AIB too sensitive? Is it just a fact of life that married friends never invite single woman to dinner parties or whatever.

[SingleYummyMummy]

I'm not even sure if I care or not. Just have made the observation that a good friend of mine is my best friend and vice versa during day light hours, but I am Cinderella when it gets dark.

Not really having a bitch or a gripe here. Jsut wondering if the world is really so rigid socially, or maybe my friend doesn't like me as much as I think she likes me! But I think she does, and she is very kind and a good friend.

It would never occur to me NOT to invite someone just becasue they are single tbh.

I assume you have children?

Single people make odd numbers at a dinner party - unless they invite another single person. Then they are afraid they will be accused of matchmaking - so its easier not to invite any single persons.

It isn't a slight on you, just easy to seperate or compartmatise singles and married.

being single does not come into it with my married friends

i invite anyone, single or married. dh is fab at matchmaking though so we try and have a few singles, nights out and dinner. hes orchestrated 3 marriages up to now, and 6 children.

have they only got an even set of chairs? in wich case yabu.

I meant, that she might say to me quite casually, ROb and Ellen are coming over tonight so I need to buy wine. No clumsy attempt made to hide the plans to spare my feelings. Even though I know Rob and Ellen too. It doesn't occur that I might be upset that I am not also invited. Do you see what I mean?! I know Rob and Ellen too as we both used to work with Ellen. (Fake names, just for purpose of making things clear)

What do you think? Put up and shut up so as not to lose the friends you have. GO out and try and make new friends in the evenings. I know the answer to this myself really. I guess there is just 2% of me that is and

OMG hifi - how many times has he married and how many dc??

Single mummy yummy - do you invite Rob and Ellen and best friend and her d/p round for the evening?

Not looking to be matchmaked. Just enjoy dinner and wine and mixed company, same as everybody else. I only ever seem to get to do chaotic lunches with the children.

Try inviting these people around in the evening and perhaps they will invite you back in the eve instead of lunch time.

ivy, do you mean my dh? hes only married me. i think

I have done, tried to organise a lovely dinner but for some reason their husbands did not come.

I guess ivykaty just nailed it. round pegs into round holes.

I am not bitter about it, jsut quite shocked really. Have been single for only a year.

hmm,i'd try inviting a few people round for an evening at yours and see what happens? maybe she doesn't realise you would like to do stuff in the evening, does she think that you would have a problem getting babysitting if you have young kids, and doesn't invite for that reason?
I have friends that i socialise with in the day but not in the evening, because we like different things, they tend to be dinner party people where i am more of a pint at the pub and chippie on the way home sort of person

Well that is a shame there husbands didn't come - bit silly really.

Its strange how people can be and sometimes it is not the people you think that will be awkard and strange about the situation ( not that there is even a situation about being single - not a disease is it!)

Maybe you're so gorgeous they think you will steal there husbands?

I get this. Not from my best friend, as her dp is one of my best friends too, but from the majority.

I am slummy scummy and crummy though, so don't think yumminess is an issue.

Well, who doesnt like to do things in the eveing!?

My friend knows I have a babysitter. I am not going to bring it up with her. I don't feel strongly enough about it to make even a tiny scene. I really don't. I like her far too much to make chippy comments about something I'm not that bothered about. I think I was just shocked at the absolute assumption that I wouldn't be hurt to be excluded. Does that make sense? Like it is so obvious that I should be excluded.

I will suggest going out for a bottle of wine and some pub food soon. I know she'd be keen to do that too. Maybe it's a relief not to have to try to keep up. But I'm not ashamed of my flat. I can make it look nice and I'm a good cook.

Something that I know would make me cross would be if I met somebody and then we are both invited round for dinner.

But I'll cross that bridge if I ever come to it!

I just wanted to know what other people thought really.

.....single parent Dads don't get invited either! Though this is in part due to the fact I can very rarely go anyway due to lack of urchin care.

Well, it is either that or my raging halitosis, 1970s dress sense and boorish conversation.

.... Let the jury decide.

Ha ha missingmyheels. I'm fairly goodlooking but they are better looking and thinner and a year younger!

Actually I wish I hadn't typed that, because I know that they both have very good marriages, I don't see their husbands as anything other than their husbands, and their husbands arent' lecherous idiots.

I've had odd numbers at dinner parties. Friends are friends and get invited regardless of whether they have a partner or not.

I think the best way to go is to through a little dinner party yourself and invite couples you like.

Then they will want to invite you back.

it is difficult. I must admit 2 or 3 couples is our norm. Usually see my single mates on other occasions. Partly coz I assume they would be bored by all the kid chat.

But you are single mum so it is different.

This strikes a chord with me because I feel comfortable with my married friends, yet I know they see me as a little different.

When I do go out with my single friends, all their sexploits and drinking stories and botox and teeth whitening stories leave me feeling very dull. I may be single but my priorities and my lifestyle are more like my married friends'.