mumsnet- judgemental again and need to understand SEN in adults

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Poster yesterday talked about being sad that jobs required qualifications and despite the fact that she can write reasonably well,discussed her inability to get basic qualifications.She described being unable to process information and remember faces and names and failing GCSE's again and again. Some replies were trying to be helpful but some basically told her she needed a different mindset, could try again, ask for more help, or had she been lazy at school etc.If it had been their kids with issues mumsnet women would have been very different but an adult woman got some unthinking and sometimes insensitive advice.
The poster had been proactive but was now despairing.Some people can write well but cannot recall faces or remember people and have to be told repeatedly the same thing.It is very frustrating for people they work with but it is not their fault.I know this as a teacher who sees some kids who will never be employable, except in very simple jobs and sometimes not even then.They can come from all classes.Tech has not always made things easier for them
.They can present as reasonable and employable on the surface.Mumsnet (like society) expects people to conform and all learn and operate in the same way.It is not because they are lazy or stupid but they simply cannot do what is asked of them.We are all very different and learn differently.Show some empathy

Two things:

This is a TAAT so your points should be made on the thread in question.

You are othering the people you are talking about, not cool.

Show some empathy.

I saw a post eariler op stated she was autistic, and commenters (most not all) took the piss out of how she behaved.

Lots of people on here seriously lack any empathy.

I was reading that thread and I think the mood changed when she said she wanted to be a police officer, even though she (says that she) has no ability to learn new things.

It annoys people when some people devalue professions that they see often, as if to say "how hard can that be?"

I'm a teacher and we get that a lot. Everyone thinks it must be so easy to be a teacher until they try it.

Being a police officer requires knowledge of the law and policies and statistics and all sorts of other things, much harder than scraping a pass in English GCSE.

It’s a difficult one, OP. I’m someone who favours tact and politeness but whenever there’s a thread about how rude and blunt AIBU is, most pps seem to prefer it that way. Therefore it’s not the best forum if you’re vulnerable or sensitive in some way. I’d never dare ask for advice or opinions as an OP!

So, bearing that in mind, if OP has stated that they are incapable of learning things (their assertion) it’s difficult to be both honest and positive about their employment prospects. Apart from unskilled labouring jobs, which might still require some learning, it’s hard to see what they could actually do.

Isn't it funny how autistic people are supposed to be the ones without empathy, but it's actually non-autistic people who seem to lack it? (Not all non-autistic people, of course!)

I'm autistic. Autistic people don't lack empathy - we just express it differently.

Just to add - I'm agreeing with you