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To go for a new job as a single mum with a toddler?

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graygoose · 09/10/2025 12:52

I’m a single mum to a toddler. I’m very fortunate that I have a lot of help, including from her dad but ultimately I am still her primary caregiver. I suffered very badly with PPD and my marriage broke down when DD was a newborn so I have been slowly rebuilding myself up from that.

My work have been incredible - so understanding, giving me flexibility and I enjoy my work and my colleagues. However, another opportunity has come up and I’m about to go through the interview process. I didn’t reach out for this btw, I was essentially headhunted.

It would be a very different role and I think has better longer term prospects than my current role. But of course I won’t get anywhere near the kind of flexibility I currently have as I’ll need to build up some social capital before I can request it (my industry is very technical and corporate).

My mum thinks I’m crazy to even go in for it. She thinks I haven’t recovered enough from my PPD and that I should stay put until DD is older. I feel torn even though I haven’t even interviewed at the bloody place yet! Am I wasting everyone’s time even by taking an interview? Or is it really not that deep? And is it insanity to move to a new role in my personal situation? 5 years ago I wouldn’t have given it a second thought, do I need to readjust my expectations of myself?

TLDR; AIBU to go for a new job with less flexibility as a single mum with a toddler?

OP posts:
Jellybunny56 · 09/10/2025 13:15

Have you thought about what life would look like with less flexibility? Have you worked out how much it would cost you to pay for things like wrap around clubs/after school clubs etc, to see if financially you’d be okay with less flexibility?

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