My husband is a teacher. He has moved to work at a private school that specialises in SEN. He isn't particularly interested in SEN but its a promotion and more money. He started in Sep.
I didn't know this but teachers get a huge discount. My DC has learning disabilities and managing in mainstream to go in daily but struggles a lot. We just found out we have been turned down (at the very last hurdle) for EHCP.
We could afford the fees with the discount. The school is verynurturing, tiny class sizes.
Here is the dilemma...my H and I are barely functioning as a couple. He acts with total uninterested in me, we havent kissed even in over a year. He spent a lot of 2024 shouting at me. And now 2025 is just 2 people who dont fight cos they cant be bothered.
I want the best for my DC but if we transfer them, i can't leave. Surely any family court would say it would makes sense for him to have more custody as hr would drive DC to school every morning.
Is it absolutely awful to leave and not send DC to the school? What do I do? Im putting myself before DC which isn't right but then do I have to stay? I can't move out and let H have custody term time and me just every other weekend. DC doesnt even like H and I would rather anything than that! Am I being horrible to ignore this opportunity for DC?