Being attracted to gay men?

[Nameychange1]

Primarily posting to see if I’m alone in this? Apologies in advance for any offence caused by this post.
I am very attracted to gay and very feminine looking men, both aesthetically and often personally wise, but mainly aesthetically.
I’m in my late 40s and married to a lovely, typical man who is my best friend and a great father to my children.
I have always felt this way, I remember in my early teens seeing the likes of Julian Clary, boy George and similar on tv and thinking they were absolutely stunning, In my friendship circle I’m definitely on my own in this but wondered if any others eel the same?

It's not my thing (Im not attracted to any men) but I very much doubt you're alone. Julian Clary was a beautiful lad!

This isn’t unusual - there have often been periods in history in which the most desirable men wore heels, makeup, wigs, jewellery and very elaborate clothes. Think of the powdered wigs and makeup of the late 1700s and early 1800s, for example. Or the curled hair and flamboyant clothes of the Cavaliers.

In the 1960s and 70s lots of flower power hippies and then glam-rock stars wore makeup and had long hair and a feminine look New Romantics and goths in the 1980s, emo rock boys in the 1990s etc were often quite feminine and pretty.

Julian Clary actually has a lot of female fans who find him attractive - about 25 years ago I worked in PR on a couple of live shows he was in, and there were quite a few different women at the stage door for him most nights who fancied him. I have to say that he was incredibly nice, and also tall (much taller than he looks on screen) and objectively has a handsome face, I can totally see why you’d find him attractive.

I was besotted with Neil Tennant for years as a kid/teen.

You are not alone. I used to love Julian Clary when I was a teenager, was very disappointed to discover he was gay. It hasn't been confirmed but I love Taron Egerton and a gay male friend did tell me he was gay but it wasn't public.

I have always been attracted to androgynous and feminine men.

I was besotted with Neil Tennant for years as a kid/teen.

As I teen I though Chris Lowe was the most beautiful man I had ever seen. I had his posters up everywhere. A lot of my teen crushes turned out to be gay.

Rupert Everett in Another Country was the most beautiful man ever

Fancying gay men is understandable: they’re completely unavailable and will never hurt you. I’ve had crushes on male gay friends and honestly, why wouldn’t I, they were great mates and had my back and that’s a wonderful quality. Of course I knew nothing could happen so it was safe ground.

However, sometimes it’s as simple as they are just very attractive. Julian Clary and Boy George were/are both beautiful men, I fancied them too.

George Michael 😍

Why wouldn't you be attracted to gay men anyway? Same as if you were a lesbian you'd likely fancy women whether gay or not.

I've always been attracted to effeminate men, who are often gay, rather than being attracted to men because they're gay iyswim. In addition I find traditionally masculine, manly men actively unattractive. I also like smaller men, even though I'm 6ft tall myself, so I've often wondered if it's that I perceive them as less physically threatening, since I hate being physically vulnerable, and find both any form of aggression, or the "protect and provide" drive of many men, a huge turn off. Not that gay men or short men can't be violent of course, but just subconsciously reading them as less of a threat.

Story of my life.

My long term friends will say “he must be gay” if I mention fancying anyone.