per my post below) and by July 2023 I was much improved - but how I continued to run our business during that period I dont know !! Seeing the neurologist ( I paid) and getting advice on post viral dysautonia ( something like that ) cost me a fair bit too was a big help . The neurologist said she had seen a lot of it And it certainly wasn’t as some say ‘the vaccine’ as plenty she saw were unvaccinated- I was 100% convinced I had MS or MND - 2 years on I am relatively back to normal and the only things it left me with are very dry eyes, a tendency to the odd headache in back of head and dizziness if I eat a lot of gluten -

I wasn’t that ill either when I had Covid ( for 2nd time) and it all came on out the blue 3 days after I tested .

i know why itsall been brushed under carpet and hushed up as they couldn’t do anything about it now after the Tory’s totally botched it all in so many ways , but I do think there should be a concerted campaign again on handwashing, not spreading it etc

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/10/2025 08:25

CrispsPlease · 10/10/2025 08:23

But, if there was a fire in your home, could you get out ?

And l was asked that question during a social services assessment.

Sometimes you can, but you would release so much adrenaline you would be in a very severe crash for months/weeks on end. And would definitely struggle to leave in case of a fire then.

Hulabalu · 10/10/2025 08:41

LarchFairy457 · 09/10/2025 22:57

I agree, but we don’t have access to tests. I used to be sent them if I had symptoms but that’s been stopped and if I’m ill, I’m not going out to buy a test. People in public facing jobs are expected to have a Lemsip and carry on.

yes I just think whatever it is , a cold , a cough , a sore throat , people should have consideration for others and wear a mask 😷 indoors and when speaking to others. It’s selfish and unkind not to really.
I went to get my flu jab the other day. Someone there was coughing a lot and without a mask on. Doors were sealed shut, so no fresh air circulating. I put a mask on to try to avoid catching whatever they had. 🦠

Greenwitchart · 10/10/2025 08:58

Because as usual in the UK the Tory and Labour governments have only been interested in cutting costs and maximising profit rather than our overall health and welfare.

If long covid was properly recognised it would mean more investment would need to go into research and treatment and more people accessing disability benefits.

I have a colleague whose partner ended up in a care home with irreversible neurological issues after contracting covid and a friend with asthma who has long covid and now struggles to look after her young kids.

Long Covid is real but the right Wong media loves describing Covid as a 'flu' or a 'cold' and pushing the toxic narrative that long covid is just people pretending to be sick so they don't have to work...

Jkjjjjjk · 10/10/2025 09:00

BallerinaRadio · 09/10/2025 21:40

Because huge swathes of the country believe "it's just a cold" 🙄

Because for huge swathes of the population. It is just a cold