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Spending a lot on cars

110 replies

ClawsandEffect · 09/10/2025 19:58

I don't get it. I know cars aren't my thing. To me they are transport. A-B safely and on time.

I do get wanting a reliable car. So not a banger. Safe for the children definitely.

But I am just mystified at why anyone would drop 50K on a car. I understand if you're very wealthy. Because it doesn't make a dent in your finances.

But the parents I see at the school drop off in super expensive / flashy cars when I know their living situation and income bracket (jobs). Why would anyone want to either dump a small fortune into something that depreciates so quicky OR saddle themselves to a small mortgage for a piece of kit that is just going to rust and decay.

Is it just me?

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Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 12:07

ClawsandEffect · 12/10/2025 10:55

True. But I know the two families I worked for weren't overtly ostentatious. One family were huge snobs, but not about possessions. Conspicuous consumption was regarded as very non-U (not upper class). Probably because most of their possessions were inherited (antiques etc).

Edited

Rich people like this are the worst. They inherited everything but feel they have the right to look down their noses at those who actually have to work for a living.

ShesTheAlbatross · 12/10/2025 12:09

Cars are things that just do not interest me. I’ll never buy an expensive car.

But I’m sure people who do might look at things I buy and think “I’d never spend my money on that”

oldFoolMe · 12/10/2025 12:10

My work offer a salary sacrifice to lease a brand new car. As a higher tax rate payer it saves me a lot , plus everything is covered. Service, maintenance, tires, mot , and insurance so if anything goes wrong i know im covered.

stclementine · 12/10/2025 12:10

reversegear · 09/10/2025 20:38

I love cars, I drive a classic Porsche 911 that I’ve wanted since I watched flash dance at 8 years old and I’ve spent my life wanting to own one and finally at 50 I bought one. I personally drive it and couldn’t care less if it was invisible, I don’t give a hoot what anyone thinks of me smiling like a looney with my roof off and the engine noise, she’s beautiful. 😍 and is a massive treat to me.. I’ve worked my entire arse off.

I also have a 70K company Landrover, it costs me £900 a month and is hybrid and I run it via the business to reduce my corporation tax, I have huge dogs, live in the country and again don’t care less if nobody ever knew what I drive or owned it’s just my car, I also only have it on lease for 3 years so will never pay £70k just renting it for a time.

I also drive cars form the 90s proper old bangers and over my life have owned Porsches, landies, lotus and raced on tracks.

if you met me for a wine and a whizz in the 911 you’d understand car people, what you are describing is maybe a car idiot like me or maybe someone who’s showing off but you’ll never know.

I get your confusion but people who don’t get cars don’t take up any of my headspace, so maybe free up your headspace. Maybe they have saved forever or maybe they are a show off. You’ll never know 😍

You are my hero! From another Porsche obsessed track junkie

Theseventhmagpie · 12/10/2025 12:10

Homephonea · 09/10/2025 20:15

Normally down to insecurity sadly. They think that’s what wealthy people do. It’s not,

Rubbish. Do you actually know any multi millionaires??

ClawsandEffect · 12/10/2025 12:13

Theseventhmagpie · 12/10/2025 12:10

Rubbish. Do you actually know any multi millionaires??

I worked for 2. Neither bothered with cars that were anything special. One in particular had a very beat up, old, estate car.

I do agree @Crochetandtea. Some of their attitudes were horrible. But I was completely with them on the lack of expenditure front.

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FairyRobot · 12/10/2025 12:13

CelestialGazer · 12/10/2025 11:25

You do realise that you still pay for the depreciation, just in monthly instalments?

Of course, I’m not suggesting that it doesn’t. I was just stating we don’t value it as an asset as we would our house for example. The main benefit for us is the predictable payments, and the stress/risk reduction.

Years ago we bought a second hand vehicle for about £12k. In the first year it cost us £5k in a massive repair issue that we couldn’t claim back from the retailer as it was sold as seen despite being from a dealer. It was also off the road for 2 months in that time. We were also paying interest on the loan we took out to buy it, as we didn’t have the £12k outright. By the time we came to sell it, I worked out it would have only cost us marginally more to have had a new leased car over that time, but without all the stress and inconvenience it had given us. That was the deciding factor for us!

Obviously not everyone gets so unlucky and some used cars run forever, but it’s personal choice, and not everyone is doing it purely for vanity reasons, or to keep up with the Jones’s.

That said, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy the ‘new’ factor. Not because it looks fancy, just because it’s nice to sit in a car that’s perfect and clean. Bonus!

oakpie · 12/10/2025 12:17

FairyRobot · 12/10/2025 12:13

Of course, I’m not suggesting that it doesn’t. I was just stating we don’t value it as an asset as we would our house for example. The main benefit for us is the predictable payments, and the stress/risk reduction.

