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To be confused about consent TRIGGER SA

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IPutASpellOnYou · 06/10/2025 19:27

I saw a friend over the weekend who has begun dating again after a long period. I asked how it was going with one guy and she said.. It’s so weird how you have to ask before you make a move now, examples bring, can I hold your hand, can I kiss you, can I touch your leg ect ect.
This is news to me but I’ve been married for years. I also said when I spoke with my son about consent my advice was.. You need enthusiastic consent, if you’re kissing a girl and touch her leg, if she pushes you away it means stop, not carry on until she gives in. I thought this was correct and my friend was being over the top but I’ve just googled it and it seems she’s correct.
Like I said this is news to me, is this a common behaviour now when it comes to kissing/sex?

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TheGreatWesternShrew · 06/10/2025 23:36

I mean humans are as varied as flowers so everyone will do things differently. But technically, the only way to absolutely know you have consent is, yes, to ask. Otherwise they may have been feeling pressured, have frozen etc.

Of course most people don’t ask outright before a kiss but I’d say most people check before they have sex.

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