To have moved closer to family and further from boyfriend

[Redfox2]

A few years ago I made the decision to move a couple of hours away from my partner of 3 years (at the time) to be nearer family.
He would like us to live together but only in his area. I don’t want to move there for various reasons. It would be further from my family again and also I haven’t lived with anyone for many years and am not sure I want to. He’s upset but won’t compromise on where we live if we lived together. We are both over 60, I have children and he doesn’t.

I think your relationship is doomed.
He’s selfish and might he be insidiously looking for a later-life nurse?

As we get older we start to think more about future proofing our life. Stay near the support of your family, dont move to be with such a non-compromising individual. Dump him. Plenty more fish in the sea.

You don’t have to live together to have a successful relationship. It doesn’t sound that you are so far apart geographically that it could work. However, I think there are more problems than just this. He sounds very inflexible and I think he is the one being unrealistic expecting you to move back away from your family again at this stage in life. The fact that he doesn’t have children of his own probably also means he doesn’t have a very good insight into how important your relationship with your children is.

Thank you for all your comments and advice. It’s been really helpful to hear that the majority of you are thinking the same as me. It’s sometimes when living on your own, to get an independent perspective. I have a few trusted friends who I confide in and they say I shouldn’t move but very useful to get the views of others who are not close to me. Thank you all again.