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To wonder why the fuck long covid isn’t considered a serious outcome

453 replies

Clutchingatfog · 09/10/2025 21:19

Why is covid often only talked about in terms of hospitalisations or deaths? Even in determining whether we are eligible for vaccination, long covid isn’t factored in. Not vulnerable to covid? Are you kidding me?! Oh, you don’t factor in that vaccination reduces risk of long covid either? Got it. FFS.

Where is this fantasy land where people’s risk of LC doesn’t increase with reinfection, where people are magically spared if they are healthy, where kids don’t get it, where only people who are vaccinated/not vaccinated (depending on stance) get it, where only people who have severe cases get it, where long covid was something that used to happen earlier in the pandemic, where most people fully recover, where you are not left to rot. I want to move there!

If you have LC or now have to care for someone with LC, please tell me you understand where I’m coming from.

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Delatron · 10/10/2025 20:43

CassandraWebb · 10/10/2025 20:39

I think that's exactly it. Without exception the people I know who have ME /long COVID are all impressively driven and accomplished people

And my condition is so similar and I am no so cross with myself because I carried on working even when I could barely hold my head up or speak clearly. I still struggle all the time with the tension between my mind, which is a "never give up" type,.and my body, which I now know will only get better /not crash if I rest lots

Yep I get it. I was a soldier on and push through it type.

Im guessing ME was called ‘yuppie flu’ because it was affecting high achieving workaholics. Just something for people to think about…

Germanyddff · 10/10/2025 20:45

LarchFairy457 · 09/10/2025 21:26

I know it’s treated very seriously in Germany with rehabilitation etc. I feel that we have a culture in the UK (which I don’t agree with) where most long-term conditions are seen as “playing the (insert disability or condition) card”

Many of the clinics in Germany are treating Long Covid alongside Post-Vac Syndrome. I got the latter, with myocarditis after MRNA and then not recovering and having a host of other issues. Not anti, but I mention this because myocarditis did also impact women and this is not often discussed.

Prof Dr Schieffer at the Marburg Clinic (university hospital, so mainstream) has published on both.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/10/2025 20:51

I had 2 vax injuries. Because the first wasn’t possibly caused by the vaccine. Just recovering from the second after 10 months and caught COVID. Now had LC for 2 1/2 years.

So overall I’ve been pretty much housebound for 5 years. I wish Covid had never happened.

Sometimeswinning · 10/10/2025 20:54

Funnywonder · 10/10/2025 19:47

Oh God, you as well. You are talking about mental health. People with long covid are suffering with a physiological condition. It’s not mind over matter (not that it is with mental illnesses either in many cases). Do people similarly run out of sympathy for those with MS/IBD/rheumatoid arthritis and other debilitating conditions? Maybe they should just buck up too.

I think there was a study which showed a strong link between poor mental health and long covid.

Germanyddff · 10/10/2025 20:57

So sorry @ArseInTheCoOpWindow Hope you are at least getting some treatment. Worth looking at the studies from Prof Dr Puntmann.

I had Covid a few years after and was okay, but was already on steroids with all the health risks they cause.

Germany at least acknowledged and treated cardiac vax injuries in women (at least the severe cases).

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/10/2025 20:59

Sometimeswinning · 10/10/2025 20:54

I think there was a study which showed a strong link between poor mental health and long covid.

I think adverse childhood experiences show a link. But not necessarily mental health issues.

But the link is through a sensitive nervous system. This is why people with allergies often have it.

Gloriia · 10/10/2025 21:16

'For what it’s worth I’m on HRT and if I wasn’t I would be in a far worse state than I am - purely because it helps my mood'

Yes it's definitely something to consider. Many women know very little about how peri then meno can cause significant problems such as brain fog, joint pain, sleep issues etc. Some women think once 'through' the menopause everything settles but it can carry on and even get worse once in their 50s and beyond.

Not being patronising just saying it isn't always post viral.

Delatron · 10/10/2025 21:18

There’s probably a link between stress and trauma (which affect the nervous system) rather than mental health.

I know another poster on here mentioned they also had cancer (I had breast cancer years ago). I’m pretty sure my nervous system was decimated then! So there may be a link for sure that means you’re more susceptible. But that doesn’t mean you are depressed or it’s in your head and you just need to get out for a walk.

