Husband just told me I should be grateful he's loading the dishwasher!

[IshebeingadickoramI]

I made dinner and the plates were left on the side. I was hanging up the washing so said to him can he load the dishwasher.

I glanced over and saw he was loading it haphazardly and commented he needed to stack it differently. He then told me, and I quote: "you should be grateful I'm loading the dishwasher at all"

I made the dinner that we both ate and was hanging up our washing, yet somehow I should be grateful that he is clearing up from the dinner he didn't make, in the house he lives in!

I'm so cross but need to know AIBU? Also need some comments to throw back to him in response, as I then stormed off!!

From which party?

What a fucking twat.
My husband, who is 75, does what he can, literally.
I mentioned that in another thread.
Never once did he say I should be grateful for him shifting furniture, rebuilding upstairs, handling luggage and heavy stuff.
Neither did he ever say I should be grateful for never working and him sharing a fortune with me.

I'd stop cooking so there wouldn't be any dirty plates to put in the dishwasher. You don't want to burden the poor love, do you?

He shouldn’t have said what he said but when DH comments on how I’m doing something, it royally pisses me off, and I have been known to drop what I’m doing and tell him to bloody well do it himself then.