Swore at my sister for no reason

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We were in the supermarket earlier and sister said she needed pie. I assumed she meant a meat pie so asked if she wanted fresh or frozen. She said fresh and started walking off - I said “meat pies are down here” so she said “pizza”. I said “you said pie” so she said “yes, pie, pizza, whatever you want to call it” so I just snapped and said “it’s a fucking pizza, you know it’s a pizza, so why call it a pie??”

This follows years of her calling stuff the wrong name for attention. Or using American phrases randomly.

She was obviously pissed off that I swore at her. I realise I was out of order and apologised. She initially accepted my apology but is now not answering messages. AIBU to just leave her to it rather than chasing forgiveness?

Another total non-event.

Yes I think so too, hence why I’m perplexed that she’s carrying it on

Leave her to it. Attention seeking nonsense. Reminds me one of my sons in his 30s insisting on saying trash and I shout at him that it's fucking rubbish.
Luckily it's not something we talk about often we're not weird.

I don't understand how one gets attention by calling something the wrong name.

She said she wanted pie, she clarified that she meant pizza, your response should just been "oh okay," and then just let her go.

Even if she was doing it for attention seeking purposes you didn't have to give it any attention.

Because she’s calling it pie on purpose as Americans do that 🙄 yes in isolation it sounds petty but she does this stuff all the time. Normally I ignore her but yesterday we were in a rush and she had me looking for pies when she knew full well I wouldn’t know she was on about pizza

Perhaps leave your sister to do her own shopping from now on?

Is your temper normally this hair-trigger?

If so, maybe she’s just tired of having you rage at her.

Like a lot of adult siblings, it sounds like the pair of you revert to being bickering children when you’re together.

speaking on behalf of America-we don't call it pie here either. Never ever has anyone said ooh I'd love a slice of pie and meant pizza. We always mean pecan pie (or should imho, its the best pie in existence)

Pizza pie may be used on menus, signage or to convey an old-fashioned theme but it is not said in conversation. Your sister can email me for more current americanisms anytime.

This is a little unhinged.

Are you just abit fed up of her in a few small ways that are crowding in on you a bit? Do you need a bit of space from each other to remind yourselves that you like each other and not to feel bogged down?

Do some parts of America say pie maybe?
I remember hearing it called that in some film. I remember because I was confused by it 😅

I'd say she did it for a reaction, and she got her stupid reaction. Don't apologise again, leave her to her performative attention-seeking, and stop feeding it. She's being childish.

If it was my sister i'd tell her to get over herself, and if she did it again she'd get a thump on the arm (a play thump obvs).

its used in ads and occasionally on restaurant menus but nobody says pizza pie, unless we're being silly. Like nobody would ever order a 'pizza pie'

It is used often in print/media idk why. I'm thinking of movies like Moonstruck, they'd have probably said it in that kind of movie. It may have been more common in the 40-60's?