Would you tell the school?

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We were my dropping DD to school this morning. The school have recently put a post out for parents to say please be aware of language used on the school gates/grounds because there has been reports of swearing etc. We walked past one of the lunch time supervisors, who had been dropping her son off and then leaving. She was talking loudly and swearing, she even had the school logo fleece on for staff. She said it loud enough for my DD to hear, and any other parents/children walking by. Would you tell the school? One of us thinks yes, as she is a staff member and there’s been a recent post. And one of us says no, just leave it. What would you do? I’m not trying to get anyone in trouble or be a ‘snitch’ but one of us just think it’s not acceptable especially wearing the staff fleece representing the school?

On a personal level it wouldn’t bother me, but if we’d had an email about language then yeah I think I’d get in touch with the school to point out that they should speak to their staff before going to parents as I’d expect them to lead by example!

Definitely tell school

Agree, tell the school.

Depends what level of swearing we are talking about. Where on the shit --> cunt scale was she?

It was more just ‘fucking’ this and that.

Jeez I wouldn’t. No one likes a grass!

Absolutely, I would do so even if the school hadn’t sent a post out. If she is in uniform she is ‘on duty’

I think it makes you sound like a school kid yourself.

If I didn’t have children with me then I’d have probably turned a blind eye, but if she’s swearing like that in front of kids then yes, I would let school know.

Do not tell the school. You put them in an awful position - are they supposed to fire her so they don’t look inconsistent with their perfectly reasonable email? Obviously ideally we would t swear around primary aged children, but as someone who does from time to time (and will often find Spotify putting on music I like while I’m in the kitchen making dinner and I don’t realise in time the songs have explicit lyrics?, I couldn’t get upset about this.

Yes I would!!! She’s an employee of the school and they are the ones spouting out about bad language not being used!!!

See I disagree with this, if the school are bothered about swearing enough to send an email to parents then they absolutely should be aware that actually they have members of staff swearing and address that first.

There’s also a difference between what you do around your own primary age children, which is your choice, your call to make, and what you do around 50 primary age children who you don’t know.

I’m personally not too bothered about swearing, kids hear it everywhere at some point, but if my kids school was sending emails about it then the least I’d expect is that their own staff were up to scratch.

I would usually say no don't report it but as the school have recently sent out a message I think you have to. The HT will want to know.

Yes i would, bit hypocritical to ask parents but not their own staff!

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I think you should. I really don't think she will be fired or reprimanded, but will likely be reminded that she represents the school, especially when on school grounds in their uniform. As she's a parent at the school, she presumably got the email too, so no excuses.

Yep, unless she was someone I particularly liked. Ridiculous to chastise parents while staff members are doing similar.

Piss off with this, it’s wildly inappropriate for anyone on school grounds to be doing that around kids never mind someone who actually works there and is wearing the school logo on their clothing. The whole ‘don’t be a grass’ nonsense is such bullshit. Decent people do actually care about these things.

I don’t think anyone thinks she should be fired.

But yes, if the school have just sent out an email to parents, I would email suggesting that if they are concerned about language, they also speak to their own staff.

Especially given the recent messaging I would report it yes- I agree it is not likely the person would be fired but a reminder or warning given. I think the important things here is the context- and children need to learn this too, which they will at least partly do by example- primary school context was not appropriate for that language as midel from the teacher.

You can tell them you’ve been hearing swearing (if you like). But not naming any specific staff member/s.

Frankly you just need to have a quiet word with the HT, who in turn will have a quiet word with her... it is not a disciplinary issue unless she persists... take it from me, I am a Chair of Governors.

Personally I probably wouldn't. Just because I don't think it would be worth the agro it could bring. And I would deem other things more serious, like hitting another child, bullying or inappropriate stuff and would think that she could be having a bad day because a lot of people are tired at this time of year. Maybe that's just me though!

I’d tell the school, and I say that as school staff. They won’t sack her , just have a chat about language on school grounds (at best). At worst, they’ll send an email aimed at everyone that will be completely ignored by the actual people that should take notice.