Years ago we bought a second hand vehicle for about £12k. In the first year it cost us £5k in a massive repair issue that we couldn’t claim back from the retailer as it was sold as seen despite being from a dealer. It was also off the road for 2 months in that time. We were also paying interest on the loan we took out to buy it, as we didn’t have the £12k outright. By the time we came to sell it, I worked out it would have only cost us marginally more to have had a new leased car over that time, but without all the stress and inconvenience it had given us. That was the deciding factor for us!

Obviously not everyone gets so unlucky and some used cars run forever, but it’s personal choice, and not everyone is doing it purely for vanity reasons, or to keep up with the Jones’s.

That said, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy the ‘new’ factor. Not because it looks fancy, just because it’s nice to sit in a car that’s perfect and clean. Bonus!

This is how I feel about it. I don’t care that the value depreciates, my car is not an investment, I invest my money in my house, pension and savings. I spend the rest on things I enjoy; holidays, good food, and a car I enjoy driving. I pay for my car what I am happy to pay monthly, I do not care what I have to show at the end of the term. Like you I like the predictability of the monthly payments on a newer car, I know I pay for that predictability. I can afford it and am comfortable with that.

MermaidMummy06 · 12/10/2025 12:22

Status, impulse buying, because finance looks attractive & salespeople are good at selling. Sometimes it's just because they want a nice car. It's all about priorities & comfort with debt.

I'm currently after a car upgrade from my 17 year old car. I looked at two cars yesterday. One perfect for what I need, a reasonable price, but older & well, dull. Another flash, two years old & with all the bells & whistles, but would wipe all our savings. I admit I was tempted. My practical side always wins out, as my need for financial stability & hate of debt is very strong. Whereas, a mum acquaintance has just bought a very expensive car & admitted they now have two on finance & owe a bomb. She's happy, loves the car. Almost recoiled when I mentioned how old my car is! We're just different.

Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 12:22

ContentedAlpaca · 12/10/2025 11:43

New cars seem to come with a much bigger risk of computer faults and electrical faults than they used to.
Garages are over the moon when we turn up with our ancient cars where the only things that can go wrong are mechanical.
I can see why people effectively pay a subscription for a new, pricier car that they can hand back if there's a problem.

My previous Toyota didn’t have electric windows in the back. My son’s friend used to comment on it quite frequently in a ‘ this is a crap car ‘ way - my son knew what he was insinuating.
Anyway he said something one to many times and my son replied, Yes my parents prefer to spend money on things which make them money not cost them money. Proud parent moment.
Same parent in their expensive Audi was complaining about affording food one month into Covid. I know which one I’d rather be.

More people should plan for the future. The government are quite happy for poor people to spend everything they have and then some. They need them to keep the economy going while they hoard their millions. When people wise up to this it gives them financial freedom. Much more valuable than any expensive car on their driveway.

Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 12:24

oakpie · 12/10/2025 12:17

This is how I feel about it. I don’t care that the value depreciates, my car is not an investment, I invest my money in my house, pension and savings. I spend the rest on things I enjoy; holidays, good food, and a car I enjoy driving. I pay for my car what I am happy to pay monthly, I do not care what I have to show at the end of the term. Like you I like the predictability of the monthly payments on a newer car, I know I pay for that predictability. I can afford it and am comfortable with that.

But you can afford it..
The op refers to those who buy the new cars while scraping by. You’re not who they’re talking about.

oakpie · 12/10/2025 12:42

Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 12:24

But you can afford it..
The op refers to those who buy the new cars while scraping by. You’re not who they’re talking about.

No she doesn’t, read her post again, she mentions nothing about scraping by.

Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 13:13

oakpie · 12/10/2025 12:42

No she doesn’t, read her post again, she mentions nothing about scraping by.

Ok she didn’t mention it but I thought it was implied when she mentioned their income bracket/ jobs. TBH I don’t care what people do with their money. If they don’t buy new cars then I can’t buy them second hand. Also if they don’t spend their disposable income on cars etc the economy suffers ? I guess I would prefer to see people becoming more financially secure as I know what it’s like to worry about money constantly.

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 12/10/2025 13:23

HelpMeGetThrough · 12/10/2025 11:52

Just spending a grand a month in the leccy.

£250 for gas and electric, large 4 bedroom modern house (4 adults live there, 2 are retired, 2 WFH) and an electric car, not too bad.

DdraigGoch · 12/10/2025 13:42

botheredandbewilderedagain · 10/10/2025 07:57

Millionaires tend to have homes in other countries and you don't know what kind of cars they keep abroad.

Also, cars that "announce wealth" to you might not, to others.

That reminds me of this classic sketch:

oakpie · 12/10/2025 13:45

Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 13:13

Ok she didn’t mention it but I thought it was implied when she mentioned their income bracket/ jobs. TBH I don’t care what people do with their money. If they don’t buy new cars then I can’t buy them second hand. Also if they don’t spend their disposable income on cars etc the economy suffers ? I guess I would prefer to see people becoming more financially secure as I know what it’s like to worry about money constantly.

