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AIBU?

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9 replies

Wealthabd · 09/10/2025 14:41

My colleague and I do the exact same role although our categories differ, but that doesn’t mean we don’t sometimes work from each others (basically it’s not strict)

Our manager asked her to complete a specific piece of work. Colleague then told me it was my work to do and I should start it instead.

It genuinely wasn’t that she was incapable of doing it, it was purely that she just didn’t want to do it - despite management giving it to her to complete.

I would genuinely have been happy to take it from her if she’d said she didn’t understand it, or that her workload was too high and I had more capacity - absolutely fine. But I’m not being given work to do on the basis someone else just doesn’t want to do it. Aibu?

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RedAdmirals · 09/10/2025 14:45

If she is trying to delegate the work to you without the authority to do so, then she is way out of order,

Bring this to your manager's attention and under no circumstances help her out.

themerchentofvenus · 09/10/2025 14:46

She's not your boss so cannot delegate.

Tell her to go and tell the boss she doesn't want to do it, and then it can be re-allocated to you.

SallyDraperGetInHere · 09/10/2025 14:47

Just say ‘oh, you’d better clear that with Deirdre, as she asked you.’

Arlanymor · 09/10/2025 14:48

I would say to her: "Well Susan asked you to do it. Let's both go to her to check whether or not it is something for me or for you to do."

RedAdmirals · 09/10/2025 14:52

Arlanymor · 09/10/2025 14:48

I would say to her: "Well Susan asked you to do it. Let's both go to her to check whether or not it is something for me or for you to do."

I wouldn't involve her in this at all. She being a lazy oik and it's not up to you to sort it out or get into a discussion with her over it.

Tell your line manager and let them deal with it - they are a manager and paid to 'manage'.

Ablondiebutagoody · 09/10/2025 14:52

I would just ignore her and when it isn't done, she can try to explain that she delegated it

RedAdmirals · 09/10/2025 14:53

Ablondiebutagoody · 09/10/2025 14:52

I would just ignore her and when it isn't done, she can try to explain that she delegated it

Brilliant response !

Arlanymor · 09/10/2025 15:01

RedAdmirals · 09/10/2025 14:52

I wouldn't involve her in this at all. She being a lazy oik and it's not up to you to sort it out or get into a discussion with her over it.

Tell your line manager and let them deal with it - they are a manager and paid to 'manage'.

Fair enough. I would prefer to do it that way myself so that I knew exactly how the conversation went. Useless line managers exist...

Wealthabd · 09/10/2025 15:20

Ok, thank you everyone. Genuinely.

I want to be a good coworker and always support where I can. As I’d hope others would do the same for me.

But as I said I’m not doing work on the sole basis that the person it was assigned to just doesn’t want to do it.

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