I am fully committed to the mind body connection to try and heal my nervous system. Mediation helps, as does acupuncture. I’m fully open to positive thinking. But I also know if I push through I’ll crash. And that can set me back months.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/10/2025 21:20

Delatron · 10/10/2025 21:18

There’s probably a link between stress and trauma (which affect the nervous system) rather than mental health.

I know another poster on here mentioned they also had cancer (I had breast cancer years ago). I’m pretty sure my nervous system was decimated then! So there may be a link for sure that means you’re more susceptible. But that doesn’t mean you are depressed or it’s in your head and you just need to get out for a walk.

I am fully committed to the mind body connection to try and heal my nervous system. Mediation helps, as does acupuncture. I’m fully open to positive thinking. But I also know if I push through I’ll crash. And that can set me back months.

This.

Lots of trauma or big traumas really upset the nervous system. And this is what makes you more susceptible. Not mental health.

@Delatron l see a mind body therapist. She’s been really helpful. She’s been making me do somatic tracking which she swears by.

Delatron · 10/10/2025 21:29

Thanks @ArseInTheCoOpWindow that sounds like something I should try. I’m pleased it’s been helpful for you.

Greenmouldycheese · 10/10/2025 21:39

Judging by the stories I read in here, it's a mental health thing rather than long covid. Yes there is post viral fatigue which can last a long time, but what is being described doesn't sound like that, it sounds like depression.

R0ckandHardPlace · 10/10/2025 21:40

Greenmouldycheese · 10/10/2025 21:39

Judging by the stories I read in here, it's a mental health thing rather than long covid. Yes there is post viral fatigue which can last a long time, but what is being described doesn't sound like that, it sounds like depression.

What have pp said that make you think that?

NameChange0101010101 · 10/10/2025 21:42

CrispsPlease · 10/10/2025 19:52

I believe long COVID/ME have roots in mental health conditions. I'm not saying that to cause offence. And it doesn't mean I don't believe the symptoms are very much real.

With respect, can you link to the research that has led you to believe this?

Because it's very much at odds with the latest research into causes of LC.

Its a physical illness. What qualifies you to say that it isn't?

ruethewhirl · 10/10/2025 21:43

Greenmouldycheese · 10/10/2025 21:39

Judging by the stories I read in here, it's a mental health thing rather than long covid. Yes there is post viral fatigue which can last a long time, but what is being described doesn't sound like that, it sounds like depression.

What ‘stories you read in here’?

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/10/2025 21:45

Delatron · 10/10/2025 21:29

Thanks @ArseInTheCoOpWindow that sounds like something I should try. I’m pleased it’s been helpful for you.

She makes me meditate all the time😫 the bully.

I have been loads better though!

Delatron · 10/10/2025 21:53

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/10/2025 21:45

She makes me meditate all the time😫 the bully.

I have been loads better though!

Ah I’m so bad at meditating. But it is so good for us.

Delatron · 10/10/2025 21:55

Greenmouldycheese · 10/10/2025 21:39

Judging by the stories I read in here, it's a mental health thing rather than long covid. Yes there is post viral fatigue which can last a long time, but what is being described doesn't sound like that, it sounds like depression.

I’m not depressed at all. Probably should be considering I can do about half of what I used to be able to. I’ve had to give up my job largely. But mentally I’m ok.

Bambamhoohoo · 10/10/2025 21:56

Delatron · 10/10/2025 21:18

There’s probably a link between stress and trauma (which affect the nervous system) rather than mental health.

I know another poster on here mentioned they also had cancer (I had breast cancer years ago). I’m pretty sure my nervous system was decimated then! So there may be a link for sure that means you’re more susceptible. But that doesn’t mean you are depressed or it’s in your head and you just need to get out for a walk.

I am fully committed to the mind body connection to try and heal my nervous system. Mediation helps, as does acupuncture. I’m fully open to positive thinking. But I also know if I push through I’ll crash. And that can set me back months.

I had post viral fatigue syndrome for 13 months, 20 years ago (I was one of those very lucky people for whom it just disappeared, although those 13 months were terrible)

i would not have accepted this at the time but looking back now i can see it was very likely caused by an extreme stress/ traumatic situation. I really relate to what you say.

in the other hand, my brother had diagnosed with CFS caused by a bout of teenage glandular fever. It took about 7 years to get a diagnosis and he still has to manage relapses carefully. His symptoms were different to mine and it I don’t suspect stress or trauma was involved. So maybe it’s not binary, but stress is certainly one explanation.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/10/2025 21:58

Delatron · 10/10/2025 21:53

Ah I’m so bad at meditating. But it is so good for us.