I don’t think it’s implied at all because all she does is make judgment on people spending a “small fortune”
and “saddling themselves with debt the size of a small for mortgage” for the purposes of something she doesn’t choose to value. My car is on finance, as is a lot of people’s, but I’m not financially irresponsible. I have a fantastic pension, property, savings, I have good insurance and made the risk based decision to take the debt on in consideration of our context. I think a lot of people are like this. Some just choose to believe people who finance cars are financially irresponsible and shallow, it’s an ignorant view and not the case for everyone.

Dishwater · 12/10/2025 13:46

I don’t think you sound judgey at all. I’ve often thought the same myself, for me it’s the depreciation in value that I couldn’t handle unless I was really wealthy. Some people really enjoy cars so I understand they get pleasure from them and a hobby costs money etc. Also, we know some people don’t have masses of money but when they’re driving around no one else knows they don’t so maybe it makes them feel good, like having a designer handbag? I’m with you, I thinks it’s a bit mad to lose money that quickly unless you have plenty.

DdraigGoch · 12/10/2025 13:50

oakpie · 12/10/2025 11:48

How does someone having an expensive car affect others? Sure if you want to talk environment, size of car etc, but this thread is sneering at people spending money on cars, not the impact of the car itself.

Setting aside the way in which the car itself impacts upon the rest of us (more of an issue with a Range Rover than a Porsche), it's the moaning about the cost of everything I can't stand. Driving a gas-guzzler and whinging about the cost of fuel, complaining about the cost of insuring a Range Rover (yeah, loads get nicked), and even complaining about how difficult it is to get on the housing ladder while shelling out considerable sums every month on lease/PCP payments.

I've got colleagues on £20k more than me moaning about costs. I'm more financially secure than a lot of them because I'm more sensible.

Howmanycatsistoomany · 12/10/2025 14:01

It's a weirdly British thing, all this judgement mixed with a good dollop of jealousy about what cars people choose to spend their money on. DH has a very pricey Merc AMG and it get lots of compliments from people of all ages here (France) and why not, it's a very nice car. In England it'd likely get keyed.

oakpie · 12/10/2025 14:02

Dishwater · 12/10/2025 13:46

I don’t think you sound judgey at all. I’ve often thought the same myself, for me it’s the depreciation in value that I couldn’t handle unless I was really wealthy. Some people really enjoy cars so I understand they get pleasure from them and a hobby costs money etc. Also, we know some people don’t have masses of money but when they’re driving around no one else knows they don’t so maybe it makes them feel good, like having a designer handbag? I’m with you, I thinks it’s a bit mad to lose money that quickly unless you have plenty.

Most cars depreciate in value, ironically the more expensive cars can retain their value better. But I don’t know why people talk about cars as assets like houses etc, people spend £5,000 on a holiday and won’t make money from it, but it’s the enjoyment you take from it, why is a car different to that? I don’t expect my car to appreciate anymore than I do my clothes, holidays, etc. I invest in other ways for that purpose.

SwarmsofLadybirds · 12/10/2025 14:03

What about people who spend £50k on holidays, kitchens, art, jewellery, clothes....? Do they attract your ire or is it just cars?

I really don't understand why people are so judgmental about cars 😂.

Also - have to point out that these days 50k won't buy you a luxury car.

Whatshesaid96 · 12/10/2025 14:06

Everyone is different and have different motivations for spending their money.

We have just the one car and its ten years old. Nothing owed on it and gets us from A to B. However we have money in savings, I'm trying to build my pension and when things break we have the money sat there to fix it. If DH loses his job (he earns 6x what I do) then there's enough to pay the mortgage for six months whilst we decide what to do. We also save to do renovations on our house so have no outstanding finance except the mortgage. For us we feel in a decent financial position in our late 30's/early 40's which suits us better than a car on PCP for example.

SwarmsofLadybirds · 12/10/2025 14:07

Lonelycrab · 09/10/2025 20:46

Yanbu op.

Buy seven year old Honda or Toyota and be done with it.

People with 60k+ AMG mercs and M3’s on pcp still living with their parents or in a one bad rental flat is pretty sad let’s face it.

We have a merc on pcp but we own our 5 bed detached property, do we still fall into the 'pretty sad' bracket ? 😂

Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 14:10

SwarmsofLadybirds · 12/10/2025 14:07

We have a merc on pcp but we own our 5 bed detached property, do we still fall into the 'pretty sad' bracket ? 😂

Own outright ? Congratulations!

Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 14:12

And 5 bedrooms doesn’t mean very much tbh. It’s square footage we need to know. 2000sq ft - meh! 5000 or over - more impressive.
I hope you pat yourself on the back daily.