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Not ordering my bf food

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ByCheekyAquaBiscuit · 02/10/2025 21:02

Hi,

Just wanting some feedback please.

I'll try and give as much info as I can, I'll apologise now if I'm slow at responding, I have a 9 week old baby(DD2) who seems constantly attached to my boobs, so may take some time in replying!

So as the headline suggests, i didn't order my bf food.

I ordered him food at first, along with ordering for myself and DD1. The app was messing up and I had to cancel and get a refund. Bf says he isn't hungry so not to bother getting him anything.

I go on a different app to order different food. Asked bf more than once, while ordering, and telling him where I am ordering from, if he would like anything. Again, keeps saying no.

So I order for myself and my DD. Food arrives, he comes into the kitchen and has a look and says "oh, you didn't order me anything" and walks off in a huff. I'm holding the baby while trying to eat, he will usually take her from me, but this time didn't. He just sits in the living room watching videos on his phone
I then speak to him and tell him that he can't be upset that I didn't order anything for him when he told me more than once, that he didn't want anything. I haven't just got money to throw away on the off chance he would want it and that if he wanted food, he should have said at the time. It took less than 30mins for food to arrive.
He started saying that I should have ordered him some food as he would have if it were me and just basically making me feel like I'd done something wrong.
I said to him that it feels like he's playing games with me and gaslighting me.

Am I being unreasonable in saying and feeling that way? Or do you think he is just playing games and making me feel like I'm in the wrong?

Thank you

OP posts:
Vaxtable · 02/10/2025 21:03

Sounds like you have two kids to me

ForeverPombear · 02/10/2025 21:05

Why wasn't he dealing with food whilst you had the baby?

BuffetTheDietSlayer · 02/10/2025 21:07

You’ve made a big mistake having a man like that father your child. Is he the father of your first too or has he just been foisted upon her life?

nomas · 02/10/2025 21:11

What a knob head.

Tell him to order his own next time.

zipadeedodah · 02/10/2025 21:14

You've done nothing wrong he said he didn't want food so you didn't order him any.

That said, is there anything there that he can eat? I'm assuming there is at the very least toast or cereal or pasta

TheMasterplan23 · 02/10/2025 21:15

He sounds like a sulky little brat.

I bet if you’d have ordered him food he would have sulked and asked why when he told you he didn’t want any.

Tell him there’s a cheese string and peppa pig yoghurt in the fridge.

Rickrolypoly · 02/10/2025 21:18

You asked, he said no. End of. Stop talking to him about it now and giving him attention. Don't pander to stupid behaviour.
Btw, you should have just walked in and handed him the baby so you could eat.your food.

Bringitonicancope · 02/10/2025 21:30

Just tell him to grow up OP.
What a stupid spoilt child he is. How unattractive.

sandyhappypeople · 02/10/2025 21:36

He started saying that I should have ordered him some food as he would have if it were me

The reply to that should be, "why on earth would you order me food, when I'd specifically told you not to order me anything?" "If you wanted food you should have said when I asked you, it's too late now"

It sounds like he wanted something to be grumpy about so engineered it on purpose. Don't EVER pander to it otherwise this will be your life for years to come.

Gymnopedie · 02/10/2025 21:40

He started saying that I should have ordered him some food as he would have if it were me

That's not nice or kind, that's him saying he doesn't respect what you say. He thinks he knows better.

Tell him to sod off.

Does he not respect you in other ways?

crazeekat · 02/10/2025 21:42

Man child.

Rightsraptor · 02/10/2025 22:05

He's a great big baby. In fact, I would guess he's behaving like this because he's jealous of the baby attached to your breast & he wants your attention, so he's 'playing up'. Just like a toddler.

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