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AIBU lying is not ok!

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Pumkinpiecrazy · 02/10/2025 19:07

This is one of those things that absolutely blows my mind as an autistic person. Why do so many people/businesses /whatever lie and presumably think it is ok?

I take medication that if I don't have it makes me extremely painfully unwell.

I went to pick up my medication yesterday with my support worker. We were told it isn't ready but we will drop it of at yours this afternoon. 'That would be great thank you! I could come back and get it? As I only have my nighttime dose left?' But was reassured- it's fine we'll drop it off. I realised that evening that they hadn't dropped it off but thought no problem - I've got medication for tonight I'll get it in the morning.

First thing in the morning I phone to ask if it has been done so I can come and get it. I get told 'We didn't have a driver yesterday but its in the van you should get it really soon.' Oh ok, thank you, I do need it as not had my morning dose. A friend comes round and it is now 3.30 and still not come. I am now very unwell. Friend phones and is told 'it's on it's way should be there soon'. Friend goes down there at 4.30 to find it's not been made up, it was never in the van but they will do it now. By 5.30 Friend is still waiting and I'm getting anxious as to if I will get it as they close at 6pm.

I phoned my GP to see if they can send it to another pharmacy. They say they can if necessary but that according to their records it is ready to be picked up. They suggest I go down there. By now I am so desperate for this medication, in so much pain and agitation. I go down there and tell them my GP says you need to give it to me. They try and fob me off. I end up having a breakdown. Then finally I get my medication!

No idea what the issue was. But why lie? Why not be honest about whatever was going on? My GP could have sent it to another pharmacy. I could have got my medication on time. I honestly don't understand the need to lie. It is really not ok.

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londongirl12 · 02/10/2025 19:09

Sorry you had to go though that, must have been awful. I would definitely get your GP to change where your prescriptions go going forwards, and I’d also put a complaint into the pharmacy.

Pumkinpiecrazy · 02/10/2025 19:21

londongirl12 · 02/10/2025 19:09

Sorry you had to go though that, must have been awful. I would definitely get your GP to change where your prescriptions go going forwards, and I’d also put a complaint into the pharmacy.

Thank you, that's kind. I honestly try to be polite and calm and to be put in a position where you are so agitated and have to embarrass yourself in front of others just to get your medication seems so unfair to me.

I will definitely need to change the pharmacy as I don't think I could show my face in there again! It's annoying as I will have to search around to try and find one who will do me blister packs as most won't. I've been going in there for years and always friendly with the staff. I don't understand why they would lie to me?

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londongirl12 · 02/10/2025 19:25

Can you get the GP to give you the prescription, and then you take it to the pharmacy and wait for it? Might be safer than having it delivered.

Pumkinpiecrazy · 02/10/2025 19:54

londongirl12 · 02/10/2025 19:25

Can you get the GP to give you the prescription, and then you take it to the pharmacy and wait for it? Might be safer than having it delivered.

Yes, I don't usually get it delivered. I always pick it up. Will make sure not to fall in that trap again! It seemed like they were being kind saying they would deliver it - but I know now they were just fobbing me off! You learn something new every day!

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Pumkinpiecrazy · 02/10/2025 22:55

I honestly don't understand what they achieve by lying!

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Screamingabdabz · 02/10/2025 23:02

I don’t get it either op. I’m not autistic as far as I know but I really value honesty and integrity. Can’t stand gushing insincerity and excuses.

Pumkinpiecrazy · 02/10/2025 23:16

Screamingabdabz · 02/10/2025 23:02

I don’t get it either op. I’m not autistic as far as I know but I really value honesty and integrity. Can’t stand gushing insincerity and excuses.

That's good to hear! Whenever I have a situation I just can't understand I probably incorrectly put it down to autism. I just think of all the people who work there who were all going along with it! Not one person had the integrity to say 'no, that's wrong to lie to people-.

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Dramatic · 02/10/2025 23:19

I don't blame you for being so annoyed about this op, I would be too. I'm not autistic but if there's one thing I can stand it's being lied to.

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