to ask what you have done with jewellery from an ex?

[MegsDancer]

My ex partner gave me a lot of jewellery - beautiful pieces that I wore all the time when we were together. After the break up earlier this year I put them away as I couldn't imagine wearing them ever again without thinking of him.

Now I'm wondering if I could wear some of them again. What have you done with jewellery from an ex? Do you feel you can still wear it or are they too tied to your past relationship?

I always gave any such jewllery to friends I've really liked as a sign of my appreciation of them. Anything given to me for engagement or a family heirloom would be returned; none of my abusers gave me anything to return before they were gone.

If they had, I'd have probably sold it too.

Sold it and bought tiles for my fireplace 🤣

I am very unsentimental.

If I like it, I will wear it. If I don't like it, and it is precious metal or gemstones, I would keep it in case I ever need emergency funds so I had something I could pawn or sell or barter if the economy really tanks.

If its costume jewellery, I'd probably chuck it or donate it, unless it was a lovely vintage piece or made by a collectable designer.

Kept them. Wear some every day.

Nice jewellery is nice jewellery. I don’t get sentimental about these things.

Sold it and went on holiday me and dc aged 18 months was a lovely holiday. Exdh had left me in pregnancy, denied dc was his (even though we'd had ivf) so i never wanted to wear the jewellery again. If it was different circumstances I may have kept it /worn it.

I kept a few things and still wear them - others I had remodelled or sold when I bought something better - I’m not sentimental and only wear jewellery that I love

Engagement ring I still have, when I looked at selling previously I wouldn't have gotten anywhere near what it is worth so it sits in a box, my nephew used to use it as treasure when he was little, might be worth looking again at selling the gold and doing something else with the stones.
Another diamond and gold ring from same ex I sold the gold and used the diamonds in a new platinum ring so it is entirely different.

i also have a ring, earrings and a couple of necklaces from another ex, I wear the earrings - couple of times per year but the necklace very infrequently and never the ring, they wouldn't have as much value as the other items as are only semi precious stones

I left it all in a jewellery box at my parents house, nothing of very high value but several items from 2 long term relationships when I was younger, all bought for £100-£200 each I’d imagine. My DD4 took a shine to them all one day whilst we were visiting and they now reside in her musical ballerina jewellery box with all the other usual tat a four year old would possess! She puts them all on regularly. My lovely DH hasn’t a clue 😂🙈

My friend sold her engagement ring. She was royally ripped off by the jewellers but we went straight out and got rip roaringly drunk on the money she got.

I have a bracelet from a brief fling/friendship that I wear every day. Been with DH 21 years so that’s a long time since I got it. Luckily DH isn’t bothered and we’re now both good friends with the person that gave it to me.

Engagement ring is in the top of my wardrobe, I should sell it, it’s been there 31 years, lol

Yes, get it sold and treat yourself to something nice. Why let that money just sit doing sweet FA?

XH only bought me my wedding and engagement rings. Sold the wedding ring but i'm keeping my engagement ring for DD. I have worn it a few times since our divorce (because it's still a nice diamond ring!) but I wear it on my right hand.
I also have a couple of pieces from a ex boyfriend that I wear, but I sold some of the stuff he bought me because I knew it was worth some money and I was bitter at the time.

I think I initially saw it as a symbol of my strength to get away. I liked having it there, but it’s meaningless to me now, after so long.

I’m wanting a new motorbike, I should sell it and put it towards that, another symbol of having strength to do something new.

Well, diamonds are forever.

Possibly to do with the nature of the relationships. Whilst they were ‘serious’, I was the one who left. I don’t think I’d have felt differently had that not been the case though tbh, as like I said, I’m not sentimental. Wearing the pieces doesn’t make me think of whatever ex gave them to me, it’s all just jewelry I like 🤷🏻‍♀️

Returned one engagement ring, the other is still in a drawer but I’m considering having it made into necklace now I’m over the relationship.
I don’t wear jewellery from my most recent ex but have recently re started wearing jewellery from exes from years ago as they are a distant memeory and not my most recent heartbreak.

basically - sell if of decent value, if not then keep to wear when you’re a couple more boyfriends down the line

It languished in a drawer for years and I eventually sold a few years back to a jeweller. I kept the expensive watch as that's not really 'jewellery' in my mind!

Yes!

I think mine might be because I know exh didn’t put that much thought into his purchases, and one ring was inherited, so they aren’t so bound up with him as a person 😁

What I didn’t anticipate was DS (he’s only 11 though) thinking he ought to have the rings to give to his own future partner - you’d think the engagement ring from your divorced parents would be seen as somewhat jinxed!

What I didn’t anticipate was DS (he’s only 11 though) thinking he ought to have the rings to give to his own future partner - you’d think the engagement ring from your divorced parents would be seen as somewhat jinxed!

Well yes - I was surprised that William proposed to Kate using Diana's engagement ring! Charles and Diana had an unhappy marriage so I wouldn't have wanted that ring. I don't know if Kate ever wears it.

Passing on a family heirloom to a child following divorce is a different matter but Diana's ring was bought new!