To worry about my child being born around Xmas

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I am pregnant and due right in between Xmas and NYE, so a baby born between let’s say 23 Dec and 2 Jan is looking like a very real possibility. I know how due dates work, I know baby might come November or might stay in till later in Jan but… likely scenario is those dates.

for those born on Xmas Eve / Day or Boxing Day or NYE / NY Day, or perhaps if you know people well born on those dates, how bad is it? Is it an issue at all? What did you like or dislike about it as a child? Adult?

I just worry that the baby (once they’re no longer a baby, obviously) will dislike that their bday party will always be far from actual birthday, that it’ll inevitably mean less presents as people will clump bday and Xmas gifts as one, or that people are never really celebrating their birthday, more celebrating Xmas or NYE if they’re born on 25 or 31st.

My mother is born on January 19th and her Christmas and birthday presents had always been joint throughout her childhood. She would have separate birthday parties with her friends, but the gifts from parents and other relatives were always joint. It wasn't till college years when her friends planned a surprise birthday party for her AND got her the gift after already having a Christmas gift exchange! She says she'll never forget them doing so.
Once you're an adult you stop caring about celebrations as much, and a smartshow 3d video becomes enough at this point, but a child would be fine with having their birthday party apart from their actual birthday as long as you explain it properly.

One of my friends does a summer party.

One literally does Birthday until midday and christmas after

We just go with the flow each year.

Its very common for school children not to have thier friend party on thier actual birthday so you can do it late or early.

My son complains he rarely gets birthday wrapping paper. He likes joint presents..

omg yes! Buy birthday wrapping paper in advance! its so hard to buy around Christmas! (also age birthday cards)

Birthday before Christmas but in December is generally the best case scenario. But largely I agree, yes, the Inbetweenmas period and very early January is likely not great for your birthday. I’m sure there are people who will disagree.

It is what it is though, OP, just forget about it.

Erm… the parents aren’t the only people in a child’s life? And as you grow older you care more about organising a party and how many people will attend vs how much of a fuss your mum is willing to make on the day?

Agree with this. We planned our family to make sure this didn't happen (and yes, that meant avoiding TTC in certain months. We didn't want the risk.

My niece’s birthday is on the 19th of December and in their house they don’t put the decorations up until the 20th for that reason.

I’d really struggle with that though as I love having my house all Christmassy for weeks in the lead up to Christmas Day!!

I’m pretty sure my sister misses having the house look all Christmassy too but it’s what she does to make sure her daughter’s birthday doesn’t get lost amongst the Christmas period.

I did this to an extent, so due date was 14th December, which I thought was about ok, could go out and celebrate with the christmas parties etc. He was nearly 2 weeks overdue 😑. I honestly dont think its that big of a deal though, you work round it. Don't stress too much OP, there are lots of kids born on or around Christmas. It's completely normal to push their parties out to January once the schools are back and just do a family celebration at xmas. October HT and summer holdiays birthdays are also a pain, for similar reasons (I have 3 of those also!)

My DD was born 27th December .When she was young it was harder as her sibling had a Summer Birthday .No real issues though ,We used to do joint presents for days.No issues since older though

The joint present cheapskates are awful. Especially if within reasonably close family.

In our family, my brothers and I all have birthdays not that far from Christmas (but not within the actual Christmas season) and we did sometimes ask for a combined present from our parents if we wanted something more expensive. That’s the only thing.

You'll work it out Op , nothing to panic about.
one of my parents was born on Christmas Day and when she was little my daughter got a bit confused and thought their grandparents dad was Jesus !

It is crap but what can you do about it?
my dd was born a bit early (18th December). I loved bringing her home to a cosy decorated house. My dh also ended up having 4 weeks off (2 paternity and his company shut down for 2 weeks over Xmas) so that was good.

My birthday is 1 January. As an adult always really celebrated on NYE to combine the two events. It’s exciting. Not a problem.

Ps. My son is early December. Always made sure the tree was up ready xx

I think as long as you manage it well then it won’t be a problem. If you make sure their birthday is fun and they get their special day about them they will probably embrace a birthday at Xmas.

My DH is 22 Dec and my DS is 28 Dec so we are experiencing both. Lots of pros and cons I guess so it depends on what you choose to focus on.

Pros
Not working /no school on birthday
Many people are off and so are available to hang out and party
Generally everyone in a good mood and willing to see friends and socialise at this time
Big joint birthday and Christmas presents /outings that I wouldn't really get otherwise (or would get a cheapo version if just celebrating one)
Can go on holiday
Birthday shout outs during Christmas events eg panto

Cons
Plan far in advance because many things are booked up over Christmas. Can't even get a birthday card in the shops.
Some ppl skint for Christmas so adding a birthday in the mix is a struggle/or may not attend party
Big flurry of presents within a few days of each other can be quite overwhelming esp for kids,and then nothing the rest of the year

My son’s birthday (who admittedly is 28) loves having a Christmas birthday) as an adult his friends are up for night out as it is usually the last day in work. As a child we did not put the Christmas tree up until after his birthday and always wrapped his present in birthday paper

A Gdd was born on 6th Jan, the day the decorations are supposed to come down, so it’s nice to have a different event to celebrate and brighten up the dreary beginning of January.

This is so funny, my sister’s birthday is a couple of day’s earlier and we always made sure the decorations were up beforehand to make it really festive before her birthday. Wonder if your niece actually minds either way.

a family member says the same. Absolutely no one in the family remembers Christmas Day as their birthday first. It’s always an AND. Also absolutely no kids are around the week after or two to have a party so they always celebrate a month before or a month after. She hated it being lumped together with Christmas.

And now she gets to cook Christmas dinner as well on her birthday. It is what it is though, what can you do

I have a Christmas baby (born in between Christmas and New year). They love their birthday, and have never felt like they have missed out. I was ott about it to be honest, there were no gifts wrapped in Christmas paper, or joint presents. Nor "your birthday at christmas" type cards. I used to take all the decs down but they asked when they were younger if the tree could stay up as they liked it. They haven't had any issues with people coming out to celebrate their birthday (we had a great turn out for their 18th) and their friends are happy to go out as it's still within that festive period. Never felt the need for a summer party. I don't do it for my other children who have birthdays close (a month or so)to the festive period.

I'm between the two and it's not a big deal - I've never known any different. My parents were very strict about forbidden Christmas wrapping to be used on birthday presents, and never got me a joint present for Christmas and birthday, which probably helps. It also means you're old in your school year which is an advantage!

My sister has a Christmas Eve birthday and didn’t like it as a child. Our grandmother then donated her own June birthday to her to celebrate then. So she had two, like the Queen. 🤣

If your kid is past 13, and is making a scene about his or her birthday falling on Christmas, then you need to teach your kid to quit being a freaking brat and be thankful that they even have the resources to have a birthday in the first place, when millions of children don't. This post is so stupid and just shows you how disconnected people are with reality.