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DLA spending

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Anonmom812 · 08/10/2025 09:52

My daughter recently was awarded DLA.. She has just turned 16, the award is for £412 every 4 weeks...
She gets £25 a week of it for spending and another £20 a week for her bus ticket.
(I have tried giving it her weekly to help her learn how to budget as when she has it all at once she often tends to spend it all at once and then had none left for the rest of the month)
The rest of the money I split between extra food (she often won't eat the same as everyone else) music subscription for her (her special interest), savings etc (incase she needs clothes or other things etc)

She always gets to the end of the week and has ran out of money so am I being too tight with it?
I don't want to be controlling but I also don't want the money to be wasted on take aways and the corner shop

This is new to us so please any helpful suggestions or thoughts are welcome

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BlueandWhitePorcelain · 11/10/2025 15:38

Rosscameasdoody · 11/10/2025 14:54

Please don’t tell us you’re another poster who really believes that PIP assessors who are all medical professionals, are so gullible that they will swallow these ‘bare faced lies’ wholesale with no medical evidence to back up what the claimant is saying. Everything written on the application form and claimed in the face to face assessment has to be backed up with evidence. Assessors aren’t stupid, and neither are the DWP. The assessments are based on need, translated into cost. There are rigid rules for doing so and I find it baffling that so many people think these benefits are just handed out wholesale for next to nothing.

I know that, I attended the PIP interview with DD2 with severe MH problems. I had to rearrange the interview, because the first time she’d been in a S136 suite for suicidal behaviour (I can’t remember which attempt it was out of the 50 plus).

She was turned down, as it was before she was diagnosed with ADHD (and it is very disabling for her); and the case where the courts said the DWP was discriminating against people with mental health problems.

She’s also been diagnosed with complex PTSD, as a result of bullying at work, and been admitted twice as an inpatient this year!

I have spent enough time attending MH assessments in A & E, and meetings with consultant psychiatrists about her, to know these people are not going to be taken in by fakers!

Justchilling07 · 13/10/2025 01:50

LadyKenya · 10/10/2025 15:07

Neither do I. I can only think that they have swallowed wholesale, what the media has fed them, and believe that disabled are receiving a lot of money, and they resent that. It does not help any disabled person, when the rhetoric doing the rounds at one point, included spinning the outright lie, that people were getting a motability car, just for 'mild anxiety'! Disabled people are just low hanging fruit, for these people to vent on.

Yes, totally agree.

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