Husband gave me inappropriate birthday present in front of MIL

[Catlover11]

AIBU to suggest that knowingly allowing me to open skimpy lingerie in front of my MIL was a big no no by my Husband? I have never wished the ground would open up and swallow me like I did with this. It’s three days on and I am still cringing. He hasn’t even acknowledged this and just says she isn’t a prude and knows what happens in relationships!

Put it in over your clothes next time mil visits...
And buy dh a red leather thong for Christmas and make him open it in full view of his dps...

He needs to acknowledge that you are upset about this, and care about that because he loves and cares about you - even if he thinks he would not have been bothered if the situation had been reversed (which it can't fully be, because the cultural baggage around male and female sexuality is so different). If he's refusing to communicate, he's wrong.

I'd be more concerned he'd bought me a gift for himself. Does he make it known in company that he views you as a sex object often?

How very crass, he might as well bought you a season ticket for his football team. Did you ask him where your present was?

ick...

Not only does he dismiss your emotion about the event... but he bought you skimpy lingerie AND let you open the gift in company - he has no respect for you OR his mother. Either that or he was intending to embarrass you.

I'd be making constant reference to his mother and the skimpy lingerie, asking if he could imagine her wearing them, how would she look in them etc. Id definitely never wear them, and if think my vagina would clamp shut.

Id be re-evaluating him and my relationship

I love it when DH buys me nice underwear. He tends to buy me a brand he knows I love but find too extravagant to spend money on - it’s nice treat.

I don’t have an issue with him seeing me as a ‘sex object’ or as I see it, someone he finds sexy. Sex is a huge part of our relationship and I want it to continue to be. He doesn’t need or demand I wear sexy underwear but it’s nice to have variety.

He knows not to give me the present in front of anyone though!