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To wish MIL would either stick to what I ask for or stop asking me when crafting?

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WoodlandQuilt · 05/10/2025 19:34

I know I’m going to sound super bratty and ungrateful here, but here goes. My MIL loves crafting and especially for DS. He’s getting ready to move into his own room (finally night weaned at 18 months) so she said she wanted to make him a quilt and matching cushion and asked me what I wanted. Every time she’s asked me to pick fabrics for something she doesn’t stick to it and puts in some other fabrics as well and I didn’t want to spend ages being involved in this for her to go rogue anyway so I said that we were grateful for anything she made for him, but she said she knew I’d spent ages decorating his nursery and wanted it all to match. But now she’s made it and about 3/4 is what I chose, the rest is… not. She’s added fabrics in the most hideous (to me) football and train prints, as well as some other ones in clashing colours because he’s a little boy and boys love football and trains.

I know how much work it is to make these and it’s amazing that DS has a Nanny who loves him so much to make them and of course I’ll have it in his nursery because it was made with love. I just don’t know why she needs to chase replies on fabrics she’s texted when I’m busy at work or go on multiple shopping trips etc, only to go massively off on her own anyway. If she’s going to do that I’d rather she just made what she wanted because I find this halfway really frustrating. I’m not presumptuous enough to expect someone’s time to spend time crafting projects for me but if they off and tell me to plan something and get involved and excited about the item and then add in some completely off the wall prints in there then surely more people than me would find that annoying. And also this is where i know I’m being really shallow and petty and can’t help it but it does bother me that his beautiful woodland nursery has these garish prints and patterns that I think are hideous.

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WoodlandQuilt · 06/10/2025 10:25

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/10/2025 09:59

I agree about the transport!

I quite liked the dinosaurs and animals they had on clothes for DS when he was little though - they must still be about?

The same is true for girls though- they’re not all into flowers and princesses for goodness sake.

All kids c

If I’d have had a girl I’d have also struggled as I viscerally hate ruffles and frills and scalloped edges which so much of girls clothes. I didn’t realised I had strong views on baby clothes until I had baby!!

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