DP’s reaction to my PT posting progress pictures

[Hanhan2]

I’ve lost nearly two stone since starting with a PT earlier this year and with my agreement, he posted progress photos of me which I was tagged in on social media.

I felt really proud of my progress and was happy to share the results - I’d never have had the confidence to do so previously so it was a big thing for me.

My partner got really funny when he saw it - said things like that shouldn’t be for other peoples eyes, his family will see me ‘partially dressed’ and he thought it was generally inappropriate.

It has really soured what was a big thing for me. Does anyone see where he’s coming from or am I right to feel a bit put out by his reaction?

He’s being a prat.

He should be proud of you. Ask him why he isn’t proud and supportive!

YANBU. Watch out OP your dp will be trying to sabotage your progress next!

Would you walk around the house when staying with his relatives, or with his relatives staying at yours in the same clothes as you’re wearing in the pictures?

If you would, fair play. And he’s being daft.

If you wouldn’t, then I can see how he’s slightly perturbed by you posting those pictures for general public view online.

Well done OP on your brilliant achievement - you are right to feel proud of yourself and celebrate this. It sounds like he's either jealous of your success or concerned that now other men might find you attractive (and that you might leave him)

Agree with scary monster. If you are in normal clothes I think it’s fine. Underwear - I can understand his point.

I wear clothes to the gym ( and pole class) I wouldn’t wear at home in front of in-laws but I have also worn a swimming costume around them in an appropriate setting, it’s all about context really

I’m on the fence only ever see posts like this as a marketing tactic. Did you get a discount for using them? It’s a bit exploitative imo
I bet l more people say no than yes.

I hope he paid you for using your images to promote his business. Seems a bit exploitative to me.

No I wouldn’t, alluding to @Gizlotsmum’s reasoning.

No I was happy with them being posted for my own reasons and if it helps his business out too, then brilliant as he has done a lot for me.

I'm afraid I see weight loss as a personal thing, a personal achievement. And I would find posting photos of it on social media very egotistical and unnecessary. So I can understand your partner finding it off putting.
It would be what it said about your character that would be upsetting to me. Not the actual photos.

@Hanhan2 presumably you were in normal gym gear in the photos?

I was in a sports bra and underwear (my face wasn’t visible)

It's unlikely his family are likely to be looking the trainer's/ gym website and even if they were presumably you were wearing regular gym kit and not looking like an advert for Only Fans.

Your DH is being a muppet.

I will play devils advocate and can see your partners point of view. I would not post these photos of my body to be scrutinised online, and I wouldn’t like it if my husband did too.

It sounds like you are in clothes that are more revealing than what you’d normally wear in front of family and friends?

I also suspect that there is an element of jealousy/ possessiveness/ embarrassment for your partner, that another man has taken these photos and now other men in particular will see your body in some state of undress.

Oh you were in underwear? I assumed gym gear. Im on the fence now. I admire your confidence, though.

Sports bra is fine, underwear no. YABU.

Well done on your progress OP!

I think if you are comfortable with the photos then that is ALL that matters. Your body to show off as you wish, your partner gets no say in my opinion. I bet it’s no more revealing than a bikini from what you’ve described anyway!

Do you think he feels threatened by your weight loss? It’s quite common sadly for partners to get insecure if they feel their other half is improving themselves.

He doesn’t get to control what you do with your own body or who sees you in your gymwear. It’s a progress photo, not an Only Fans account. And you’ve put the effort in, you’ve done really well, you’re allowed to be proud of yourself and think you look good - have an ego about it, it’s hard work. Feeling good enough about yourself to want your PT’s customer group to see the achievement and that they’re a good PT is absolutely normal.

ETA: I’ve seen plenty of my in laws in their gymwear, I run and swim with SILs, BILs and MIL when I’m in town. Even FIL has seen me coming in from a run. None of us are appalled about Lycra and some skin.

Underwear? That would be a no from me. If my dh was parading on SM like this I would be very unhappy.

I don't see anything wrong with it. My hairdresser often puts before and after photos on social media, it's quite normal. I don't expect to be paid. I'd also see it as a compliment as he obviously thinks you've worked hard and it shows.

I wouldn't be impressed with your DPs behaviour. It seems very controlling to me.

If I was wearing underwear in a pic online my DP wouldn’t be happy - and to be honest, I would understand it. But, you said your face isn’t visible. Are you tagged in it? If you are, It’s basically the same thing as your face being in the picture.

Is your arse out in your hairdressers photos? If not, then it’s very much not the same thing.

I wouldn’t be particularly happy with my husband posting photos in his underwear, nor would he be with me doing it- you can show progress while wearing clothes.

Her face wasn't visible, it's only an arse, and no I wouldn't mind. I put holidays snaps up and I'm wearing bikinis in those. It's her body, no one should dictate what she does.