Me too. But she showed me some exercises for the vagal nerve which make it slightly less boring.

She suggested downloading an app called Insight timer which is free. It’s like Headspace. 20 mins every 90 mins😭Sometimes l play hooky.

Yoga Nidra is the most bearable. And Vagus nerve stuff. But some just talk ‘about feeling the energy within, and letting it flow like spring into summer etc’ And they make me want to barf.

There also an app called Yoga Nidra which is really good.

Delatron · 10/10/2025 22:25

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/10/2025 21:58

Me too. But she showed me some exercises for the vagal nerve which make it slightly less boring.

She suggested downloading an app called Insight timer which is free. It’s like Headspace. 20 mins every 90 mins😭Sometimes l play hooky.

Yoga Nidra is the most bearable. And Vagus nerve stuff. But some just talk ‘about feeling the energy within, and letting it flow like spring into summer etc’ And they make me want to barf.

There also an app called Yoga Nidra which is really good.

Thanks so much - I shall look in to all of this.

I read the book ‘The Great Nerve’ about the vagus nerve and how important it is. It blows my mind we were never taught this in science at school. Most people don’t know what it is!

Delatron · 10/10/2025 22:27

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow Laughing at your resistance too. Yoga used to make me angry!

Scottishskifun · 10/10/2025 22:36

Ah like a true LC thread all in one place bingo is achieved quickly people with long covid are mostly a "lazy" type of person, it's a mental health condition, no test therefore it's made up and your all depressed!

The reality is they are still researching it but majority of research indicates a physiological condition.

For me personally I was youngish (34) active and healthy. Hit by covid and I went from hill walking with my toddler on my back to can't make 50 m without breathlessness and was like that about 5 months.

I'm 4 years in and definitely look normal but I pace every aspect of my life and have done a lot to improve baseline and reset respiratory sync. I do work full time but have reasonable adjustments in place. I do play with my children but know my energy envelope and get a warning sign of eye pain when I'm pushing that too far.

I have continous pain in my legs (thought to be nerve damage) and neuropathy in my hands. Oh and I developed POTS which I didn't have before (that one can be tested for). I am a expert at masking the daily pain and appearing normal.

ruethewhirl · 10/10/2025 22:43

Gloriia · 10/10/2025 18:35

'Have goals every day not matter how small', do you not think those of us whose energy is severely compromised are already trying our best to do this? Please try not to be patronising'

I'm not being patronising I'm speaking from experience. I've had a serious illness that could have had me housebound still if I'd let it.

Physical wellbeing and mental wellbeing are both obviously massively linked and saying oh I had flu last year and have post viral issues so can't do much will lead to a poor mental state and lack of motivation.

We need to push ourselves to optimise our lives. Of course we all have off days, life is exhausting and hard so yes have the odd duvet day but then get up and get out.

I'm sorry to hear what you've been through and I'm glad you've been able to find a way through, but it doesn't qualify you to speak for other people, or for what they may or may not be capable of. Everyone is different and so are their experiences of these illnesses.

Do you really think anyone who can't get out of bed/out of the house on a given day due to ME, long covid or whatever, aren't pushing themselves and are just 'letting' it debilitate them? If so, you're not just being patronising, you're being insulting.

StrikeForever · 11/10/2025 00:27

Charredtea · 10/10/2025 19:41

How did he recover?

He just listened to his body, rested a lot (often in bed for several days at a time) paced himself, resting whenever he started to feel fatigued. Over a couple of years, he gradually improved. Then he got Covid again and suffered long Covid again. It took him another year to recover, but thankfully, he’s been okay since then (about 18 months now).

Charredtea · 11/10/2025 01:46

StrikeForever · 11/10/2025 00:27

He just listened to his body, rested a lot (often in bed for several days at a time) paced himself, resting whenever he started to feel fatigued. Over a couple of years, he gradually improved. Then he got Covid again and suffered long Covid again. It took him another year to recover, but thankfully, he’s been okay since then (about 18 months now).

Thank you. I feel like all I do when I’m not working is rest.

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