Pre school struggles

[ForLovingTealSheep]

Hi everyone
I have a 2.5 year old girl who ‘ s sensitive but not prone to meltdowns for now when said no or redirected , she whines a bit but accepts it . She is overly polite , always tidies after herself and often apologises if she does something wrong , she plays well with one to one toddlers , has a very advanced back and forth conversation being able to verbalise how she feels since she was 2 and now asks and answers whys questions etc . She is very curious and both overwhelmed and excited about new places which results in her not being able to sit or enjoy the place . She is highly sensitive, empathetic, imaginative, and verbally advanced. She has no issues sleeping or sharing her toys and is very sociable with kids and people but I can see she feels emotions like sadness and pain to a different level than her peers . She asks lots of questions or notice details others don’t .
She is excited for playgroups and she does a lot of parallel play .. doesn’t push or hit or cry if someone takes her toy away but she does move around a lot between activities if there’s a lot of noise and chaos whilst if it is just us she can sit for longer and books

So On one hand She has struggles with waiting in line for the playgroups and wants to go in immediately and gets really overwhelmed if she can’t like deep breathing and anxious , but she can wait for her turn on the slide . She is that sort of toddler who’s been described as “ independent and knows what she wants “ and that’s apparently a problem .
She gets panicky if her bunny falls and only parallel plays in busy environments but doesn’t kick push or bit never did . She loves talking to adults and says hello to people . Sleeps and eats extremely well . If I ask her to please stop crying she does and she follows the rules and she knows at the library to sit still and she does it IF it is only with me and no one else there like kids . She shrieks in fear if someone raises his/ her voice . If I ask her do you want food ? She says no thank you etc

If there is another child at the library she gets a bit overwhelmed not that she cries or anything but wants to get up and wander and doesn’t know what to do with herself

What do I do when I approach school

Try not to worry, she’s only little and they develop at different rates. I am not sure if she’s attending any groups without you yet? That is my suggestion for at least a year before school starts, part time is fine eg my DD’s did 9-12 each day at preschool. It’s more nurturing than school so they learn the sift skills

I work with children of this age and she sounds just like the vast majority of all of them. Don’t worry yourself, she’ll be fine OP Let her start preschool and just see how she gets on.

Sounds like a normal two year old. You don't need to do anything other than register her at pre-school and send her...

Are you the frequent poster who is obsessed that her child has autism/ADHD etc? The level of analysis about parallel play etc would lead me to believe so

You sound like a very on-edge mother, OP! You're obviously worried but I'm not sure what about. You have a little girl who is interested in things, polite, and working out how to navigate social situations. Sounds pretty normal to me. She will be fine when she goes to pre-school and learn even more.

You sound a bit over-anxious and that will rub off on your little girl so try to stay calm and take things in your stride. Your little one sound like a normal 2 year old, they are still learning lots about the world and will find some things difficult but with time and practice she will be fine. Pre school staff are very used to settling in new children and yours will soon get used to the routine and playing and learning alongside other children.