To want Brits to spell 'mum' the British way?

[Kudosss]

This really. Why are people spelling it Mom now-a-days? This isn't America.

My 14yo calls me Mommy and my 16yo calls me Mama (not the posh way—more like Mumma). I don’t police what they call me.

@shuggles not just North American English.
South African English too.

I was just going to say about the Brummie spelling, and then I remembered I am from the north east and 'mam' looks so normal to me that I forget it's only here that we use it!
We say mam, so we spell mam. I am an in-betweener though. Mam is more Geordie and I used it as a child, but in the vaguely posher area I live in now, it's always mum. My own (small to medium sized) kids call me mama but they're transitioning to mum and it feels like a new role.

@Kudosss

There is no British way. Depending on which country you were raised in you will pronounce and possibly write the word differently, I know that family in parts of Scotland definitely sound nothing like family and friends in the Home Counties, in England.

And then even within countries you will have variants, so my friends and family in South Yorkshire all use the word 'mom' in written and spoken English. Again this is completly different to friends in East Anglia.

I would be interested to understand, where did you get the idea that everyone in Britain had the same accent and always wrote and spoke words with the same meaning in exactly the same way? With 4 different countries (if we're talking UK, rather than just Britain by itself) and a fair number of regions within each constituent country, the prevalence of regionality in accents and written word is abundant and always has been.

Yes some words are becoming more frequently used in the UK from American influences.
But so far on this thread as far as I've seen no-one calls their mother 'mom' except because of regional norms, not because of American TV. Just because it isn't formal English doesn't mean it isn't a British English word, it is not just a word we used in 1600s and abandoned and it's started to come back because of American usage, it never left the west Midlands, it is a British English way of shortening the word mother. Just because the Americans use the word also doesn't mean it is only American English

Im British, a welsh speaking one. I hadn’t realised that there was a British way to say it.

does mam count?

I'm both mom/mommy and mum, depending which child.

My mum was mum but also "mi mam sez..."

Will people for pity's sake stop going on about "mum" being spelled "mom" or "mam"? "Mum" is spelled "m-u-m", "mom" is spelled "m-o-m", and "mam" is spelled "m-a-m". This isn't about spelling; it's about the regional variations within the UK, in which familiar, affectionate term people use to address or refer to their female parent. Which is, truthfully, fuck all to do with anybody else other than child and parent, and absolutely nothing for anybody to get their knickers in a twist over! 🤷‍♀️

I must admit, I had no idea it was pronounced 'mom' in other parts of the UK, but my excuse is I'm from down south and rarely go north of London. I always thought anyone on mumsnet saying 'mom' was from the US, so I am quite enlightened by this revelation. Puzzling though, is my Irish husband says 'mam' but pronounces turkey burger as torkey borger.

I say/write mum, however my childrens dad is from Birmingham and has always said 'mom'. It's not solely an American thing.

My 17 year old just sent me a text message.
I'm "Maman" today it seems 😂😂😂

My older two went through a phase of calling us Madre and Padre when they were smart arsed teenagers. 😅

Ex Brummie here. You’ll find a lot of people from the West Midlands say Mom or Mam.
We call the bread rolls cobs too 🤣

Mom in the West Midlands, and much of Staffordshire. Pronounced and spelt that way.

Personally, I’m sick of people saying ‘Brits’ instead of ‘Britons’. It has become so normalised now that I’m just an old fart moaning about it while nobody listens. Even the BBC can’t be arsed getting it right.

I don’t use mum ever. My mother is Mammy or Mam and so am I.

I’m in Staffordshire & the only “moms” I know belong to brummies.

I grew up in South Staffordshire. Everyone said mom.

That’s interesting. I’m south staffs born & bred (and am now 50) literally nobody says mom here.

Apart from friends from Birmingham.

I’m in my 50s. Grew up in a working class mining town on the edge of Cannock Chase. My parents were immigrants, and didn’t use the English words for “mum/mom”/“dad”, so we must have picked this up from our peers. Everyone spoke with Black Country accents.

Rugeley? My MIL (who incidentally is known as mom) was evacuated to family there in WW2. From Birmingham. So there is definitely cross over.

Yes, that’s right. That’s interesting about your MIL. There was a lot of wartime history I wish I had tapped into when I lived there, but I moved away at 18 and rarely went back.

In Birmingham and environs, there have always been many Moms.

So it's not just American!

For that matter, many people in northern England and in Wales say Mam.

I grew up in Walsall, so it's always been mom for me. My Mom's now dead now, but she'll always be my mom.

Regional differences in language are real and etymology is fascinating 🤷‍♀️